• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to footer

Being Mrs. Mom™

Woman, Wife, Mother

  • Home
  • About
    • Contact
    • Book Reviews
      • Book Review Policy
      • Book Review Contact Page
  • Blog
    • Faith
    • Growth
    • Homemaking
      • Recipes
    • Integrity & Character
    • Marriage
    • Cultivating Life
  • Purchase My Book
  • Join the Academy
You are here: Home / Archives for Encourage MySelf Monday

Encourage MySelf Monday

The Importance of Being Authentic

November 27, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Be authentic…

Does that spark any thoughts in you mind?

Well, It is 2am and I am sitting in my bed typing this.  I wanted to make sure that I discussed it while it was fresh on my mind.

We all have a message.

We all have influence.

 

Some of us feel that we are less heard than others, so we begin to reach out for a bigger platform that will afford us the opportunity to get out message out to a larger audience.  Yet, many times, we never stop to think about when we will be satisfied with the size or magnitude of our platform.  When will you be satisfied with the size of your audience?

Have you realize that your message has the power to change someone’s life?

If you focus on the size of your audience, you may never say what you need to say to change the life of that one person.  Yes, one person matters.

Will you be happy if your message changes 500,000, 100,000, or 5,000 lives? How about 500?  What about 100?  What if your message reached 50 people and their lives were changed?  What if you message reached 5 people?  Would you be happy that those 5 people were always attentively listening to your message?  What if the message that you shared changed the lives of those 5 and then they, in turn, had an impact on their sphere of the  world?

Ironically, my family has 5 of the members, besides myself, in it.  Years ago, I told the Lord that I wanted to change the world…He gave me my family.  My role as a wife and mother has become the most important role in my life outside of being a child of God.  I have come to realize that nothing else can be placed above these two God-given roles.

Now although I am a wife and mother, I am also a writer.  I have come to learn that I must know my audience.  When I am talking to my family, they are my audience.  My message is for them.  However, when I am writing, my message is for a specific, God-given audience.

I believe that we have to understand and appreciate the fact that God has given all of us an audience.  Whatever it is that you do, you sphere of influence is God-given.  You don’t have to change your message in order to attract your audience.  Share the message that God gave you and watch those within your sphere of influence; receive a major impact in the way that God ordained.

Stop focusing on the numbers.  Stop thinking that no one is listening.  Those are all distractions.

When you are at home cooking dinner for you family, the message is clear…you care for them.  They hear you say, “You are worth of my time.”

When you take the time to help your children with homework or to, simply, hug them…you are sharing your message.  They hear you say, “I love you.  You are valuable to me.”

When you listen to your husband talk about his day…you’re listening.  He hears you say, “You are interesting and your story matters.”

If you are a blogger, like me, and you take the time to share a message with your audience…you are investing.  They hear you say, “Your life matters and I am honored to share my message with you.”

We all have to realize that our message is bigger than ourselves.  Whether the listener responds in a way that communicates what we are expecting or not, we have to understand the potential for our message to reach their hearts and to inspire them.

The numbers don’t matter.

I understand the statistic.  “If you have a larger number of people in your audience, the greater amount of people who might hear your message.” Yet, you are focusing on the numbers, not the message.

Let me give you a different statistic.  If you have a larger number of people in your audience, the greater number of people who may possibly encounter your message, but they might not be listening.  Yet, if you focus on the quality of your message and know your audience, regardless of the numbers, someone will most likely listen and be greatly impacted.

What I am trying to tell you is that focusing on the numbers causes us not to be authentic because we are willing to do whatever is necessary to get our numbers up.  We become blinded by the numbers and unable to see all of the people who God has placed in our lives, who are actually listening.

However, when we focus in on the quality of the message and share what God has placed in our hearts, the lives that He has foreordained, are changed…

Don’t change your message to make people listen.  Share your real message and the people who are supposed to hear it, will listen.

All of this is a choice.  Just give it a thought and be authentic…

Filed Under: Early Mornings & Late Nights, Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Integrity & Character, My Identity, Reflection, Reflections

You Are Worth It

October 19, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Know your value

A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend.  As we sat and talked, we began to discuss our roles as women today.  We looked at who we are as wives, mothers, friends, daughter, and so much more.  As if those roles had not demonstrated to us the importance of the call that had placed on our lives, we began to discuss our roles outside of our homes and relationships.

Somehow, the expectations of the world began to creep into our conversation.  We could both see how the standard of being a super, you can do it all, and be it all to everyone type of woman was infecting our self esteems like viruses injected into our veins.  We have each been spoon fed specific criteria that makes a woman successful.  There is this mold of what a woman today is supposed to look like.  There is this vision of what her home should be like.  Someone has said how her relationship should be with her husband and children.  I am not sure who has set this standard, but it seems that if we do not meet it, we, as women, end up thinking that we lack value.  We think that if we aren’t making a certain amount of money with a specific degree, driving a certain type of car, with one type of hair, and our families reflecting the magazine image, we lack value.  We feel that without these things, no one will want us, need us, or desire us.  Yet this is a lie!

