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Finding My Place

July 13, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

My place in all of this

There are times where you know where you fit it. Then there are times when you don’t.

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This weekend I spent some time looking at the world, my life, and ministry.

As I looked and thought, I wondered where I fit in.  I started thinking about the big picture and how God wants to use me.

God has placed, in each one of us, gifts and talents.  He has given us to our families, friends, ministries, and the world.  Yet, we cannot do it all, all of the time.

I say this because there are times, when I want to do it all and be all to all people, but truth be told, that is now wise nor possible.

I have to look at the things that are going on in my life and be prayerful about how God desires for me to be productive in a situation.

All of this thinking, for a short time, caused me to feel like I had no place.  I saw myself as a speck of sand on a beach full of sand…where did I fit in and what was the point.

I saw all of the problems of the world and wanted to be a part of the solutions.  I saw all of the pain and wanted to be a part of the healing.  I wanted to be a help…

Here’s what I mean…

I don’t just want to be a replica of some other mother, wife, woman…I want to be who God created me to be.  In all of my uniqueness…and I am very unique and still I am commonly, uncommon…I stand out in various ways that are not always comfortable.  This caused me to ask…should I be.  Should I stand out because I am just like the others or should I be comfortable being uncomfortable because I stand out as me…just the way God created me to be.

I hope this makes sense because I am not trying to confuse you.

I want you to know, as I am realizing, that God has called each one of us to be very different in this world.  We may have certain qualities or circumstances that are similar to our sisters in Christ, or even have some stories that the other women in the world may relate to, but we are not supposed to look like, sound like, and dress like them.

Our identity must rest in Christ.  This must be our resting place…a place of comfort.

As I thought of these things, I felt inadequate…as if I could not handle those things that God has brought me to handle.  I had, for a brief moment lost my sight.  I could not see where I fit in…

But God…

As I thought…I contemplated…I read my Bible…I prayed…I waited…and I prayed some more…

He reminded me that I fit in Him.  He is my source and my purpose.  He is the reason why I am alive and my reason for being.  I had to stop thinking on how big the world was and all that was going on in it and focus on how great my God is.  Realizing His awesomeness, allowed me to grasp hold of his purpose for me…

In this I rested…

As I rested, it was revealed.

Perfectionism, is not the way to go.

Being like everyone else is not the way to go.

Being recommended or recognized…even honored, are not the ways to go.

The way to go is by His grace, as I trust His leading…

In that moment, as I dwelled on Him…I was at peace.  I could see that none of my own expectations or the expectations of the world may add up, but His will…would.

In this…I found peace.

I realized, through His revelation that all of the things that He reveals to me through various avenues, He will put to use, in time…

What He gives me to use, when He gives me to use it..can be utilized, as long as I trust in Him…

In this, I heard His voice…

Calling me to listen harder and pay attention amongst all of the noise…

In this…I found my place in all of this

Filed Under: Encouragement, Thoughts, Trust Tagged With: encouragement, new place, place, Purpose, seeking Him, Thoughts

What About The TODO List?

May 29, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Refreshing Friday

If you are anything like me, when Friday comes around, you are thinking back on all of the things that you accomplished during the week.

You may even be thinking of the things that you didn’t get done.

That’s me…

I’m normally looking at my to-do list.

I start listing the millions of things that I could do today because it’s the end of the week and I had a goal in mind.

Then, I am hit with something…it happens each and every time.

YOU CAN’T DO EVERYTHING, ALL AT ONCE, ALL OF THE TIME!

Suddenly, I am hit with this reality and I’m stuck.

“What?! I had so much to get done.  I can do some of it…”

The truth is that I can’t and neither can you…

“We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.”  Proverbs 16:9

No matter how much we plan on doing, there are just some things that God never intended for us to do.

I don’t know about you, but I find that refreshing.

I can make as many plans as I want, but God has orchestrated my life.  He has already set aside those things that I will accomplish.  Not only has He set those things aside, but He is there with me in that moment to help me accomplish them.  All of the things that I’ve been planning are preparation for, in my mind… It is my participation in the process, but my extreme standard or all work and no play, is not THE standard.

So the to-do list can continue to grow, but I am happy that God has set aside the things that He wants me to accomplish and I’m sure that I will get those things done in the near future…

Until then I will just breathe…

freedom

Filed Under: Encouragement, Refreshing Friday, Thoughts, Time of Rest, Trust Tagged With: breathe, friday, God, God's plans, plans, refreshing, todo lists

You Can Live Your Life Without Fear

May 25, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

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There are many people that live their lives, daily, in fear.

They are afraid of what happened, what is happening now, and what will happen soon.

Although we all have had experiences with fear, at some point in our lives, being fearful has to end. This no way to live a healthy life.

Well, what is a gal to do?

I’ll tell you what I had to do.

I had to learn that I can’t control everything and I’m not expected to.

I had to learn that there is a GREAT BIG GOD out there that cares about me and my family. He is the only one capable of controlling everything.

