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No Longer Moved 

September 13, 2016 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

We all have a propensity for self-doubt. It is apart of our human nature. We live and we learn. Sometime we win and sometimes we lose. However, these situations are not and cannot become an indicator to ourselves nor to anyone else of who we are. I used to be afraid of the judgements of men. By men, I mean people. I use to wonder what everyone would think of what I said, did, and thought. I lived in the constant bondage and fear of being rejected. No matter how sure I was of what I was doing, some how, I still doubted that it would be approved.
What I learned over the years was that I was looking for approval from the wrong source. I wanted people, in their own frailty of human nature, to approve what I was doing and who I was. I was ignorant of the fact that real approval cannot come from mortals. It can only come from the One who has the power to judge all. I studied hard to show myself approved to men. All the while wondering why God had not showed who I was to them. I must admit, looking back, I missed it. I was never meant to study to show myself approved to men. I was to study and work and live and move and be to show myself approved to God. For He is the One that stamps me with the seal of approval. And while I was seeking the approval of men, God was cheering me on in my everyday endeavors as a woman, a wife, and a mother. Yet again, I would miss it. I had not allowed His words to penetrate my being. I looked at who had walked away and forgotten about me. I looked to who had said I was not enough and I wasn’t qualified. I missed it. I should have been looking to the One who called me and qualified me. I should have looked to the One who was there and always remains; the One who said, I was and still am enough.

Today, I am able to share this because I have been through some trials and hardships. I have been hurt and realized that I allowed men and women to change what God had made in me. I have learned from my struggles and from the LOVE OF GOD. I am no longer moved by the looks, judgements, and harsh words of people. I am different because I am loved.

Today, I want to challenge you to see if you can relate. Look into your past and see if there were times and situations that caused you to forget who you were and feel less confident.  See if you have ever replaced God’s approval with the desire of being approved by men.  As you do this, realize that you need not earth any more for approval. You are loved.

Filed Under: Encouragement Tagged With: confidence, loved

Having Confidence

March 23, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

“If you believe you have a call on your life, then believe it- consistently.  Don’t believe it on Monday, doubt it on Tuesday, believe it again on Wednesday and then by Friday be ready to give up because your circumstances are not good.  Whatever your call may be, do it the best you know how, believing that you have heard from God.”  ~Joyce Meyer

Filed Under: Inspiring Quotes Tagged With: confidence, Joyce Meyer, Quote

Trusting Other People

March 4, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Source: Elev8.com
Source: Elev8.com

Trust…

Have you ever sat down to think about it?  It is a relational word.  We trust the chair, in relation to whether or not it will hold us as we sit.  We trust the car, in relation to whether or not we will be able to drive where we need to go.  We put out trust in things everyday.  Yet many of us find it hard to do the same thing with people or even God.

When you or I decide to trust someone we are saying that we don’t believe that the person is going to bring us hurt or harm.  We believe, within ourselves, that this person is trust-worthy.

Now, I am using the word trust, over and over again, but let’s look a what it means.

The dictionary defines trust as:

reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

confident expectation of something; hope

It is as if when we trust someone, according to the definition of the word, we put our faith in them.  We believe that they are able to uphold the confidence that we place in them.  It sounds very simple, but I’m sure that you, like me, find that trust isn’t always that simple.

I want to ask you a question.  How do you determine who you are going to trust?

For me this is a hard one.

I am a very optimistic person.  I find it very easy to see the best in most people.  I want to have the best experience and relationship with  everyone, but I know that this isn’t always possible.  Since this is my desire, in the past, I didn’t have a test that I put people through.  I would just trust them.  I’d give them the opportunity to show me that they are not trust worthy.  Now, I don’t recommend trying to do this with things that are very precious or important to you.

Why?

Well, what would happen if the person was not worthy of your trust?  You would have trusted them with things that are very dear to you.

I had a situation like this before.  I placed my trust in someone and shared very intimate details with them.  I assumed that they could handle the things that I had given them. I thought that they were full of integrity.  I must say, my expectations were very high.  What I learned later was that, I had not rightly judged the situation.  The person showed me that they could not hold the piece of myself that I had given them.

What a learning lesson that was.  I decided to learn from it.
WARNING:  There is a way to learn from a situation without making a vow to never allow something to happen again.
I caution you in this because I have learned that making vows, only open the door for a proving of the vow.  Will you stick to it in the midst of a test or trial.  Not only will it be tested, but the vow may change you, for the worst.

Imagine a person that has vowed to herself that she would never let a someone hurt her again.  Her life would become a series of events that focus primary on avoiding that hurt which was experienced before.

Instead of taking a vow, I’d like to encourage you, as I have found encouragement to do this as well, pray.  While you are praying for wisdom in how you trust, allow the person to prove that they are worthy of your trust.  As they prove that they are worthy, give them more of your confidence.

Here is an example of this.

When my children ask for a privilege, like going outside by themselves, I give them specific directions to prove themselves responsible, obedient, and trustworthy.

Lets say that it is a cold day outside and there are children playing in front of our house from down the street.  I will tell my son to put on his coat.  I will also tell him to put on his play clothes and shoes.  After proving himself in this area, I allow him to go outside.  Don’t leave the porch.  After he has proved himself in this, I place more of my confidence in him.  “You can play with your friends, but don’t leave our street.”

At this point he has done everything that I asked him to do, so I back up, a bit, and allow him to play because he showed that he can be trusted.

After spending a few minutes out of my site, I’ve gone in the house, my son is playing and following all of the rules.  I realize that I can trust him.  He has demonstrated his ability to follow directions and to be responsible.   The last proving will be giving a time limit.  This will determine whether or not we can do this again.

This is how we should treat other people.  Although it may seem hard at first, if we pray for wisdom and are wise, we will see if a person is trust worthy or not.

Today, think on what trust means to you.  Do you find it hard to trust people? Do you have a system for the proving? Or have you left your self in a position to have your confidence broken?

Let’s make sure that our expectations are realistic and based in sound judgement.
Be encouraged today. 🙂

Filed Under: Decisions, Relationships, Trust Tagged With: confidence, integrity, trust

One Step at a Time

October 24, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Last night was hard. With my husband being out if town for military duty, I found myself home alone with my kids. Now that’s nothing new, but I by the end of the night, with all of it’s ups and downs, I was really stressed. I was going to do some school work, but I ended up passing out.

20121024-100547.jpgNow this morning wasn’t much easier. My oldest son and I had to have a talk and that was stressful in itself. Now I’m sitting here thinking about the things that I need to get done for today and it seems like a lot.

Being a mother isn’t always easy. There are times when it all feels like too much and those are the times that I have to take a step back and pray. If I’m completely honest, mothering isn’t the only thing that feels like that, at times, but that’s life.

I look forward to having a better day today, which means that I have to make it happen.

I’m getting ready to sit down at my trusty planner and write out my thoughts and plans for the day. Once I do that and confidently place one foot in front of the other, I know that God will take car of the rest.

In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9

This is my scripture for today. I have to remember that God is the one that will order things as I make plans. Confidently, I give God all that I have today, knowing that He will take care of me and all that I have.

As stressful as yesterday was, today, I begin anew and refreshed. I take it upon myself to take authority in my life and not to allow any confusion. When it come in, I will not entertain it, but instead I will take a stand an move forward as God has called me to do in his word.

 

 

Filed Under: Being Mom Moments, Encouraging Myself, Mothering Tagged With: confidence, Moments, planning, trusting God

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