Those standards are not God’s standards of women…

Today, I am here to tell you that you are very valuable and so am I.  You are worth it.

Know your value

If no one else ever tells you this, I want you to know that you are of great value.

God loves you.

NO!!! STOP! STOP RIGHT THERE!!!

Before you write off what I am saying as some cliché statement that everyone says, think about it…

Get this deep down in your heart, mind, spirit, and soul…

Jesus died for you.  Not just for the world, but for  you too…

I will wait for a moment as you think about this.

Jesus died for you!!!
Image from crosswalk.com

He did not do this in vain.  He did this with you in mind.  Sometimes we don’t realize the importance of this statement.

JESUS DIED FOR YOU!

That means you are worth His life.

You are worth more than any paycheck could ever represent.  You are worth more time than any person can give.  No one but God the Father, Jesus the Son, and our precious Holy Spirit could ever love you enough to equal your value.

The Almighty God, who hung the stars in the sky, took His time to create you.  When I say create, I mean that He pieced you together, cell by cell.

He took time planning your life and working out ever aspect of it.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!  ~Psalm 139:17, 18

 Psalm 139-17, 18I know you have had thoughts before that no one loves you or cares for you.  I know there have been times when you feel forgotten.  I know that you have had times when you feel worthless.

Let me tell you…there is One who will never forget about you.  He thinks about you all of the time.  He spends time, just sitting and thinking about you.

Did you know that He dances over you with singing?

For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” ~Zephaniah 3:17

When you feel like quitting or giving up, He will fight for you.  You are worth it to Him.  He will never leave you alone.

I just want to tell you today, from that bottom of my heart that you are worth it…all of it.

You are worth the fight!

You are worth the time!

You are worth the energy!

You are worth the love, the effort, and the patience!

You, my sweet sister, are worth the wait!

You are worth Jesus!!!

My prayer for you today is that you would be reminded, right in that place,  how precious and valuable you are.

Because…You are worth it!!!

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, My Identity Tagged With: #knowyourworth, God's love, value, worth

Reflecting and Preparing

September 28, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 4 Comments

Reflecting and Preparing

IMG_9200.JPG

Have you ever had a situation in life that you did not want to deal with?

Maybe you felt like you could just wait it out and time would bring a solution…

Let me be the first to say that I know that feeling.

I’ve dealt with somethings in the past few years that I, honestly, considered burying deep within my heart and a secret treasure box somewhere.

Yet, I found that the more I considered not dealing with it, the more it changed me.

Now this wasn’t a single occurrence. It was something that happened a few different times in various situations.  As it happened, I kept wondering how I was supposed to handle the problem.

What I found was that I had to deal with it. I had to take the time to allow myself to feel the emotions. Those feelings became the beginning of my process.

From there, I had to talk with someone I trusted. This was someone who I knew would not only listen, but also pray for me and encourage me along the way.  I had to begin to reflect on my life so that I could grow and change.

Reflecting

Reflecting, not simply on the occurrences of the past, but also on the situations that had transpired within me. I had to bring myself to a place where I knew how the things that were said and done affected me.

This process of reflecting was not an easy one. There were times, during reflection, where I wanted to avoid the pain of remembering what happened. For the memories seemed to harvest the feeling that caused me such great pain.

Although I did not want to go through the process, I knew that I would have such great freedom after I did.

Cast your cares on God, for he cares for you. ~1 Peter 5:7

One of the reasons why reflecting and self-reflection are so important is that you cannot cast upon God, what you do not know exists.

See, when we give our concerns, fears, anxieties, heartaches, and heartbreak to God, He will take care of them. However, when we do not know or refuse to identify the cares that are driving us crazy, we also choose to hold on to the cares. We decide that we are more powerful alone and don’t need God to solve the problem.

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.  ~Psalm 55:22

If you can see this clearly, reflecting is a tool of freedom. Without it, we are unable to see primary aspects of ourselves, needed for liberty.  Without seeing those areas, we cannot submit our selves to God so that He can free us.  Our hearts have to go through the reflection process in order to begin preparing for what is next.

Preparing

After reflecting on the situation and coming to terms with the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that have been experienced, it is imperative that we begin to prepare ourselves for freedom.

Freedom is a choice.

That statement is the first one that we must accept as we prepare ourselves for liberty.  See, we can each choose to be prideful, stubborn, hard-hearted, impatient, and fearful. No one will stop us from feeling this way.

Honestly, it is our right to feel anyway that we desire.

