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Much Needed Quiet Time

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Sometimes we are forced to do things that we don’t really want to do, but that are really good for us. My kids would say that those things are brushing their teeth, apologizing, or drinking water. I’m pretty sure that they would add so many other things to the list, but for now, those things escape me.

Today there was a scheduled power outage in my subdivision. I normally remember these things and plan in heading out the door when they take place, but today was different. Today, I forgot. With my kids on spring break and me feeling tired, I decided that heading out the door wasn’t really an option for us this morning. So, we made it work.

With no electricity, I could not make breakfast. My children could not watch the television or play video games. I couldn’t iron our clothes or go on the Internet…well without my phone that is…so we improvised. My husband had cut up some fruit last night and the kids wanted more. I cut up some strawberries and kiwi and added them to the salad. That was breakfast for my kids. They are fruit salad and cereal. I, on the other hand craved something weird. Remember, I’m 20 weeks pregnant. I craved the hamburger helper from last night and some green beans. At this point, I was so happy that we have a gas stove. I turned on the gas and lit it with a lighter. This pregnant lady was so happy because the craving was met.

My kids decided that they wanted to play in the hallway. They built forts and went to war. My daughter decided to come sit with me and work on her spelling words. I thought that this was all great ways to spend their time today.

After a few minutes of playing…20 that is, my boys began to get agitated. My youngest put the toys away and my oldest decided to read a book. As I sat in my bed, I realized that this was exactly what we all needed for the day.

I had been making my kids spend more time doing things that didn’t include the television. This was a great way to I force it.

Not only was it good for them, but I believe that it was also good for me. I decided to enjoy the quiet and write this blog.

There are many times when the things that we are required to do are the things that are very good for us.

What I think is funny is that I am now finished with this blog post and the electricity just came on.

 

Super Bowl 2013…halftime show

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I just watched the half time show of Super Bowl 2013. The center of the show was Beyonce. Although many looked forward to the show, I wondered what position this artist would take knowing that families across the globe would be watching. I must say that I was not shocked to find that she did what she has done for years.

She wore an outfit that would only be in the adult section of most stores and acted as if she were in a room with her husband, trying to turn him on. Her dance movements were inappropriate, which I’m sure caused the millions of men watching to lust after her and the other women dancing on stage. Gyrating across the stage, I felt sorry for the families across the globe that have to now fight with themselves as to how they will explain the scene to their children.

Appalled…YES! I am appalled. More so, I am saddened for the state that our country is in…and the world. I am also saddened for Beyonce. I remember when she first came out with Destiny’s Child and they proclaimed that they would be different. Now here we are 10 or so years later and they look no different than the rest of the artists out there.

A part of me does not care to do anything but to say my opinion, but there is another part of me that is aware of the individuals that actually take part in these actions. I think of their hearts and their feelings. I don’t want to embarrass anyone, but I don’t agree with what they are doing. I want to challenge Beyonce and the other women, Kelly and Michelle, to ask themselves what they stand for. Who do you represent? Would you look up to who you are now, if this were years ago? When your daughters grow older and you are raising them, will you be proud of who you are today? You have each been given gifts by God and although those gifts won’t be taken away, what you do with them will cost you something. Are you willing to pay the price?

For the women,mothers, wives, men, husbands, and fathers out there, don’t be ashamed if you don’t agree with what our world is standing for. Know that you are not alone. I stand against the filth that is prevalent in our world right now. I wish it were a better place for my children. I pray that God would touch the hearts of all the people in our nation and produce integrity in each one.

Who knows what the next Super Bowl Halftime show will be like…

What About Respect?

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I am at this place in my life right now where being a woman, a wife, a mom, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a friend, a cousin, a niece…whatever role I fit in is about the level of respect that I give and receive in return. In this place, being treated any kind of way is not acceptable. It all matters. I am even convinced that I feel this way because I don’t want anyone to disrespect my children. Yet how can I properly teach them boundaries and what it means to be respected if I have never truly made my boundaries known and had people respect me, the way I desire?

For years, I’d make excuses for the actions of others that hurt or changed my life in detrimental ways. I never held them accountable for their actions or wrong doings. Instead by making excuses, I simply excused them. Seeing and understanding this now, I am saddened. I can’t blame people for the way in which I allowed them to treat me. It was my responsibility to say that I had enough or felt disrespected. I believe I always felt that I needed some sort of validation from those people because of my lack of self acceptance.

Even now I deal with this, wondering what people will think. Will they think I’m right or wrong? Will they see my point or misunderstand me? We they see purpose in what I am saying or find me to be another voice speaking into the wind without an ear to listen.

I don’t know or understand my reason for feeling this way, but I plan to find out. I care about people but I want to be respected for who I am as well. I don’t want to demand that respect, but I believe that I, like all other individuals, actually deserve it as a human being.

My tendency is to feel that I will have to make someone respect me, but the truth is that I am not responsible for another individuals actions. This makes me wonder what God says about respect and how he defines it… I should look into it. Then I’ll know what He says.

 

Am I Enough?

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I’m not sure if I’m the only mom that thinks this way, but with my fourth baby on the way, I find that I keep asking myself…”Am I enough?”

It’s not that I feel like a bad mother or anything, but there are times when I wonder if I am fully equipped to raise my four children. I thank God that I am not doing it alone. I have my wonderful husband walking alongside me as we bring up these four children.

I think part of my thinking this morning comes from watching too much Law and Order yesterday. It’s been a while since I’ve seen a show, but yesterday there was some sort of marathon on. Since I wasn’t feeling very well, I laid in my bed and watched the T.V.

