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Should you consider seeking God for wisdom?

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed in your decision making?  Perhaps you were at a place where life felt unbearable.  Have you ever experienced situations that threw you out of your comfort zone and left you wondering how you were supposed to handle life, live with joy, or even move forward?  If you know this feeling or have experienced it for only a short period of time, then you have also wondered how you could acquire the wisdom that you need to move forward in life.  You may not have contemplated these words exactly, but you have tried to determine the steps that were necessary to make good decisions in your life. You began, in some way, to seek wisdom. 

This may cause you to feel a bit distraught because everyone else seems to have it together, but the truth is that everyone is searching for wisdom.  They are searching in books, movies, people, social media, and in so many other places.  However, there is one place where we, as people should turn first.  We should turn to God.  Yet, many don’t because they believe that it is inconceivable to ask the Most High God for wisdom.  They wonder if He would even consider their request.  For this reason, they continue to utilize the wisdom of men.  

Should you consider seekingGod for wisdom?

The wisdom that comes from men, that is mankind, is sensual and wicked.  It derives from the flesh and stirs up strife.  If you want to know how to destroy your life and relationships, just seek the wisdom of ungodly people, who have no desire to seek God or encourage you to do so, either.  

That being said, if you desire to be successful in life and to have some sense of fulfillment, you must turn to the Lord.  When you do, He will give you wisdom and send people your way that are full of godly wisdom, as well.  

Let’s pause for a Biblical account

I know I’m doing a lot of talking on this topic, but let’s visit the Bible for a moment to get clarity on the subject. 

Have you ever heard of Solomon?  He was the son of King David.  Prior to his birth, his mother and father had a child that died, due to the sins of his father.  As a result, his father promised his mother that he, Solomon, would be the successor of his thrown.  However, there was a problem.  David had other sons that were older than Solomon.  They wanted to be king and had no knowledge of the promise that had been made to Solomon’s mother.  Just before King David’s death, while bed ridden, one of his son’s took it upon himself to establish his kingdom, and in his father’s name.  Solomon became aware of this fact, but he remained patient because he loved the Lord and kept the statutes of his father, a wise man. (1 Kings 3:3).  

In 1 Kings 1-3, we see the situation unfold, where God sent the elders to work out the situation for Solomon.  As he waited on God to establish his place on the thrown and his father to fulfill his promise to his mother, and essentially to him, he simply trusted God.  When the kingdom of Solomon was established, he was a young man.  He had to be younger than 30 and some believe that he could have even been 12 years old.  Can you imagine what it would be like to rule over a kingdom as a young person?  I don’t think that overwhelming explains how he may have felt at times.  Yet, this is how he handled it.  

7 Now, O Lord my God, You have made Your servant king instead of my father David, but I am a little child; I do not know how to go out or come in. 8 And Your servant is in the midst of Your people whom You have chosen, a great people, too numerous to be numbered or counted. 9 Therefore give to Your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people, that I may discern between good and evil. For who is able to judge this great people of Yours?”

10 The speech pleased the Lord, that Solomon had asked this thing.  ~1 Kings 3:7-10 

One translation says that he asked God for an “understanding mind to govern.”  This type of request takes great humility, but it also takes great faith in God.  Solomon clearly felt that he was incapable of fulfilling the call of king on his own, thus he did what he knew his father, a wise man of God, would have done.  He asked of God. 

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.  ~James 1:5

God is pleased when we go to Him with our requests.  He is a loving Father waiting to give to His children.  He wants us to lack nothing and this includes wisdom.  When Solomon asked God for wisdom, the Bible says that this pleased the Lord.  Not only was God pleased, but He also responded.  He confirmed to Solomon, that He would indeed give him the wisdom that he desired and so much more.  (1 Kings 3:10-14)

 And God gave Solomon wisdom and exceedingly great understanding, and largeness of heart like the sand on the seashore.  ~1 Kings 4:29

Now if God gave Solomon the wisdom that he requested, you have to know that He will also give it to you.  He doesn’t look at you or me and determine that He isn’t going to give us wisdom.  His word says that if we are lacking wisdom, we are supposed to turn to God and He will give it to us. 

What is required to be able to ask?

