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What about Halloween? The obvious…

October 25, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

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This image is only to display the obvious images that are present on Halloween

Today, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to say regarding this topic.  The more I thought, the more I wanted to say.  The more I wanted to say the more I thought of you, the reader.  I wondered if you would actually take the time to read this article and if you did, would you ask yourself…What about Halloween?  I wondered if you would question the things that you see and the things that are around you.  I wondered if you would see, the obvious.

Now when I say “the obvious,” I am not saying that this is something that we all see.  Instead I am saying that it is something that we should all see, but have been trained to ignore.  Thus the obvious becomes the irrelevant and the invisible.  To some degree, the obvious also becomes the ignored or the accepted.  I know, I’ve said a lot, but let me explain.

Today I took my daughter to ballet.  While there the ballet teacher told my daughter and the other children to wear their Halloween costumes to class next Thursday.  Immediately, I said, “We don’t celebrate Halloween,” and then smiled.  Another parent that was standing by me said, “We don’t really celebrate it either and someone asked me, why it’s ok for Mormons to celebrate it.” This mother is a Mormon and she knows that I’m a Christian, so she looked at me and asked why? She said, “The costumes are fun, just don’t get all Satanish about it.”  I looked at her, surprised that she actually wanted to know my thoughts and reasoning about Halloween and I began.

Every year, during the month of October, the stores are filled with images of things that are gross and frightening.  The costumes that go on sale are ones that would only frighten an adult, let alone a child.  Although many adults see these costumes as harmless, if it were not Halloween and a person was walking around dressed as a witch because she was one or an ax murder, people would run and find the nearest police officer and then go straight home.  The encounter would be considered the worst experience ever, until the next horrific occasion arose.

The Decor

During this time of year, decorations are put all over.  This is no different from any other celebratory occasion, but the type of decor is rather strange.  Skeletons, witches, grave yards, monsters, bats, spiders, blood, severed limbs…must I say more?  The images that begin to appear during the month of October are normally considered horrific or inappropriate, but this is the only time that it is acceptable.  I was told by someone recently that a man was driving around with a limb hanging out of the back of his trunk.  I’m sure that many people thought it was funny, but the truth is that he could have really had a dead person in his car and no one would have known, simply because its close to Halloween.

In my neighborhood, here in Utah, people have applied fake blood to their doors and hung skeletons from their trees.  There are multiple life-size replicas of Frankenstein, dead bodies, scary children with bleeding feet crouched on the ground, there are even chairs that rock all by them selves.  The children in the neighborhood are afraid to walk to school because of the severed limbs placed in the front yards of neighbors who have turned their homes into portraits of death.

The Representing Figures of Halloween

I have already discussed the decor that is seen during this particular time of year.  Let’s now look at the symbols and figures of Halloween.

The Witch

When you look up witch on the internet, here is one of the first things that comes up.

“Practitioners of the Wiccan religion, known as witches, exist around the world, though witches with supernatural powers are creatures of myth.” ~Ask.com

Images of witches have been portrayed all over television.  They have been in books and fairytale.  When you think of a witch, what do you think of?  I think of a woman dressed in dark-colored clothes, with a weird look about her.  I think of broomsticks, magic, and witch craft.  I think of a woman trying to conjure up a spell to control another human being.  I think of black magic.  No I am a Christian and I believe that magic is against God.  We will visit this in more detail in another article, but ask yourself what you believe for a moment about God and magic.Now that you have done that, you might be saying that I am going overboard because there is no such thing as a witch.  They are made up right?!  Think again.

Digispy.com has an article posted about a practicing wiccan that is renting her home out every night during the month of October.  Her intent is to teach people magic.  She has been practicing magic for 25 years and is a witch.

 “I’m really excited to show all my guests the true meaning of Halloween and how to get into the spirit of things – after all, who knows how to celebrate Halloween better than a witch?”
Starza will give guests a history of Wicca, in addition to personalised Tarot card readings. She is also offering spell lessons and potion-making for guests who choose to partake. ~digitalspy.com

Did you catch that? The true meaning of Halloween.

Other figures of Halloween are the vampire, the werwolf, the ghost, the skeleton, that grave yard, and zombies. Each of these figures are representations of death.  I will be writing another article on these figures.

 

The Ritual: the Candy

During the month of October candy is one of the items that quickly goes on the shelves at the grocery stores and it is sold out quick.  THose who participate in Halloween rack up on their stock of candy because they want to have a pleasing sweet treat for all of the children that will knock on their doors.

