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April 22, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

I know you probably are wondering what I’ve been up to because I’ve been quiet for two weeks.

If you follow me on twitter, you’d see that i haven’t been that quiet. I just haven’t had a lot of time to stop and blog. Yet, I have been writing. As I mentioned in one of my first blogs for this year, one of my goals is two write a book. I’ve been a bit busy doing that.

I must say that it isn’t easy. I have so much to say about so many different topics and life lessons, that I am trying to make sure that I don’t overwhelm the reader.

I’m having fun though.

I am also studying. I have to be encouraged on a daily basis.

I’m the type of person that is always thinking and contemplating, so I have feed my brain with positive information. I read a lot and am often using devotionals to help me. I even use them when I pray.

I’ve been doing a lot of that too. I have to..

I’m not sure if you remember, but I’m in school.

Not only am I taking one class, but I am currently taking 5 classes. These aren’t normal classes either. They are Psychology classes. O_o

It is hard attempting to understand the human brain. We are very complex people. Through in all of our spiritual, physical, emotional, and relational aspects, and you have one of the reasons why I’m praying.

Studying people causes me to ask God a lot of questions.

I’m sure that I will get my answers…soon. The more that I study and seek Him, the more I will come to know.

Then there is my knitting.

I had a few sales in the past couple of months and I had to work on the orders.

I was doing really good, but I need to get the sizing of the items right.

My customer is making it easy, but understanding that I want to give her the best product possible and giving me time to do it.

More than anything else, I am busy with my babies.

Ok, so they aren’t all babies, but they are mine.

My kids are getting big.

My oldest is a preteen and getting to the place where he needs my husband and I less. However, we are still there to help him when he needs us.

This is taking a bit of processing for me. I know that life changes as kids get older, but it isn’t my normal.

I am trusting God to help my son as he grows older.

We are training him us in the way that he should go and we are trusting God to keep him in that way. (Proverbs 22:6)

These are just a few ways that I am staying busy. You know me. There is so much more that I’m doing. However, I’m also taking time to rest and enjoy life. There are 24 hours in a day and I’m loving every minute of it.

I just wanted to do a little blog update. I’ve got some things that I want to share from my heart, but I’ll have to come back and do that another time. I have a few class assignments that I have to do before the end of the day.

Stay encouraged and find a reason to smile. 🙂

Mommy Intergration

April 8, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 1 Comment

Over the past couple of weeks I have found that the same topics are coming up in my conversations with other moms. I am married with four children and I do a lot.

I blog, crochet, knit, sew, go to school, moderate various groups, and so much more.

I know! That list doesn’t seem like a lot, but I kinda cut it short and used words to summarize my activities.

(I digress) 🙂

The point in saying all of this is that often times people think that because I have four children I have very little time to do much of anything else.

They say things like, “How do you find the time?” and “I don’t have four children and I can’t seem to get what I want done.”

Well, here are my thoughts on this.

First, let me say that I did not learn this over night. It took a some time for me to get what I am about to share with you.

We have to learn to integrate what we love and what we do with who we are.

I get it…that seems confusing, but let me explain a bit.

You and I are both individuals that are very complex. We aren’t as simple as the titles that we carry.

Simply put…you are not just a mother or a wife. You are so much more.

You are the woman that God has created you to be.

The truth is that whether we accept it or not we are who we are. Learning who we are is a great part of this process.

I had to learn who I am. I had to learn what I like and what I don’t like. I had to learn what makes me tick. What makes me smile? What helps & encourages me and what can stop me right in my path.

Again I say, this was a process.

I spent time looking at my life when it was consumed with only being a mother and a wife. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mother and a wife, but without the “me” part, it can all become a bit robotic.

I learned that my family apprecieates my creative abilities and they take joy in watching me do what I do.

Hence the “Mommy Intergration.” It is the act of incorperating mommy into my life and not the other way around. I am first myself. I am a woman that loves and serves God. I am also a wife who loves her husband. I am also a mother that loves her children. Yet still, I am a woman that enjoys crafting, speaking, reaching out to others, and making a difference in this world. (Or at least trying to)

As I mother, I make time for the things that I enjoy. I sit down to watch the television shows that I like and I allow my children to watch them with me. (This being said, I don’t watch anything that doesn’t promote a healthy godly lifestyle) As my children watch television with me, they learn what its like to just be. Not to be a mother, but to be themselves.

