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When you’re finally ready to do it…

October 14, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Have you ever had a time in your life where you keep on waiting on someone to do something. You didn’t want to overstep any boundaries or make anyone feel bad, so you just kept on waiting? Then when you were finally tired of waiting and decided to do the thing yourself, they did it.

That is what happened to me this morning. I had been waiting for the gardeners to come and take care of the yard. I had been doing it myself, but we went on vacation for 3 weeks and I thought they would take care of the yard. Once we returned from our trip, I found weeds galore. My bushes were unkept and my yard looked horrible.

This disappointed me because the gardeners are paid to keep up the yard. I planted beautiful flowers before in the yard, but I guess I had expected them to do their job especially since I was gone.

I had been waiting and waiting, mostly because I didn’t have the time to do it and also because I didn’t want to do their job for them. Then yesterday, I decided that today, I would go to the store and get the flowers that I really wanted. I would take the time today to plant the flowers and do my yard.

To my surprise, this morning, at 8am, the gardeners were outside doing everyone’s yard.

Can you say frustrated? That’s how I felt…

I decided that I would let them do their job and just continue on with whatever they left me with. That thought was a good one, until I heard the chopping.

I went to my window and saw them ripping out my beautiful pink flowers. I could feel them ripping them away in my heart…that’s when I couldn’t take it anymore. I opened the door and asked if they were really about to rip out all of my beautiful flowers. The gentleman told me no. He said that they were just trying to get ready for the fall. I didn’t like the idea of them gutting my yard, but I decided to let them do it anyway.

There are a few reasons why I want to share this with you. I learned a few things and I’m hoping that you will find the lessons helpful.

Reason #1: Perspective

The first reason is that sometimes people are waiting on us to do things. They wait and wait, patiently, frustrated, and trying not to overstep our boundaries. Then when we are finally ready to do the job, they have planned to do it. We show up ready to work, it is almost too late.

If this is a situation that you find yourself in, look at the situation from this perspective. Try to communicate. The other person cannot read your mind.

Reason #2: Make a Decision

I am sure that the gardeners were busy with their other jobs. They probably had already set the date on their calendars to go out to the homes and prepare each garden for the fall. It just so happened that I took too long to do what I was going to do. I didn’t know what they had planned and they didn’t know that I was also waiting and planning.

We have to either let someone do the job that they are supposed to do or hurry up and do it ourselves. Both situations are not going to work together…at the same time. Only one person can do the job… Only one plan can work.

If you find yourself in this situation, decide what you are going to do and stick with it.

Reason #3: Trust God

This reason is the one that stood out to me the most. There are times when God is doing something that I do not understand. I’m not sure what is happening because He has not revealed all of His plans to me. Yet, I know that His plans are to prosper me. (Jeremiah 29:11)

All I see is weeds growing, things not being done, and my impatience driving me up the wall. Yet, I do not realize that God has it on His calendar to do something in my life, His way. I could try to hurry up and do it, but I might mess it all up.

Waiting on Him is not easy, but this is His job, to work in my life; to take care of me, as my Heavenly Father. He does what only He can do. If I wait on Him, He will take care of everything and have my garden looking beautiful and ready for the Fall…yet it won’t be a pretty sight while He is ripping up all of my weeds and trimming all of my bushes. He might have to gut a few of my beautiful pink flowers because they are not needed or can’t survive the next season. I just have to trust Him and move out of the way so that He can do what He is going to do.

If you find yourself in this situation or can identify with my sentiment, simply, trust God.

Think about it..

When I first started this post, I asked you if you had a time when you were waiting on someone to do something, but you really were planning on doing it yourself. Hopefully you have now thought about each perspectives and not just your own.

Can you see the godly perspective?

That is the perspective that is most important. Waiting on God is wisdom. Moving out of the way so that He can do what He desires it’s the best thing to do. His plans for us are the best plans that anyone could ever have for us, including our own plans.

As I waited inside of my house, with the blinds closed, I wanted so badly to have my hand in my garden. Yet, I restrained myself, because I thought it was best. If you find yourself in a similar situation, be encouraged because you are not alone.

I hope you found encouragement in this post. Share your thoughts with me in the comment section.

Thanks for reading…

Read to and with your child…

September 30, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 3 Comments

This post is going to be the first in, what I hope to be, a series of posts presenting and discussing children’s books. Today, I just want to introduce the concept…

In my home, we take a lot of time to read. Every month, my children get a book allowance and visit the library. We have a reading area in our home and spend time reading everyday. Well, just about everyday. 🙂 My children read for a set amount of time when they come home from school and I read for at least an hour a day. I try to encourage my children to read in various ways.

As we take time to read, I have found such great joy in reading to my children. Not only do I enjoy reading with my children, but I often find that I learn something new, as well. I have also recognized the benefits in reading with my children.

Here are a few benefits of reading with my children

I get to connect with my children through, what we normally find to be, a great story.
I get to hear how much they are improving in their fluency and vocabulary.
I give them an opportunity to share something with me that they enjoy about the story.
I am able to explain some of the hard topics that they find difficult to comprehend when we read together.
I am also able to spot situations, placed in books, that I find conflicting to what we believe and what we teach our children. With this, I now have an opportunity to teach them the differences between what we have read and what we believe. (This one is one of my favorites)

In this series, I will be sharing books that I have read with my children. I’ll be discussing the topic of the books and doing a mini review of the book. Sometimes, I will even share thoughts from my children on the books. My hope is to encourage you to read to and with your children.