Children that will knock on their doors?

Yes…

Do you remember what you were taught about taking candy from strangers?

Do you realize what you teach your children about taking candy from strangers?

Yet every year on October 31st, parents allow their children to go door to door and take candy from strangers.  They even smile and tell the children that it’s fun…all for a celebration…what is being celebrated?

Are you getting it?

The Obvious Lesson…

For years, I didn’t know.  I walked around like everyone else, participating in Halloween.  Then I began to have a relationship with the Lord, and my eyes began to open to the obvious things that I could not see before.  Over time, I realized that Halloween was something that took all that I believed, stood for, and taught my kids, and turned it around.  On October 31, someone was making a mockery of me.  On October 31st, I stood for nothing.  All I wanted was to have fun because, well, it was fun, right?! Or was it?  If I had not been taught by the world around me that this and all of the activities that surrounded Halloween were ok, for this one day, I would have though that something was wrong.  I would have, like you, never participated in such a gory, frightening, celebration of…what is being celebrated?

I have only presented you with what you can see with your own eyes.  It is up to you to begin to look at things through a clear lens.  You have to ask questions.  If you do, you’ll get answers.

I pray that God will touch your heart and show you the truth about Halloween.

Join me tomorrow for day two of What about Halloween.


Filed Under: Halloween, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: celebrations, choices, decisions, evil, Halloween, obvious, reality, wicked

Bringing Up Children

October 25, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Have you ever thought about what it takes to bring up children? How are parents supposed to help children become responsible educated adults?  Have you ever wondered what kind of time and effort it would require or the amount of commitment that it would take?

The truth is that not to many people do.  Many people may even say, “There’s nothing to it, but to do it. Right?!”

WRONG!!!

That’s right!  I used all capital letters and three exclamation points.  I want you to think about this.  There is more to it than just doing it.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  ~Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child.  Think about training and all that goes into it on the part of the trainer and the trainee.  That means that a lot of hard work, preparation, educating, correcting, and patience will be needed.  Now, that is a lot to be required of parents, but there is more that will be needed.  Parents have to be willing to make choices and to stand behind them.  They have to teach their children right from wrong and be willing to discipline them when they are wrong.  With all of that, there is more…

The world will come up against everything that a parent attempts to instill in a child.  Here are a few examples of what parents will encounter:

Parent:  “Wear you coat.”

Child:  “I don’t want to wear my coat.  Bobby, Susan, and Jane don’t have their coats on.”

Parent: “I’m not their mother.

At this point the parent will have to decide what to do.  Will the parent give in or stand behind the decision that was originally made.

Parent: “We don’t use that type of language!”

Child: “Why not?  I heard it on t.v…”

Parent: “Because it’s wrong and foul.”

Child: “But Jane talks like that all the time and her mother doesn’t say anything.”

The parent has to decide how to handle the situation.

Parents have to talk to their children about drinking, drugs, sex, friendships, faith, morals, and so much more.

It is our responsibility to teach and train our children.  When they leave our homes, they are supposed to be responsible, educated, morally good, adults.  If you are a Christian, like I am, then our children should also leave our homes filled with faith, knowing how to pray, and trust God in all situations.  They should not be afraid to make hard choices.  In fact they should expect to and realize that making those choices will change the lives of those around them.

Training up children is not easy, but it is an honorable job.  What the world wants for my children is not what is important to us.  Instead we focus in on what God wants for them.  As a mother, I teach them to be children that will one day grow into individuals of integrity who, by their lives, will  change the world around them, for the better.

So the next time you are confronted with making a hard decision as a parent, know that you are fully equipped to do so.  The decisions that you make for your children will determine who they become and who they will be when you are long gone.

It is a parent’s job to bring up their children…

 

Filed Under: Decisions, Encouraging Myself, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: bringing up children, choices, decisions, parenting, training

What about Halloween?

October 24, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 1 Comment

Being a mother can sometimes make life a little complicated.  That being said, complicated isn’t always a bad thing.  When you are doing your best to be a good mother, complicated means that you have to make decisions that aren’t always easy or desired by others.  Well, once a year, my life as a mother becomes complicated.  See, I’m not just a mom.  I’m a Christian mom.  By that, I mean, I’m a Bible believing, Jesus loving, filled with the Holy Spirit…Christian and mother.  I do my best to filter all of my decisions through the word of God.  I am not perfect, but I am striving to walk upright before the Lord.  My family and I have tons of fun, but what about Halloween?