However, if I am to move forward on my journey of healing and freedom, I must choose to be humble, tender-hearted, patient, willing, and full of courage. You have to make the same choice if you want freedom.

Freedom will also require us to forgive others.   Although it is very hard, each of these choices will unlock the door to our future and prepare us to walk in the place God calls us to.

Now I started this conversation with you by asking if you had ever found yourself in a situation that you didn’t want to deal with. My question for you now is, do you think you are a little better equipped to deal with it, after reading this?

I hope your answer is yes.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you found it helpful.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please share them with me in the comments section.

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Feelings, Reflection, Reflections, Uncategorized Tagged With: broken hearted., emotions, feelings, heartache, pain, reflection

Expecting the Unexpected

September 21, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Time For Something New

There are times in life where you know exactly what to expect.

Time For Something New

You prepare yourself and those in your life for the event or thing that is about to happen.  During those times, there is such excitement and confidence in the way that things are going to go.

Do you know the feeling that I am describing?  I’m sure that many of you reading this do.

Then there are times when you know that something is going to happen.  You can feel it, but you are not aware of the exact event that is about to take place.  With great expectation, you await the moment of revealing, when your eyes will be opened to…it.

That’s how I feel right now.

Over the summer, I had a series of experiences that caused me to be emotionally drained.  There were moments where I was very happy and others where I was not.  I had so much to do and still nothing to do, at the same time.

With all of this chaos, I could feel that it was a type of attack that was coming my way to get me off track.

I really mean that.  My character and relationships were challenged in various ways.  All I could do was hold on to God.

Have you ever heard of a three-fold cord that is not easily broken?  Well, it’s mentioned in the Bible (Ecclesiastes 4:12) and that is what I held on to all summer.  I thank God for keeping me and His Holy Spirit for comforting me.

Now that we are in the fall, things are slowing down, but I have this feeling…this expectation of greatness in my heart.

I don’t know what is about to happen or what God is doing, but I can feel a rising up in my heart for something…something good.

God is about to do something in my life and in me…I can feel it.

So, I am looking forward to that new thing.

With all of the difficulties that I have experienced, good news sounds great!

I am patiently waiting…I really am.

Can you feel my excitement?  I am expecting the unexpected.

Have you ever experienced something like this?  Can you relate to these emotions?

I’d love to hear about it, so leave a comment below.

Thanks for reading…

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Feelings Tagged With: expectation, new

Thoughts on Today

August 3, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

I have been sitting here thinking of what to share with you about my day.

IMG_0440.JPG

It was very busy and full of emotional ups and downs.

The ups were about my day. The downs were about my past month.

There were things that happened, conversations that I had, and questions that I asked, which are still on my mind.

Today, I realized, more than ever, that we may not get to choose the circumstances of our lives, but we do get to choose our reactions to them.

So this is what I want to share with you today.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Philippians 4:8

The things that we think will help us act in a way that we can be proud of. The actions of others may cause us to consider doing things or saying things that are out of character, but prayer and proper thinking will help us to see life in a different light.

So try to make good decisions and have a good day.

Until next time…

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Feelings Tagged With: encouragement, feelings, my day, Thoughts

You Are More…

May 27, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

 

Sometimes we forget.

We forget that we are special.

We forget that we are unique.

We forget the times when we didn’t mess up.

We forget how much fun we are.

Sometimes we need to be reminded…

Someone sees you as amazing.

Someone thinks that you are great.

Someone wants you to shine.

…but what does it take for us to realize that we are more that we thought we were?

It takes a hit of encouragement.

I got that today. It was a dose of…you’re special.

Today through God’s word, someone told me that I am amazing and I smiled.

I smiled because for a moment I had forgotten the things that I was good at. I had forgotten not to compare myself to others. I saw their strengths and my weaknesses. I had forgotten that the standard I need to meet is God’s standard.

The word, sparked life into my being and it hit home that I am great and it’s ok because I’m not great in my own strength. I’m great in His.

Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.

With this word I realized that this is how God sees me. This is how He sees you. That uniqueness that we bring to the table makes him say this to both you and me. So…don’t change who you are. Be 100% you…ALL OF THE TIME…

And remember… You are amazing!

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself Tagged With: amazing, encouraged, loved, special, unique

Next Page »

Before Footer

Footer

What You’ll Find On My Blog

On my blog I provide encouragement about daily thoughts and concerns that are on the mind of the 21 Century Woman. I discuss topics like faith, being a woman of integrity & character, motherhood, marriage, relationships, prayer, books and more.
  • Faith
  • Marriage
  • Motherhood
  • Integrity & Character
  • Relationships
  • Prayer
  • Home
  • Encouragement
  • My Library
  • Mrs. Mom’s Blog

Being Mrs. Mom™ Copyright © 2025 All Rights Reserved · Proudly Designed by Red Word Host