Sure!  I understand that you aren’t seeking God to rule over a people as queen.  You may be asking Him for wisdom in your marriage, finances, or as a mother.  Perhaps you desire to be wiser in life.  Please make sure not to minimize your request because you aren’t being crowned as a queen.  You don’t have to be in a specific earthly position to ask of God.  You just need to have the position of a humbled heart.  

A moment of clarity 

Today, I want you to take a moment to think about how you have struggled in your mind and decision making.  It is important that you and I take the time to realize that without God, we fail miserably.  People that don’t have godly wisdom may appear to be successful, but the truth is that they are miserable and striving to achieve pleasure that will sustain them for a mere moment.  This earthly wisdom leads them down a path of destruction.  You and I cannot be like the people of the world.   We are called out and set apart, so we have to do things differently.  We have to seek God for wisdom.  When we do, He is faithful to supply wisdom and godly resources that are full of His wisdom.  

If you feel lost and confused, turn to God.  If you are unsure and afraid, turn to God.  If you need wisdom and direction, turn to God.  He is faithful and will respond to your request because He loves you and wants you to succeed more that you do.   If you are still wondering if you should consider seeking God for wisdom, you know my answer.  Don’t hesitate!  Seek God for wisdom today.

‘Tis the Season to Be Wise

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It’s that time of year again.  We are celebrating the birth of Christ, the love of family, and making sure that our hearts are merry and bright.  Still, let’s not forget all of the other things that we are doing.  We are decorating, planning, and shopping.  However, in the midst of everything that we are doing, we need to realize this one thing. ‘Tis the season to be wise. 

Why Now?

You might be wondering why we are looking at wisdom during the holiday season.  

Well, if we are honest with ourselves, wisdom is the one thing that can be lacking at this time of year which will leave a lasting impact on the next year or so of your life.  

It can sometimes feel like the real reason for Christmas has been lost in all of the ads, purchases, sales, gadgets, trinkets, lists, and things to do.  We can easily forget about the birth of Jesus, being thankful for the gifts of God, and even having a festive occasion with loved ones.  

When walking out of the house and into any store, we are bombarded with the sales of things that we really don’t need.  When turning on the television, we are shown the latest gadgets and promised happiness. 

Now is the time for us to use wisdom.  

We have to be diligent to focus on what is important and lasting. 

I’m not saying that we can’t shop.  I’m not telling you not to go to the stores.  I’m just saying that now is the time for you to think before you leap.  

How can you use wisdom today? Do these 5 Things …

When considering the season, be excited about all that is happening.  There is no reason why you should be stressed about life, if you view it the right way.  Truthfully, you could go all out and spend as much money as you want, trying to make everyone happy.  You could put up all of the decorations and lights needed to feel like Christmas is coming, but at the end of the night, you have to make sure that you feel good about what you’ve done.

I want to encourage you to use wisdom today and everyday of this season by doing these five things.