I do this same thing with crafting. I allow my children to sit and watch or at times participate in my crafting activities. This allows them to see that there is a creative side to who I am. They also learn that there is a creative side to who they are as well.

I’m sure you see the pattern here. I take time every month, every week, and everyday to do something that I love and enjoy. I find a way to incorperate what I do with mothering. My children don’t always have to be napping for me to do what I enjoy. They can sit with me as I do it. We can talk about it.

As I do this daily, I find great fulfillment in my life. I am constantly asking God to help me live a life that is fulfilling, pleasing to Him, and encouraging to others, including my children.

As my children see me living as me…not just mom…they learn who they are.

So, if you were to visit my home, you would find lots of singing, dancing, reading, crafting, cleaning, making a mess, playing, taking time out for self, making time for others, and just…well, being…

I hope that I was able to communicate my thoughts on this in a way that is understandable. This is a topic that I have a lot of passion about, so I have so much more to say about it. I just wanted to take a moment a speak on it.

Perhaps in the future I’ll write on it more.

I want to encourage you to find out who you are and to integrate your mommy-ing into your life. I pray that your mothering experience will be as pleasurable as mine is.

Do you every think on this topic? What are you thoughts, challenges, obstacles? Have you found mommy integration an easy thing to do? Leave a comment so we can discuss it.

Ultimate Blog Party 2014

April 5, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 11 Comments

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much for stoping by.

My name is Makeda and this is my little space on the blogosphere.

I am writing this post as a part of the Ultimate Blog Party from 5 Minutes for Moms. I am so excited to participate in the Blog Party and to meet some new bloggy friends. I’ve done this before, a few years ago, but this time its a little bit different for me…

Enough about that.

I am a mom of 4 and a wife of 1. I love the Lord with all of my heart.

I do all types of crafts. Knit, sew, crochet, scrapbook, spin, make jewelry, and so much more.

On my blog, I normally seek to encourage myself and others through my writing. I talk about my life as a mother, wife, and a woman. I discuss being 100% committed to being the me that God created me to be.

I hope that you’ll take a moment to browse through some of my writings to see if you enjoy my style of writing.

Nice to meet you and have fun at the party!

Sincerely,

Makeda aka Mrs. Mom

It’s nice to meet you.

It’s Not An Easy Job But It’s Mine…

March 27, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

As a mother, I get to have fun with my children. I get to love on them and see them grow. I get hug and kiss them and say good night.

I also get to make the hard decisions that they don’t like.

As I sat with my children last night, I thought of all of the different things that present themselves to my children on a daily basis. My boys go to school and so this means that they see and hear a lot. Think of the children that come to school and talk about the things that they see at home. Then there are the teachers with their thoughts and opinions. While teaching my boys, I’m sure that their opinions are injected at times.

Then there are the things that present themselves through various types of media…tv, radio, movies, books, video games, internet, ect..

As parents we are the filters that stand between our children and the content. We get to inspect and decide if the content is of a quality that we wish for our children to be exposed to.

I don’t want my children to be like ostriches that have to stick their heads in the sand, but I want to present them with wholesome options for entertainment.

We are training them and preparing them for their lives outside of our homes. What we allow to infiltrate the small minds today, will take up residence in their adult minds later on in life.

So, it a must that the content that my children take in, line up with the things that we believe and teach in our homes. As they grow older, we expose them to certain things and explain the various concepts to them. We have to help their minds develop in a healthy way. We don’t allow the world to train our children because the world won’t always tell the truth, especially when there is money involved.

Our children may not understand now, but one day they will. It isn’t an easy job to do, but I am honored that it’s mine and I’m proud to be their filter.

Today it is my prayer that God would help my husband and I to train up our children in the way that they should go, so that when they are old they will not depart from it. In Jesus’ name. ~Amen

What do you think of this topic? Do you find yourself being a filter for your children or do you allow them to be their own filter? Share your thoughts on this topic…

Getting It Out Of My System

March 26, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 4 Comments

Every have so much on your mind that you can’t function?

