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The Facebook Post That Got My Attention

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Today, while in Facebook, I came across this post. The person that posted it was asking for comments. She wanted to know if it was too much to ask. The only comment I could think of was

it’s not too much to ask if you are willing to do the same

I guess, it just caused me to think of how many people desire something in life and from other people, but aren’t willing to consider the amount of commitment and effort that it will require. I even wondered if this particular person would be willing to do the same for someone else.

I’ve had to ask myself this question before. It’s a question that everyone should ask themselves before they get married because this is the type of commitment that marriage requires. Some people view marriage as a contract, but they are highly mistaken. Marriage is a covenant. It is a lifetime commitment that goes beyond self and into the future generations to come.

This type of commitment requires each individual to dedicate themself to the other person no matter how hard it gets. Society has mad it really easy to decide that things are simply too hard and that it’s time to give up. I think people should consider what type of commitment they want from another person and ask if they are willing to do the same.

Personally this is the commitment that I have made to myself, my husband, God, and my children. I will stay married to my husband no matter how hard it gets. This doesn’t mean that there is no concern of the unknown, but this is what I expect from him and so it’s what I, too, am willing to give.

What About Respect?

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I am at this place in my life right now where being a woman, a wife, a mom, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a friend, a cousin, a niece…whatever role I fit in is about the level of respect that I give and receive in return. In this place, being treated any kind of way is not acceptable. It all matters. I am even convinced that I feel this way because I don’t want anyone to disrespect my children. Yet how can I properly teach them boundaries and what it means to be respected if I have never truly made my boundaries known and had people respect me, the way I desire?

For years, I’d make excuses for the actions of others that hurt or changed my life in detrimental ways. I never held them accountable for their actions or wrong doings. Instead by making excuses, I simply excused them. Seeing and understanding this now, I am saddened. I can’t blame people for the way in which I allowed them to treat me. It was my responsibility to say that I had enough or felt disrespected. I believe I always felt that I needed some sort of validation from those people because of my lack of self acceptance.

Even now I deal with this, wondering what people will think. Will they think I’m right or wrong? Will they see my point or misunderstand me? We they see purpose in what I am saying or find me to be another voice speaking into the wind without an ear to listen.

I don’t know or understand my reason for feeling this way, but I plan to find out. I care about people but I want to be respected for who I am as well. I don’t want to demand that respect, but I believe that I, like all other individuals, actually deserve it as a human being.

My tendency is to feel that I will have to make someone respect me, but the truth is that I am not responsible for another individuals actions. This makes me wonder what God says about respect and how he defines it… I should look into it. Then I’ll know what He says.

 

I Don’t Agree…

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About a year ago, when I first began my blog, I found some other blogs that I though I may find interesting.  I never fully began reading the post on each blog, but I did have a few of the sent to my email.  I would normally skim the contents of the posts that were in the RSS and determine whether or not I wanted to read them and then filter them out that way.  I thought that I had picked blogs that I felt stood in the same place that I did as far a relationship with God, motherhood, marital standing, and other important issues.  However, today to my surprise, I realized that I didn’t do that with one of the sites that I am subscribed to and that I commented on today.

It was a pretty weird situation for me once I realized the mistake that I had made and I wondered how I had overlooked it before.  I first noticed it when I went to add this person of twitter.  I realized that there was something very strange about the name that she had chosen.  I figured that perhaps I was just reading too much into the subject, but then after hours of looking at other blogs, I visited the site again.  What I found saddened me because I look forward to making new connections.  I was sad because like me, she likes crafting, she is a natural haired African-American woman.  She blogged frequently.  It wasn’t until I saw all of the “pride” photos, that I realized that the thing that separated us was our thoughts and beliefs on the will of God for our lives as women in relationships towards men.  This could be thought of as a superficial issue, but it isn’t.  This means that we think very different about a lot of things.  We would not be able to walk together as women, nor to agree on many things because we are standing in two very different places.

Instead of exposing her, I am choosing to pray…I pray that God would bring her to a place of knowing Him and his love for her.  I pray that she would one day realize how she has been deceived and be willing to turn her heart back to the Father who loves her dearly.  I pray that she would make choices in her life that would result in life changing events that would propel her towards the heart of God.  I pray that she would know that I don’t hate her, but instead I love her as a child of God and this is the reason why I cannot support her blog.  Most of all, I pray that she would turn from her ways and come to know Jesus in such a way that she would begin to help others like herself come to know Him as well.

Although I don’t agree with her, I choose to believe that God will rapture her back to Himself.

One Moment

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On a normal bases there is so much for a mother to do. There the cooking and the cleaning. The tending and the mending. There are always things that have to be done. It can get a little bit overwhelming at times and that’s the truth. Yet I am also reminded that there is another truth. God will never put more on me than I can bare. Yes times may get hard and we may struggle, stumble and fall. Do you know what we must remember? There is someone readily available with outstretched arms to pick us up at any time.

It is so hard sometimes to remember that we are not alone, but it’s true. We are not alone in anything. There isn’t anywhere that we can go away from the presence of God. Now I don’t say that to sound cliche. Instead I say that a recognized truth in my own life. I have been through some hard times. Afraid to discuss them I hid and felt alone, but He was there. He was always tugging on me to take a minute to come to Him. I was kind of afraid. I had been hurt by so many people that I didn’t want Him to hurt me too. What I needed to realize was that He would never hurt me. In spite of all that I had ever heard from another individual, God isn’t like that.

He cherishes me. I am special to Him. He says that I am the apple of His eye. Do you know what that does to the life of an individual that feels like everything is falling apart? If not, I’ll tell you. It give them hope. It says that someone cares and that is important. There were times when I felt so small and wanted to give up, but He just won’t let me quit. What a loving God! He always finds a way to encourage me.

Today I want to encourage you to stop and realize that you are loved. You are not alone. If you need anything ask the One who can provide it. He is faithful. I can’t even count how many times He has helped me. There have been so many times where He would just tell me that He loves me. I know you may be wondering what I mean. But in my heart I would hear the sound of the Lord telling me that He loves me. The great thing is that He has enough love to share. He loves you too!