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Walk It Out Wednesday 6/6/12

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Today is the first of many…It is the middle of the week. It is the day when many of us are ready for the week to be over and we are looking forward to the weekend. Well, we are going to turn this day into something else. It is going to be Walk It Out Wednesday.  On this day I want you to think of five things that you would like to get accomplished by the end of the night.  You can choose 2 things that you will do by 11am, another that you will do by 1pm and the last 2 that you will do by 11:59pm.  ( If that is not convenient for you, set your own goals to achieve, but they must be accomplished by 11:59pm) Now I understand that this may seem like a stretch, but let me tell you…YOU CAN DO IT!!!  All it takes is for you to trust that God will help you as you put one foot in front of the other in order walk this day out, giving it all that you’ve got.  These things can fall in any category that you desire.

Here is my list for Walk It Out Wednesday…

Morning

1.  Clean My Kitchen

2.  Have quality time with my kids without distractions

Noon

3.  Read My Bible

Evening

4.  Complete at least one assignment for one class

5.  Fold Laundry and Put it Away

After they have been accomplished, I will come back and blog about them.  Today I declare “I CAN DO IT! I WILL WALK IT OUT!!!”

 

Feel free to post your 5 things in the comment section and to blog about the on your own blog if you have one.  

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Thank you and be encouraged 🙂

Friendships…Really?!

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I’m really not sure that I want to really do this, but I kinda feel like it, so I’m gonna do it.  I have read post of many women who have the courage to take what is in their hearts and express it on their blogs.  There are women who have come up with some really great names of their blogs that express the way that I feel about somethings.  I want to say that you all give me courage to take a moment and express myself, without fear.

Recently I moved from North Carolina to Utah.  Actually it was 10 months ago.  I used to have a circle of friends that I could count on.  We would call one another to check on each other regularly.  These women were Christian women and we has tons in common.  Prior to moving, I began to feel that our relationships were growing further and further apart.  Once I left those relationships became almost obsolete in my life.  Even the women that I just called once in a while to check on and they did the same, suddenly disappeared.  I really wasn’t expecting this to happen, but it did.

I moved out here to Utah, thinking that I would be able to make friends just like I did back home.  making friends has never been hard for me, until now.  I’m not sure what it is.  It could be that I’m a black woman and the percentage of African-Americans out here is about 1%.  Maybe they don’t know what to expect, but seriously I doubt that this is the problem.  I have spoken to a few women of other nationalities that say it’s hard to make friends out here as well.  (This is somethingI’m not used to.  I come from a very integrated area…race has never been an issue) So the difficulty has cause me to experience a bit of loneliness.  With all of my friends and family on the other side of the country, it has been pretty hard.  I have my husband and my children.  They keep me company, but I don’t want to put a strain on them.  I believe that there is a natural place in the life of a woman for relationships with other women.

Recently, I made, or thought I made a friend.  This has happened a couple of times out here.  I talk to women, we hang out, let our kids play, plan on going on family outings, and then something happens that cancels everything that we have discussed.  In the past I would look at situations like this and think that God knew that the relationship wouldn’t have been a healthy one, so He disconnected it.  This may still be the case, but the truth is that, it’s really hard.  I’ve been to a church and tried to make friends, but one of the women got offended by something that I said and…to make a long story short, I no longer go to the church nor do I think that we are friends.  I honestly think that no one meant any harm, but again…it hurts.

I am beginning to think that this is a time in my life that I am not going to be connected to anyone but my husband and children and that’s ok, but God is going to have to help me learn how to do this.  I have always had my mother or someone who I could visit and spend some time with doing things that women like to do.  Now those things have been limited to text messages, phone calls, and Facebook messages…that is whenever people are available.