Every year, I am confronted with a choice.  It’s a choice that all parents have to make, Christian or not.  The costumes go on the racks at the stores, people decorate their homes, schools sing songs and put on plays, and the spooky shows come on television.  The whole time that this goes on, parents all over have to decide if they, with their children, are going to join in the celebration of Halloween.  This is when things become a bit complicated for me.  I have to make a decision based on my beliefs that goes against everything that is around my family and myself.

Since I have been blogging, I have gone through this process three times and wondered if I should blog about it.  I didn’t want to offend anyone, so I didn’t.  This year, I have realized that this is my blog and I have a right to discuss whatever I want to discuss…on my blog.

So guess what…Yep! You’ve guessed it.  I’m talking about it this year.

Seven days from today, people all over will celebrate Halloween, and in many places the celebration began October 1st.  Check out my other posts to find out more of my thoughts on Halloween.

 

Filed Under: Halloween, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: decisions, faith, Halloween, Mothering

One Step at a Time

October 24, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Last night was hard. With my husband being out if town for military duty, I found myself home alone with my kids. Now that’s nothing new, but I by the end of the night, with all of it’s ups and downs, I was really stressed. I was going to do some school work, but I ended up passing out.

20121024-100547.jpgNow this morning wasn’t much easier. My oldest son and I had to have a talk and that was stressful in itself. Now I’m sitting here thinking about the things that I need to get done for today and it seems like a lot.

Being a mother isn’t always easy. There are times when it all feels like too much and those are the times that I have to take a step back and pray. If I’m completely honest, mothering isn’t the only thing that feels like that, at times, but that’s life.

I look forward to having a better day today, which means that I have to make it happen.

I’m getting ready to sit down at my trusty planner and write out my thoughts and plans for the day. Once I do that and confidently place one foot in front of the other, I know that God will take car of the rest.

In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9

This is my scripture for today. I have to remember that God is the one that will order things as I make plans. Confidently, I give God all that I have today, knowing that He will take care of me and all that I have.

As stressful as yesterday was, today, I begin anew and refreshed. I take it upon myself to take authority in my life and not to allow any confusion. When it come in, I will not entertain it, but instead I will take a stand an move forward as God has called me to do in his word.

 

 

Filed Under: Being Mom Moments, Encouraging Myself, Mothering Tagged With: confidence, Moments, planning, trusting God

A Bit Distracted

September 24, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 1 Comment

 

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It is early, Monday morning…well, not early anymore. It was early, about two hours ago.

On Mondays, there is a lot to do and be done. I have tons of school work. The dishes need to be put away. The laundry needs to be folded. My kids need to be taken care of. Not to mention the rest of the house. Monday is also normally my day to do what I would like to do for myself. Yet, this Monday, here I am. Sitting in front of the computer, working on my blog.

I enjoy blogging. More than I enjoy blogging, I enjoy writing. I can sit for hours and write. With the keyboard at my fingertips, it is so much easier, so the time just passes by as I am telling my story. That’s why on a Monday, like this, it is extremely easy to get distracted. You know what that means? I’m getting ready to get off the this computer, so that I can be…

SUPERMOM!!!

That would be nice…but really…

Until next time.

 

Filed Under: Blogging, Feelings Tagged With: distracted, supermom, tasks

Overcoming Rejection

September 24, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

There are times in life where we may feel rejected by family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, children, and even God. This is a feeling that so many people experience, but what we have to learn is how to overcome the rejection that we feel. It isn’t easy but its something that we have to do in order for us to live a healthy, happy life and to have good, healthy, happy relationships as well.

When rejection is something that a person normally faces, there is a tendecy for that same individual to expect rejecition in life. Actions of other people become signals that rejection is on its way. This feeling can also lead to fear of expression, openess, and honesty. A person doe snot fear these things alone, instead they fear the reproccusions of the things…rejection. If this is the truth, what is a person in this situation supposed to do?

After recognizing that this is an issue and the effects that it has on their life, the person must decide whether or not they are going to be committed to themself in overcoming the fear of rejection or even dealing rejection itself. See, this person has to say “overcoming this fear isn’t about anyone else, except me.” They must ask themself if they are willing to go through the process of overcoming. Are they willing to head to head in a boxing match with the challenges that they are going to face ahead? Are they commited to this for themself, only? Hopefully the answer is yes…If so…make the commitment.