Today, I would like to encourage you to take some time away from your busy schedule to read to your children. I am not telling you when to do it, how to do it, or for how long. In our house, we don’t normally do bed time stories. Instead we do afternoon or quiet-time reading. My children can also read at any other time of day that they want. I am simply suggesting that you take some time, if you don’t already, to enjoy a nice story with your children. Perhaps you can take a trip to your local library, book store, or used book store to find some hidden treasures.

Whatever you decide to do, get excited about reading and enjoy sometime connecting with your children through a great story.

Do you have any children’s books to recommend? Let me know in the comment section. I’d love to hear from you.

Reflecting and Preparing

September 28, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 4 Comments

Have you ever had a situation in life that you did not want to deal with?

Maybe you felt like you could just wait it out and time would bring a solution…

Let me be the first to say that I know that feeling.

I’ve dealt with somethings in the past few years that I, honestly, considered burying deep within my heart and a secret treasure box somewhere.

Yet, I found that the more I considered not dealing with it, the more it changed me.

Now this wasn’t a single occurrence. It was something that happened a few different times in various situations. As it happened, I kept wondering how I was supposed to handle the problem.

What I found was that I had to deal with it. I had to take the time to allow myself to feel the emotions. Those feelings became the beginning of my process.

From there, I had to talk with someone I trusted. This was someone who I knew would not only listen, but also pray for me and encourage me along the way. I had to begin to reflect on my life so that I could grow and change.

Reflecting

Reflecting, not simply on the occurrences of the past, but also on the situations that had transpired within me. I had to bring myself to a place where I knew how the things that were said and done affected me.

This process of reflecting was not an easy one. There were times, during reflection, where I wanted to avoid the pain of remembering what happened. For the memories seemed to harvest the feeling that caused me such great pain.

Although I did not want to go through the process, I knew that I would have such great freedom after I did.

Cast your cares on God, for he cares for you. ~1 Peter 5:7

One of the reasons why reflecting and self-reflection are so important is that you cannot cast upon God, what you do not know exists.

See, when we give our concerns, fears, anxieties, heartaches, and heartbreak to God, He will take care of them. However, when we do not know or refuse to identify the cares that are driving us crazy, we also choose to hold on to the cares. We decide that we are more powerful alone and don’t need God to solve the problem.

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. ~Psalm 55:22

If you can see this clearly, reflecting is a tool of freedom. Without it, we are unable to see primary aspects of ourselves, needed for liberty. Without seeing those areas, we cannot submit our selves to God so that He can free us. Our hearts have to go through the reflection process in order to begin preparing for what is next.

Preparing

After reflecting on the situation and coming to terms with the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that have been experienced, it is imperative that we begin to prepare ourselves for freedom.

Freedom is a choice.

That statement is the first one that we must accept as we prepare ourselves for liberty. See, we can each choose to be prideful, stubborn, hard-hearted, impatient, and fearful. No one will stop us from feeling this way.

Honestly, it is our right to feel anyway that we desire.

However, if I am to move forward on my journey of healing and freedom, I must choose to be humble, tender-hearted, patient, willing, and full of courage. You have to make the same choice if you want freedom.

Freedom will also require us to forgive others. Although it is very hard, each of these choices will unlock the door to our future and prepare us to walk in the place God calls us to.

Now I started this conversation with you by asking if you had ever found yourself in a situation that you didn’t want to deal with. My question for you now is, do you think you are a little better equipped to deal with it, after reading this?

I hope your answer is yes.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you found it helpful.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please share them with me in the comments section.

Expecting the Unexpected

September 21, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

There are times in life where you know exactly what to expect.

You prepare yourself and those in your life for the event or thing that is about to happen. During those times, there is such excitement and confidence in the way that things are going to go.

Do you know the feeling that I am describing? I’m sure that many of you reading this do.

Then there are times when you know that something is going to happen. You can feel it, but you are not aware of the exact event that is about to take place. With great expectation, you await the moment of revealing, when your eyes will be opened to…it.

That’s how I feel right now.

Over the summer, I had a series of experiences that caused me to be emotionally drained. There were moments where I was very happy and others where I was not. I had so much to do and still nothing to do, at the same time.

With all of this chaos, I could feel that it was a type of attack that was coming my way to get me off track.

I really mean that. My character and relationships were challenged in various ways. All I could do was hold on to God.

Have you ever heard of a three-fold cord that is not easily broken? Well, it’s mentioned in the Bible (Ecclesiastes 4:12) and that is what I held on to all summer. I thank God for keeping me and His Holy Spirit for comforting me.

Now that we are in the fall, things are slowing down, but I have this feeling…this expectation of greatness in my heart.

I don’t know what is about to happen or what God is doing, but I can feel a rising up in my heart for something…something good.

God is about to do something in my life and in me…I can feel it.

So, I am looking forward to that new thing.

With all of the difficulties that I have experienced, good news sounds great!

I am patiently waiting…I really am.

Can you feel my excitement? I am expecting the unexpected.

Have you ever experienced something like this? Can you relate to these emotions?

I’d love to hear about it, so leave a comment below.

Thanks for reading…

Who Can You Trust?

August 18, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Everyday we go through things. Life is filled with ups and downs. When we are hurt, we can begin to wonder, who we can trust…

No matter what there is one thing that we must remember.

That’s right!!!

We must trust in Him because He will never, ever, fail us.

There are so many people that will let us down. There are so many people that will forget…

They will turn and walk away. They may give up. They may say things that are hurtful, but there is One that will never treat you this way.

He is the King of kings and the Lord of lords. He lives up to being the Best and will always exceed our expectations.

Today, I want you to remember as I am reminded…our God is great.

Never wonder again who you can trust in…Trust God because He will never fail us.

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