I hope I’m not rambling. I am just finally saying what I have been thinking.  I have found that I began rambling in my conversations.  My friends would tell me that they had to go or would not answer the phone when I called.  They would text me a message that they would call me when they were able to talk.  That is completely understandable.  They have lives, husbands, children, and other obligations.  They just don’t understand that I’ve been holding in a lot waiting to talk to a girlfriend.  I’m in my house all day with my kids.  I can’t have these conversations with them.  More than this, they don’t understand that when they finally do call me whether it is to just say hi or to talk about an issue that they are having, I take time out of my schedule.  It has never been convenient to maintain relationships.  I have spent hours on the phone with them when they needed me, but now that I need it, where are they…WOW!!!  That’s the first time that I put this out there like that.  I’ve gotten text messages or calls from “friends” that needed me and I made myself available.  It would be nice if I could get the same.

Saying all of that I do realize that things may look one way to me, but may actually be another way.  I guess it just says a lot to me when I’m not getting any calls, texts, or Facebook messages from friends saying “Hey! Are you doing ok?” until they haven’t heard from me in weeks.  I used to check on people regularly.  I still love them, but I’ve decided that I’m not going to be a bother to anyone.  I have shown myself very friendly, if they want to remain friends, they know how to reach me.  I may call them to see how they are doing, but I probably won’t be talking too much…I don’t want to bore anyone or take up too much of their time.

I’m going to stop now.  This is me pouring out my heart…feeling like some tears will follow.

I have things to do, so I’m gonna get going.

Remembering to Show We Care

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It has been 10 months since I was last able to give a family member a hug that didn’t live in my house. I am over 2,000 miles away from almost everyone who really knows me. There are times when I feel alone because I miss my mom or my best friend and I want to be surrounded by those that I know love me, besides my husband and kids. I’m sure that my kids and my husband feel like that sometime as well. We have each other and we keep each other company. Essentially we are all that we need, right?! We have tons of fun together and are always there for one another, but this move was a totally new experience for us. It was our first military move away from our family and friends. In essence, it has taken some adjusting, but it was a well needed adjustment. We needed to experience life as an individual unit. We needed to see another part of the country with our own eyes. We needed to have different experiences, but sometimes we miss the experiences that we had with family and friends.

I realize that there have been times that I have wondered how much my family and I are really missed. I have felt at times that some are glad that we are gone, but then I have to remind myself that that isn’t true. We are very loved and missed by those on the other side of the country that are dear to our hearts. The more I sit and think about this, I realize that our family and friends may feel the same way.

They may think that we are too busy for them. They may feel that we have forgotten about them. They may wonder if we even think about them. This is why it is so important to find ways to show our family that we care. This can be done through text messages, phone calls, emails, Facebook, twitter, and old fashion postal mail.

I find that there are times I hear the voices of my loved ones as the smile because we have called them. I’ve s en seen them tear up on Skype because they are so happy to see us. It helps me to understand that they miss us too. Although we are miles and time zones apart, we all still care and it’s important that we each never forget it.

I guess, today my heart was with those that we love and have been far away from for a while. I am going to do my best to stay in communication with our family members because they miss us as much as we miss them.

I Don’t Agree…

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About a year ago, when I first began my blog, I found some other blogs that I though I may find interesting.  I never fully began reading the post on each blog, but I did have a few of the sent to my email.  I would normally skim the contents of the posts that were in the RSS and determine whether or not I wanted to read them and then filter them out that way.  I thought that I had picked blogs that I felt stood in the same place that I did as far a relationship with God, motherhood, marital standing, and other important issues.  However, today to my surprise, I realized that I didn’t do that with one of the sites that I am subscribed to and that I commented on today.

It was a pretty weird situation for me once I realized the mistake that I had made and I wondered how I had overlooked it before.  I first noticed it when I went to add this person of twitter.  I realized that there was something very strange about the name that she had chosen.  I figured that perhaps I was just reading too much into the subject, but then after hours of looking at other blogs, I visited the site again.  What I found saddened me because I look forward to making new connections.  I was sad because like me, she likes crafting, she is a natural haired African-American woman.  She blogged frequently.  It wasn’t until I saw all of the “pride” photos, that I realized that the thing that separated us was our thoughts and beliefs on the will of God for our lives as women in relationships towards men.  This could be thought of as a superficial issue, but it isn’t.  This means that we think very different about a lot of things.  We would not be able to walk together as women, nor to agree on many things because we are standing in two very different places.