This task wasn’t easy, I must admit. Yet with all that it took within me, I wanted God to be in control of my life so that the things He promised me would happen. As I gave Him more control, He took the reins, and gave me peace.

That’s right! He took my anxiety and fear and gave me peace.

Now I walk, talk, and think differently.

365 times, in the Bible, God tells us not to fear.

That’s one time per day of the year.

Should anyone doubt the message, they could read it for themselves.

I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. ~Psalm 34:4

Did you get that?

The Psalmist says that He sought the Lord and the Lord heard him and delivered him from ALL of his fears.

I don’t know about you, but that encourages me. If God would do it for Him, why wouldn’t He do it for you or me? God isn’t a respecter of persons. He loves all of us the same.

Still one of the keys is that we have to be willing to call upon the Lord, give Him our fears, and take what He gives us in return. If we do this, our lives end up filled with peace.

I’ve made the step and I feel God’s peace resting on me daily.

Will you take this step?

Say that today will be the last day that you live in fear…

Be encouraged and trust God.

Filed Under: Encourage MySelf Monday, Encouragement, Encouraging Myself, Trust Tagged With: being fear free, encoiragement, fear, finding rest, living in fear, trust, trusting God

Trusting Other People

March 4, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

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Trust…

Have you ever sat down to think about it?  It is a relational word.  We trust the chair, in relation to whether or not it will hold us as we sit.  We trust the car, in relation to whether or not we will be able to drive where we need to go.  We put out trust in things everyday.  Yet many of us find it hard to do the same thing with people or even God.

When you or I decide to trust someone we are saying that we don’t believe that the person is going to bring us hurt or harm.  We believe, within ourselves, that this person is trust-worthy.

Now, I am using the word trust, over and over again, but let’s look a what it means.

The dictionary defines trust as:

reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

confident expectation of something; hope

It is as if when we trust someone, according to the definition of the word, we put our faith in them.  We believe that they are able to uphold the confidence that we place in them.  It sounds very simple, but I’m sure that you, like me, find that trust isn’t always that simple.

I want to ask you a question.  How do you determine who you are going to trust?

For me this is a hard one.

I am a very optimistic person.  I find it very easy to see the best in most people.  I want to have the best experience and relationship with  everyone, but I know that this isn’t always possible.  Since this is my desire, in the past, I didn’t have a test that I put people through.  I would just trust them.  I’d give them the opportunity to show me that they are not trust worthy.  Now, I don’t recommend trying to do this with things that are very precious or important to you.

Why?

Well, what would happen if the person was not worthy of your trust?  You would have trusted them with things that are very dear to you.

I had a situation like this before.  I placed my trust in someone and shared very intimate details with them.  I assumed that they could handle the things that I had given them. I thought that they were full of integrity.  I must say, my expectations were very high.  What I learned later was that, I had not rightly judged the situation.  The person showed me that they could not hold the piece of myself that I had given them.

What a learning lesson that was.  I decided to learn from it.
WARNING:  There is a way to learn from a situation without making a vow to never allow something to happen again.
I caution you in this because I have learned that making vows, only open the door for a proving of the vow.  Will you stick to it in the midst of a test or trial.  Not only will it be tested, but the vow may change you, for the worst.

Imagine a person that has vowed to herself that she would never let a someone hurt her again.  Her life would become a series of events that focus primary on avoiding that hurt which was experienced before.

Instead of taking a vow, I’d like to encourage you, as I have found encouragement to do this as well, pray.  While you are praying for wisdom in how you trust, allow the person to prove that they are worthy of your trust.  As they prove that they are worthy, give them more of your confidence.

Here is an example of this.

When my children ask for a privilege, like going outside by themselves, I give them specific directions to prove themselves responsible, obedient, and trustworthy.

Lets say that it is a cold day outside and there are children playing in front of our house from down the street.  I will tell my son to put on his coat.  I will also tell him to put on his play clothes and shoes.  After proving himself in this area, I allow him to go outside.  Don’t leave the porch.  After he has proved himself in this, I place more of my confidence in him.  “You can play with your friends, but don’t leave our street.”

At this point he has done everything that I asked him to do, so I back up, a bit, and allow him to play because he showed that he can be trusted.

After spending a few minutes out of my site, I’ve gone in the house, my son is playing and following all of the rules.  I realize that I can trust him.  He has demonstrated his ability to follow directions and to be responsible.   The last proving will be giving a time limit.  This will determine whether or not we can do this again.

This is how we should treat other people.  Although it may seem hard at first, if we pray for wisdom and are wise, we will see if a person is trust worthy or not.

Today, think on what trust means to you.  Do you find it hard to trust people? Do you have a system for the proving? Or have you left your self in a position to have your confidence broken?

Let’s make sure that our expectations are realistic and based in sound judgement.
Be encouraged today. 🙂

Filed Under: Decisions, Relationships, Trust Tagged With: confidence, integrity, trust

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