Ever have to focus on one thing, but can’t seem to because you are focusing on something else?

Well, that’s me today. I have to do a lot of school work, but my head really isn’t in it today. I can’t let it just sit. I’m really good at that. If there were a class for letting your papers sit until the day before they are due…I’d get an A. In fact, I think they would ask me to teach the class. This is actually a habit that I am working on breaking. I am trying to make sure that I am more consistent in what I am doing.

I have really big dreams, goals, and aspirations, but I often times let the fear of failure get in my way. It stops me in my tracks. I long to be so perfect at all that I do, that at times, I end up doing nothing.

OK…After writing that, I am asking myself if I really want to publish it and my answer is yes, I do. I don’t want to hide behind a lie or a fa-sad of perfection, knowing that I am a work in progress.

If you’ve read my blog any, then you know that I am on a mission to encourage myself and others to be 100% authentic. So this is my space of grace for myself today as I say how I really feel about that topic.

This isn’t even the reason why I was writing this post, but I just went there and it’s ok…

The things that I have on my mind are knitting…

Remember this sweater? Well, mine will be a bit different, but I’m still working on it. I just have to make sure that I find the time to knit. With all of my other projects, it feels impossible, but…you make time to do what you want to do, right?!

I am also thinking about working on my new web design website.

Yes, that’s right! I am establishing myself as a web designer. I will be working on the web development in the near future. However, the first step is to set up my design site. I am so excited about this! If you’d like to get in contact with me about designing your site send me an email at admin@simplyinspireddesigns.com . You can also check out the website. It will launch on April 15, 2014. The site is http://simplyinspireddesigns.com

What else do I have on my mind?

Oh not much. Just getting into grad school, reading, a few book reviews that I’ve been asked to do, my podcast, and Blog Talk Radio show, my new bible study coming up, a crochet project to be completed, a website to be updated, a proposal to be sent out, a blanket to finish, another website project, and a card to make for a special young lady. That’s about it…no there’s more. I’m just going to stop for now. None of this includes the things that I do for my family. 😉

I have a to-do list to make sure that I am not overwhelmed by it all. Oh and I’m blogging about it to get it out of my system.

Now I can focus on my school work.

Do you ever have times when you feel like you can’t move forward with something because you have too many other things on your mind? What do you do to make sure that you are able to focus? Do you have a characteristic that you are working on, like me…consistency? Share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment below.

Here’s to getting focused!!!

Have a nice day 🙂

Just Breathe

March 25, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

We all have things to do.

We have our long lists and our requirements.

We have the expectations of ourselves and of others.

We have the things we want to do for ourselves and the things that others want us todo for them.

We have the nonstop coming and going, the long waiting to get nowhere fast.

In the midst of all of this our minds and hearts become overwhelmed with the cares of this life.

When will it ever stop?

How are we able to sleep at night?

We can’t…at least not restfully…

The thoughts keep racing. We worry and fret about things that haven’t even happened yet. We aren’t even sure if they ever will.

So what should we do?

How do we stop ourselves from feeling overwhelmed and tired emotionally?

We have to STOP and take a deep breath. It will take some focus to do nothing else in that moment, but it is imperative to find a way to just breathe.

This is what I’m telling myself today.

I have a lot on my plate and to make sure that I don’t get overwhelmed, I have to remove somethings.

Before I do that I am going to take some time to rest and breathe.

I hope that you find encouragement in this as well and that you are able to do the same.

Remember…our hearts can only take so much…

Have fun in life, love what you do, run the race, kill the giants, but don’t forget to breathe…

In The Times Of Stretching

March 24, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Today I told myself that I would write a post about disappointments. I wanted to write how I handle them and my perspective about the situations that I face.

I mean, who doesn’t face disappointing situations…

Yet, I am not exactly sure how this post will come together because I am no longer just writing about disappointments, but I am also writing about being overwhelmed and our perspective of God in the midst of it.

These times are what I call “The Times Of Stretching.”

I just read a post and an email about the emotions and thoughts that we all experience sometimes. The authors posed a question. Does God put more on us that we can bear. If you want to check out the post that I’m referring to, you can do so here.

Who hasn’t felt overwhelmed and discouraged…worried or depressed?