  1. Encourage those that you meet and encounter to “Have a Merry Christmas.”  It is a small thing to smile at another person and ask how they are doing.  You’d be surprised how many people are having a horrible day, month, and even year.  Smiling at them might make a difference.  Asking how their day is going and waiting for an answer might help them feel like they matter. Saying “have a Merry Christmas” might give them hope.  This is the first part to using wisdom because it’s about you pouring into another person.  It gets you out of your own head and situation, so that you can see what life is like for other people.  Not everyone is happy that it’s December.  
  2. Make lists of things that you want to purchase for family and friends, prior to spending.  While there are sales going on, you have to remember that the advertiser is not aware of your budget.  Even if they were, I’m not 100% sure that it would matter.  The sales are going to be there and everything is going to look like the perfect opportunity to get a great deal.  However, it’s your job to make sure that you are staying focused on why you are in the store.  When you don’t have a list, you can exceed your budget and if you are not careful, that could impact your life next year.  Be careful with accumulating debt for Christmas.  Those bills will still need to be paid, so don’t spend beyond your means.
  3. Evaluate your spending before you get to the register.  This might seem a bit tedious, but it’s important that you look at what you have in your cart or hands prior to getting to the register.  You may not have realized all of the things that you put in it, while walking through the store.  You can keep a calculator with you and tally up your estimated bill, so that you can spend according to what you can afford.  Don’t worry about the people around you.  We should all take a moment to do this, so that we aren’t stressing later on about the money that has been spent on impulse.  You also want to make sure that things ring up at the price that they were listed on the shelves.  Many people are over charged by the stores because the system didn’t charge them the listed or sale price.  Don’t worry about how long it takes.  If the person behind you is in a hurry, he or she can go to another line.  If the cashier is in a hurry, that’s ok.  He or she isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, so make sure that you are being charged the correct price. 
  4. Be realistic in expectations from others for gift giving.  This might be confusing, so let me explain.  You might have told someone that you want something very expensive.  Perhaps you said that you didn’t want anything at all.  Yet in reality you are expecting the most expensive, high quality item that money could buy.  It is important that you don’t encourage excessive spending from loved ones.  You don’t want them to go into debt paying for items that they could not afford, just to make you happy.  Plus, that happiness will only be temporary.  If you know that you and your husband have a budget, don’t tell him that you want something that is out of the budget.  You know what you want to do for your children or other family members.  You know the bills that you have to pay.  As a woman of wisdom, you should find something within an acceptable price range to add to your lists of desired gifts.  Even if you don’t tell anyone what you want and receive items that were contrary to what you expected, make sure that you have a thankful heart.  They thought about you and gave you something that they thought you would like.  It’s nice to have expensive items, but expensive doesn’t always mean that it’s the best.  It just means that it costs a lot.  
  5. Let your communication be in a loving and uplifting manner.  Earlier I mentioned that you should pour into other people and you should.  However, you should also work on cultivating healthy relationships and conversations with other people in a loving and uplifting manner.  It is easy to get into an argument with someone during this time of year.  People are stressed about finances, relationships, health, and so much more.  They are even stressed because they feel like they should be happy and are not. Many people have lost a loved one, are experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts, feel lonely, and lost.  They may never tell us what they are experiencing, but we want the love of God to be shared in our lives, even more at this time of year.  In your relationships make a point to let people know that you care.  Your gift for them could just be a call or an email.  Try your hardest to make peace with all people and not to hold grudges within your heart.  Remember the “Reason” for the season and share the love of God with others and with yourself.  

 I hope that you found this encouraging.  I pray that God would help you see the multitude of ways that you can walk as a woman of wisdom during this season.  Be blessed. 

Obtaining Wisdom and Hearing from God (Proverbs 1): Cultivating Life Wisdom Series Video 3

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This week on the Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are reading Proverbs chapter 1.  We are going to be learning what God says about obtaining wisdom and hearing from him.  We will also be looking at the purpose of Proverbs and understanding what God shows us about parenting.  

Are you willing to obtain wisdom from the Lord?  

Watch the video below and don’t forget to subscribe to my Youtube channel.  If you didn’t get to watch the second video in the series, take a moment to watch it. 

Come into the Light and Love Wisdom: Cultivating Life Wisdom Series Video 2

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This week on Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are taking a look at God’s invitation to His people to come into the light and love wisdom.  We learn about things that are important to God and a key concept that can be found throughout the Bible.  

You will be challenged to accept God’s invitation.  What will you choose?

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Who is in Control?

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As a woman that loves to plan, I often try to keep things orderly and functioning well.  I like my planner, my pen, and my paper.  And although I haven’t always been this way, I do my best to plan everything out.  That plan is subject to change because I am married with four children, and really, because I am a human being, living in this world.  Yet, still there are times where I am thrown completely off because of my desire for predictability and order.  

If I can be honest with you, this has to do with my desire to control situations, so that things aren’t thrown off-balance and I’m not flung into a situation that I didn’t expect or feel that I can’t handle.  Again, I haven’t always been this way, but in trying to be a woman of wisdom, I have desired to think through situations and plan how I am going to handle them.  My plan would be perfect if I set in some high authoritative place, like God, but I’m not Him.  I am merely a woman, clothed in flesh and living my life the best way that I can.

I have always had big dreams and this year, I took the plunge in to two of them.  