Instead of exposing her, I am choosing to pray…I pray that God would bring her to a place of knowing Him and his love for her.  I pray that she would one day realize how she has been deceived and be willing to turn her heart back to the Father who loves her dearly.  I pray that she would make choices in her life that would result in life changing events that would propel her towards the heart of God.  I pray that she would know that I don’t hate her, but instead I love her as a child of God and this is the reason why I cannot support her blog.  Most of all, I pray that she would turn from her ways and come to know Jesus in such a way that she would begin to help others like herself come to know Him as well.

Although I don’t agree with her, I choose to believe that God will rapture her back to Himself.

Remaining Calm

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Sometimes throughout the course of life, things happen and stress can come knocking at your door at any moment.  Throughout the process of transitioning sometimes and dealing with people, things don’t always go as planned.  Since I have moved to a new state, I have had to get used to the way that things are done around here.  For instance, in North Carolina a child would have to be checked in to school by a parent.  In Utah, well the school that my son attended that is,  a child could check him or herself into school without an adult.  There are other things that are not as structured that I have a problem with because I’m not used to them.  Well, truthfully, it’ s not just because I haven’t gotten used to they yet  It’s also because I understand that the reason for some of the policies that were in place in North Carolina, were for the safety and protection of the students.  Things are a lot different out here.

Today I had a little trouble grasping the policies that are in place at my son’s school.  I listened as that administrative assistant attempted to explain the procedure to me.  It seemed the more she said, the less satisfied I was with the answer.  The more she explained, the more I wanted to know how much the administration had fully thought through the policy.  The rules and regulations of the policy didn’t affect the parents, facility, or administration.  Instead they greatly affected the students.  It seemed like another child would be left behind.  I really contemplated taking the issue to the principal for further understanding and discussion, but then I realized that it probably wouldn’t have done any good because I was upset.  This isn’t normally  what I’d do.  I would normally take the situation further and do what needed to be done in order to work out the situation, but I decided not to do that this time.

Sometimes, it’s hard to just let things go.  When upset about a thing it is often easier to talk or think about it and then try to remedy the situation.  This time it took a lot for me to just let the situation work itself out on its own.  I decided to stay calm, rational, and ultimately…unresponsive.  You may not understand the point in reacting this way, but this was just not worth it.  If you knew the situation, you’d understand why, but more discussion of it isn’t even worth it right now.  I guess I just needed to write it out.  I had to get this off of my chest and this was how I decided to do it.  So, what’s next???

Now we just remain calm and move forward.

The Scarlet Thread

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20120603-113047.jpgThis year is the first year that I have set a goal for reading. I’m currently in school and my family stays pretty busy, but after doing some research and trying to plan my days, I came across something that suggested that I should always make time for “sharpening the saw.” This term and idea was coined by Stephen Covey. I will be discussing this further in another post, but for now, I will say that it means doing what is needed to get rest and take a moment to have fun too. Fun is healthy you know?! Well, the right type of fun anyway. My reading goal is apart of me sharpening the saw. Yes 15 books is a bit much, but why not give it a shot?

The book that am reading now is “The Scarlet Thread” by Francine Rivers. She is a wonderful writer. All of the books that I have read by her have sucked me into the world that she has created and that is what I enjoy most. Sometimes it’s like going on an adventure. So that you know what the book is about, here is the summary that is included on the back cover of the book:

Young pioneer on the Oregon Trail. She is filled with anger at being uprooted from her home.

Two women, centuries apart, a joined together through a tattered journal as they contend with God, husbands- even themselves- until they fall into the arms of the One who loves them unconditionally.

Doesn’t that sound interesting?! Well, I can’t wait to read it. Honestly, it may take me a while and I may have to push myself at first, but I want to read this book and I’m going to…

Feel free to join me.