A few weeks ago I decided that I was going to allow myself to feel how I feel and be honest about it. Not to be rude or just blunt, but to be honest. I would first be honest with myself and God about my feelings. Then I would, prayerfully, be honest with others. This commitment has led to freedom in so many ways that I could not have imagined. After having a long conversation with my best friend about it, I have realized that this fear of rejection has often shaped the way that I view things. This leads to the next step…

A person must be willing to recognize that although they may feel a certain way about things, their reality isn’t a complete picture of what is really happening. There are other perspectives to take into account and understand. Sometimes, the feeling of rejection, that comes from someones actions, is just another person’s way of setting up a boundary. They aren’t attempting to reject you, they are just setting a boundary or dealing with things in their own way.

There are people like myself, who express everything. In some form or fashion, I have to express my feelings and thoughts. Yet, there are other people who sit and contemplate on things. They take time away to reflect on matters of importance. What might seem like a push away could really be that particular person’s way of saying, “I need some time to think on this.” That can be really hard to understand. We all want to talk on the phone, hang out, or spend time with people, but when someone decides that they cannot do those things because they need time to reflect, and don’t communicate that to us, it can feel like a world of rejection. So, it’s very important to understand that what may feel like rejection, may be something totally different.

Now if the rejection is real, we must ask ourselves why this person is rejecting us. Are they really saying, “no, I don’t want you?” If so, that’s their choice, but don’t take that to mean that something is wrong with you. This person may be dealing with so many things in their life that this is what’s best for you and them. If you are feeling rejected for this reason, make sure that you find and understand your worth. Affirm yourself!!! Let you know that you are worth more than gold. Tell yourself how great you are and what your best attritues are. Make sure that you understand that it’s not you who is missing out, it’s the other person. This may seem crazy, but if you don’t love you, who will, besides God? This is apart of the commitment that you made. It is to help yourself overcome. You have to see that you are truly worth it and be willing to say and prove it, to you!

Now, I want to reinerate the fact that I am not saying that a person cannot feel rejected. I am simply saying that whether or not they are truly rejected may or may not be the case. Whether it is the case or not, this person has to decide not to react in away that rejects the other person in return. This way of acting only causes a person to feel the same way that you do and besides the selfish reasons, who would want that? We must learn to love others the way that we want to be loved and not to react to them with the same treatment that we have recieved. I once heard someone say, “How you treat someone is not a reflection of their character, it’s a reflection of yours.” We don’t should not treat other people with the amount of respect that they deserve. Instead we should treat them with the amount of respect that we would want to be treated. We honor them because we honor ourselves and the Lord.

Over time rejection will become less of an issue as we learn to be committed to ourselves in our emotions and communication with others, see things from the right perspective, and remain a person of integrity. I, personally, know that this is a challenge, but it is worth it.

Filed Under: Encouraging Myself Tagged With: commitment. honesty, freedom, overcoming, rejection

Should I Revise My Blog

August 19, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

You would think that I had this all figured out by now.  I have been blogging for about 2-3 years and I’m still asking myself the same questions.  This must mean that I didn’t answer those questions, right?!  I’ve been wondering what are the boundaries that I will not cross when it comes to blogging?  What is my purpose in blogging?  Is this something that I want to pursue personally or professionally?

After thinking about some of this, I have come to the realization that the reason why I am not able to move forward in my blog is because I am also a bit stagnate in life.  Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, there are things that I must do to move forward.  I have been very hesitant to do those things.

I want my blog to accurately reflect who I am, but I haven’t been willing to be transparent about some aspects of myself.  Now, I am not talking about my family or my relationships, but myself.  Ultimately this blog is about me.  It’s about my adventure as a mother, not about my kids, friends, family, or anything else.  In many ways I have separated different aspects of what I like to do and who I am and moved them away from this blog.  I thought that my readers would not want to read about my cooking or crafting projects.  I thought that it should be separated because this is a “mom blog.”  I really enjoy crafting and blogging, but I wasn’t sure how the two would fit together without driving my readers away.

Well, it’s time to find out.  I will begin to take some new steps to improve my blog in a way that truly reflects who I am as a mother, wife, and woman.  Bear with me, I am no expert…

Filed Under: Being Mom Moments, Blogging Tagged With: being me, blogging, crafting, mommy, writing

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