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Reflecting and Preparing

September 28, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 4 Comments

Reflecting and Preparing

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Have you ever had a situation in life that you did not want to deal with?

Maybe you felt like you could just wait it out and time would bring a solution…

Let me be the first to say that I know that feeling.

I’ve dealt with somethings in the past few years that I, honestly, considered burying deep within my heart and a secret treasure box somewhere.

Yet, I found that the more I considered not dealing with it, the more it changed me.

Now this wasn’t a single occurrence. It was something that happened a few different times in various situations.  As it happened, I kept wondering how I was supposed to handle the problem.

What I found was that I had to deal with it. I had to take the time to allow myself to feel the emotions. Those feelings became the beginning of my process.

From there, I had to talk with someone I trusted. This was someone who I knew would not only listen, but also pray for me and encourage me along the way.  I had to begin to reflect on my life so that I could grow and change.

Reflecting

Reflecting, not simply on the occurrences of the past, but also on the situations that had transpired within me. I had to bring myself to a place where I knew how the things that were said and done affected me.

This process of reflecting was not an easy one. There were times, during reflection, where I wanted to avoid the pain of remembering what happened. For the memories seemed to harvest the feeling that caused me such great pain.

Although I did not want to go through the process, I knew that I would have such great freedom after I did.

Cast your cares on God, for he cares for you. ~1 Peter 5:7

One of the reasons why reflecting and self-reflection are so important is that you cannot cast upon God, what you do not know exists.

See, when we give our concerns, fears, anxieties, heartaches, and heartbreak to God, He will take care of them. However, when we do not know or refuse to identify the cares that are driving us crazy, we also choose to hold on to the cares. We decide that we are more powerful alone and don’t need God to solve the problem.

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.  ~Psalm 55:22

If you can see this clearly, reflecting is a tool of freedom. Without it, we are unable to see primary aspects of ourselves, needed for liberty.  Without seeing those areas, we cannot submit our selves to God so that He can free us.  Our hearts have to go through the reflection process in order to begin preparing for what is next.

Preparing

After reflecting on the situation and coming to terms with the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that have been experienced, it is imperative that we begin to prepare ourselves for freedom.

Freedom is a choice.

That statement is the first one that we must accept as we prepare ourselves for liberty.  See, we can each choose to be prideful, stubborn, hard-hearted, impatient, and fearful. No one will stop us from feeling this way.

Honestly, it is our right to feel anyway that we desire.

However, if I am to move forward on my journey of healing and freedom, I must choose to be humble, tender-hearted, patient, willing, and full of courage. You have to make the same choice if you want freedom.

Freedom will also require us to forgive others.   Although it is very hard, each of these choices will unlock the door to our future and prepare us to walk in the place God calls us to.

Now I started this conversation with you by asking if you had ever found yourself in a situation that you didn’t want to deal with. My question for you now is, do you think you are a little better equipped to deal with it, after reading this?

I hope your answer is yes.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you found it helpful.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please share them with me in the comments section.

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Feelings, Reflection, Reflections, Uncategorized Tagged With: broken hearted., emotions, feelings, heartache, pain, reflection

Sentenced to Life

June 22, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Christ came to give us life
Christ came to give us life

This morning as I sat thinking.

I thought…

I asked God questions and I thought some more.

I meditated on the word of God that rose up in my heart and…

As clear as day, I could hear the Holy Spirit in my heart.

“I came that you may have life and life more abundantly…”

I wanted to lay my eyes upon those words because I felt that they had rejuvenated my soul.

Suddenly, I felt like I could make it through anything that life would throw my way.

Finally, I found it.  The scripture that would give me the strength to smile and be productive today.  These were the words that reminded me that the Lord cared for me, everyday of my life.

“The thief cometh not , but for to steal, and kill, and to destroy: I come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10

I know that the words said “they”, but this scripture became very personal to me.  I felt like the Holy Spirit was saying, “Makeda, I came that you might have life and have it more abundantly.”