  1. Writing a book
  2. Starting a business

Coupled together with life, I have found myself in a place of frustration because, well, we don’t live in a box.  Although I set deadlines, things happen.  For instance, I hurt my back and could not do all of the things that I wanted to do physically, so I had to rely on my family.  They were very helpful and I am blessed to have them.  Needless to say, my schedule was thrown off.  I attempted to pull and push my way out of my physical limitations and, as it should be assumed, it took a toll on me emotionally.  

I planned and structured events and business deals, but all parties just did not have the same schedule as I had.  If I were to put it in the simplest way possible, my desire for perfection, was only that, a desire.  Perfection was not going to, nor is it ever going to happen.  

Ok.

Let me stop here for a second.  I think you and I need to allow this statement to just sink in.  

Perfection is never going to happen.

Our desire for perfection and control, literally sends our spirit out into a realm of frenzy because we were never meant to be perfect or in control of everything.  We were placed in this world with the Spirit of the Living God to lead us and guide us throughout our lives.  He is here to help us maneuver through the situations, ins and outs of life.  No matter how much we try to take the steering wheel, its not our place to be in total control.  

Think on this. 

When life is busy and we want to be…., we have a tendency to try to attempt to take the reins from God. We attempt to control life. We don’t do it purposely, but when we do this, hurry up and go “thing,” we are trying to take our lives out of the hands of God. He’s the one who makes this whole world function and yet, somewhere in our minds, we believe that we can do it better. No matter how sincere or humble we are, we have all done it at one point and time in our lives. Believe it or not, we do it again and again. Then we wonder why we are stressed.

We wonder why things don’t seem to be going right.

Where did the problems come from?

Taking our lives out of the hands of God, not following His will, trying life our own way…that’s where the frustration comes in. And no matter how giant or small of a moment it has been that we have found ourselves in this place, we have to come back.

We have to ask Him to forgive us. We have to push forward in His will, listening to His Spirit, and seeking His face. That’s it!

When we do this, with a sincere heart, laying it all before Him, He takes the reigns and fixes our lives, orders our steps, and makes life beautiful again.

That’s what the KING of the world does. He rules and reigns. He orders and fixes our hearts and our lives.

In short…maybe not so short…

Our desires send us out of whack.  The world is only doing what it does normally.  It is functioning chaotically and we are striving for it to have some sort of order.  Yet, in this process we forget that we are not all-powerful.  Perfectionism is not really an accurate picture of any human being on this earth.  It is simply and ideal.  And we all love ideals.  

Control is not really all that we perceive it to be.  It is simply that a perception.  We aren’t in control.

Yep!  I said it…

We aren’t in control.

Whether reactive or proactive, we are not in control.  It isn’t until we step into the will of God.  Taking our rightful place in His plan, using the power that has been given to us by God, through Christ, in pray and in faithful deed, that we are in control…with Him.

Faithful deed…

Not fearful actions.  We have to be living and walking in faith when we proclaim that this and that will be, expecting that it will be. 

Now…let’s do this.  

Let’s check ourselves with the word of God and see where we stand.  Let this be our continual endeavor…to be in right standing with God.

Please take a moment to read Psalm 19 below and the watch the video at the end of this post. 

The heavens declare the glory of God;
And the firmament shows His handiwork.
Day unto day utters speech,
And night unto night reveals knowledge.
There is no speech nor language
Where their voice is not heard.
Their line has gone out through all the earth,
And their words to the end of the world.

In them He has set a tabernacle for the sun,
Which is like a bridegroom coming out of his chamber,
And rejoices like a strong man to run its race.
Its rising is from one end of heaven,
And its circuit to the other end;
And there is nothing hidden from its heat.

The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul;
The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple;
The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart;
The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes;
The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever;
The judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether.
More to be desired are they than gold,
Yea, than much fine gold;
Sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb.
Moreover by them Your servant is warned,
And in keeping them there is great reward.

Who can understand his errors?
Cleanse me from secret faults.
Keep back Your servant also from presumptuous sins;
Let them not have dominion over me.
Then I shall be blameless,
And I shall be innocent of great transgression.

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
Be acceptable in Your sight,
O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.

 

 I pray that you have been blessed by this and I look forward to hearing any thoughts that you have on control.  Has this spoken to you at all?  Do you find yourself in this place, ever? How do you handle it?  Do you handle it at all? 
 
Be blessed. 🙂