I want to say that I believe that we have all felt this way before. I believe that in the midst of a situation or trial, the weight of a thing can feel so heavy that we don’t think that we can carry it. Yet, just because we feel a certain way doesn’t mean that it is that way.

What do I mean? Trust me, I understand that it may sound like I’m speaking jibberish, but follow me for a minute…

When we are going through any type of trial or testing, we are very uncomfortable.

It’s like having a baby…there is pain, but we are able to bear it and for those of us that don’t believe that we are strong enough to bear the pain in the end, there is a medication to help up get through it…

Life is this way as well. In the midst of a trial or a situation, we can feel like the situation will never end. Or when it finally does, we will be dead somewhere because we weren’t strong enough to make it through.

The thing is…God doesn’t expect us to do any of this without Him. He knew what we would endure and what we are made of. He placed certain things in us that only come out when we are tested and tried by fire.

Have you ever thought of the process that a beautiful piece of jewelry goes through before the beauty is revealed?

Beneath the surface of these rocks is something very beautiful, but the beauty is not exposed simply by gently holding the rock in you hand.

People search for rocks that have golden nuggets within them. Yes, they are of high value, but one of the reasons why is because of the unexpected beauty found inside of a thing that seemed to be dead and useless. Have you ever felt that way? I have…

After being tried by the fire and put through a process, something beautiful appears.

We are no different…situation, circumstances, and trials… they make us stronger. The the trial brings about perserverance. The perserverance brings about character

…for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. ~Romans 5:3-5

Now the question still stands…

Does God put more on us than we can bear?

No, he does not. He has already given us all that we need to endure the situation. There are qualities in us and the power of the Holy Spirit, coupled together to strengthen us. The question is, are we willing to go through the trial or tribulation.

No trial has overtaken you that is not faced by others. And God is faithful: He will not let you be tried beyond what you are able to bear, but with the trial will also provide a way out so that you may be able to endure it. ~1 Corinthians 10:13

Now although a way of escape has been made, we still have to choose to take it.

You know, most of the time the test, trial, and tribulation has more to do with the Word and power of God in us, than they have to do with us…

We receive the benefits of bearing, overcoming, and enduring a trial, but the trial was there to test the Word in us…

(I digress…)

What happens if we don’t choose to take the way of escape that has been provided for us at the appropriate time?

Well, we have now taken more upon ourselves than we can bear.

God was standing in front of us with a huge sign saying “Take the exit on the right.” Yet we chose to continue to veer to the left. This is where we begin to blame God for our short comings, over plate filling, and disappointments.

I do not say this as someone who has not experienced this…Trust me! I know this from experience.

It is imperative that we pay attention and get off at the right exit.

But when we don’t, we begin to experience doubt, condemnation, discouragement, and disappointment. We forget that God always has our best interest at heart and we begin to blame Him for our wrong turn. ( Did you know that sin is to simply miss the mark?)

We have all done that and I dare to say that we do it daily…that’s why we have and need a Savior.

(Again I digress)

So what are we supposed to do when we have digressed from the path and veered off just a tad bit. It is at this point that we may begin to feel a bit of anger or discouragement within ourselves. Here’s what I’ve learned from my experience and how I’ve learned to handle it…

Allow yourself to feel the way that you feel…briefly (DON’T STAY THERE)
Assess the situation…thoroughly (Ask questions like… Why? Did I contribute to it? Can I do anything better next time? How can I move on?
Pray for wisdom.
Accept your part
Ask God to forgive you & Forgive yourself and others
Make a list of the things you can do to move forward (pray when you are worried, afraid, tempted, troubled, hurting, angry, bitter, ect)
Change your mind about it. ( You have power over your own mind and you have the ability to change it. Search the word for what God says about the situation and conform your thoughts to that…this requires believing the word, HONESTLY)
Remember God can and will work it out for your good.
Commit to your plan
Remember that Romans 10:11 says that no one that puts their trust and faith in Him will ever be put to shame.
Do what you can
Let God do the rest

These times aren’t always easy. In fact they are some of the hardest times in our lives. Yet, looking back on them, we will see it differently than we feel it now.

The goal is to trust God through the stretching, remember that He is on your side, and be resilient.

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