With those words, the feelings of being cared for and loved emanated through out my being…

I must admit…there are times when I am really struggling with a thing…

In my heart, I am yearning for God to fix my issue, although, I may not even know what it is…

I long for Him to calm my soul and bring me to a place of rest…

I can feel Him calling me to that place, but often times, in order to embrace it, I must first be clear of what it is that He is actually saying to me.

I heard the Holy Spirit, but for a moment, my emotions got in the way.

It is as if I have to bring my soul to believe what it is that my spirit is perceiving from God.

That is why, I meditated.

The biblical word for meditate is to think and talk to yourself about a thing or to have a conversation with oneself.

This is what I did.

It was what I had to do.

I had t make sure that I got it.

I couldn’t spend my day feeling some sort of way that I could not even explain.

Now here I sit…knowing that God cares for me…today.

He said that He wants me to have life and to have it more abundantly…

With that I am strengthened…

 

Have you ever felt this way?

Have you ever need affirmation from God of His love and that He cared?  What did you do?  How did you feel?

Leave me a comment…

Filed Under: Christ Focused Woman, Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Feelings, Thoughts Tagged With: emotions, feelings, Thoughts

New Feelings…

April 4, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 3 Comments

I’m sitting here with my journal in front of me. I’m wondering if I want to write about what I’m experiencing right now. It isn’t anything horrible, but it isn’t great either. Do you ever have feelings about someone or something that you aren’t quite sure you want to share? I do. I have a very expressive personality, so I normally feel like finding some way of expressing my feelings and thoughts. In the midst of finding a way, I wonder. I wonder if I really want to share how I feel. Now, although I am currently blogging, I find that I don’t always want to. Its a little confusing. I look at the way that so many people are able to express their thoughts and feelings without any concern. I’m not like that. I am always thinking about what I said or wrote. I ask myself if it will be perceived as what it is. Although it may seem like it, I’m not as worried about what people think of me as I am about the truth being known. I don’t want to be seen one way if that is not the truth.

Now I know I am not responsible for the way that people perceive me, but I must admit…it is hard. The life of a mother is not easy. It isn’t the hardest thing in the world either. Being a mother and a wife add to the pressure of being a woman. When I say pressure, I am saying that the normal life of a mother and wife have a ton of different experiences attached to it. Add to that fact, being a student and a military wife. All of these things coupled together equal a balancing act that most people don’t have to deal with.

There are often a lot of things that I think of and want to blog about, but I am often not sure if I should. I ask myself how much my readers are supposed to know about me. I wonder how much they are supposed to know about my family. I guess the truth is that you can know as much as I tell you. There real question is, how much am I willing to share. This brings me back to my journal.

Today, I am experiencing some feelings that I have never felt before. I’m not quite sure how to deal with these feelings. I don’t really want to talk to any of my family or friends about the way that I’m feeling. I definitely don’t want to Facebook it either. Although I don’t really feel like writing about these feelings, I will. Not on this site, of course. I am going to journal and pray about it. I believe that by doing that, I will be able to grasp my feelings better. After grasping them, I hope to understand and deal with them. Then…I will blog about it.

I wonder how other people deal with their “new feelings?” How do bloggers deal with their emotions? How do writers find a balance between natural expression and writing? How do mothers and wives, with all of their exciting, heart breaking, loving, funny, embarrassing, emotional, eyeopening experiences find a balance between expressing themselves to the world and those around them while keeping things private. It gets kinda hard sometimes.

There are things that I want to share sometimes that I am not sure whether or not I should. Since I can’t decide half the time, I choose not to. Being in a new state offers tons of experiences to blog about, but sometimes I wonder. I ask myself how I would feel if those involved in the experience wanted to keep it private. I’ve had experiences with my neighbors, friends, family, and strangers, that I want to write about, but there is always the question of Netiquette.

Well, I may not have it all figured out, but I pray I will understand it all soon. Then maybe I will be able to talk about my feelings in more detail, but when I act or talk, I want it to be wise…

Until Next Time…

Filed Under: Blogging, Feelings Tagged With: emotions, feelings

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