With each episode, came another devastating situation. With some I wondered what could be done, but with others I asked…how could they? I’m not sure how many I watched, but the various topics got me thinking about life and the consequences of wrong doings. I could go through all the topics, but I’m not. Truthfully, I remember why I stopped watching the show on a regular basis.

Watching the show, yesterday, helped me to see that there are things that we as parents tend to project on to our children. Whether good or bad, these projections affect our children and the adults that they become.

It is my aspiration to raise my children to be responsible, respectable, and reasonable adults. I want to be proud of them, but I also want them to be proud of themselves.

So…back to my question…Am I enough?

Like the cup of juice in the photo, there is a certain amount of juice in it, but it’s up to the observer and their perspective to determine whether the glass is half empty or half full. I am choosing to look at my life and skills that I have been equipped with as…equipped. With that piece of knowledge I don’t stop equipping myself with the tools that I need to continue to improve as a mother an wife, but I am equipped for the time.

I have to remind myself that God would not put more on me that I can bear and these four children are gifts from Him. He must have seen in me what I could not fully see yet, but still chose to make me a mother of four.

I’m not sure what makes good moms go bad or do bad things to their children, but I know that I trust the moral compass and Holy Spirit within me. I will continue to read, study,research, and enquire about the different parenting techniques of raising healthy children. I won’t simply seek the teachings of the world, but that of the Bible because I know that the world is constantly changing its mind, but the Bible remains the same and so does God. As I grow and learn as an individual, it is my prayer that I will continue to be enough for my children.

If you are feeling the same way, I would encourage you to do an evaluation of yourself and then measure yourself through the word of God. If there are any ways in which you believe that you need to improve, ask God for the help. Seek the tools and answers to become better and move forward.

The more we work on being healthy people, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically, the better parents we become for our children. In essence our becoming, becomes enough for them.

When Loving Is Hard To Do

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Let me start off by saying that I have not thought this post through. I am just writing because I feel like it. I have no idea where I’m going or how this will end. What I do know is that I feel this.

There are times in life when things just don’t make much sense. The events that occur are not pretty or pleasant, but they happen. When that time comes, we are faced with a serious decision…

How to handle it?

Seriously…I feel like tht question has slapped me in that face. How will I continue to be myself and love those I love without changing. Some people change in the midst of making this decision. They become harsh and mean. Some become arrogant and prideful. Others become so broken by the situation that their life is drastically affected, by the event and the decision.

I know that God loves us even when we are wrong. Yet, He does not turn a blind eye to our sin. He sees it for what it is and deals with us accordingly, but with mercy. This is how He loves us. Our prayers may be hindered, we may have to walk through some hard places, but the truth is that it could all be over quicker that a tinkle of an eye. That all depends on us. All God is waiting on to meet us, help us, and forgive us is repentance. If we decide that we are beyond repentance, He take a few steps back because the Bible says that sin effects people in steps. The ultimate step is death. He longsfor us to live abundant lives and to continually be connected to Him, but the choice is ours.

I said all that to say, God never changes and since God is love, I want to love they way that He loves. There is no magic formula as to how to love someone when it gets hard besides, love like He loves. With this knowledge, I have chosen to seek Him about my current situation. I have to understand how to love someone that has hurt me without destroying who they are or becoming someone else, myself. I want to imitate God and love the way He does. I just see His way as freeing to both the lover and the lovee.

I am almost positive that this will not be easy. I kinda think this is going to take a while. With the little inlking that I have, I pray for the dedication to remain loving throughout this whole process. I realize that this is natural…sometimes loving is hard to do

When Loving Is Hard To Do

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Let me start off by saying that I have not thought this post through. I am just writing because I feel like it. I have no idea where I’m going or how this will end. What I do know is that I feel this.

There are times in life when things just don’t make much sense. The events that occur are not pretty or pleasant, but they happen. When that time comes, we are faced with a serious decision…

How to handle it?

Seriously…I feel like tht question has slapped me in that face. How will I continue to be myself and love those I love without changing. Some people change in the midst of making this decision. They become harsh and mean. Some become arrogant and prideful. Others become so broken by the situation that their life is drastically affected, by the event and the decision.

I know that God loves us even when we are wrong. Yet, He does not turn a blind eye to our sin. He sees it for what it is and deals with us accordingly, but with mercy. This is how He loves us. Our prayers may be hindered, we may have to walk through some hard places, but the truth is that it could all be over quicker that a twinkle of an eye. That all depends on us. All God is waiting on to meet us, help us, and forgive us is repentance. If we decide that we are beyond repentance, He take a few steps back because the Bible says that sin effects people in steps. The ultimate step is death. He longsfor us to live abundant lives and to continually be connected to Him, but the choice is ours.

I said all that to say, God never changes and since God is love, I want to love they way that He loves. There is no magic formula as to how to love someone when it gets hard besides, love like He loves. With this knowledge, I have chosen to seek Him about my current situation. I have to understand how to love someone that has hurt me without destroying who they are or becoming someone else, myself. I want to imitate God and love the way He does. I just see His way as freeing to both the lover and the lovee.

I am almost positive that this will not be easy. I kinda think this is going to take a while. With the little inlking that I have, I pray for the dedication to remain loving throughout this whole process. I realize that this is natural…sometimes loving is hard to do

The Way I See Myself

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Challenging myself to see me the way that God sees me.

Everyday, we are bombarded by images on the television and in the media of women that are flawless. Their faces have a perfect airbrushed magnificence to it. Mostly their hair is straight and falls properly in place. With all that I see, there is constantly a challenge to see myself the right way. There have been plenty of times that I have compared myself with those images. At those times, I found myself conforming to the images in the media. Not only did I conform on the outside, but I conformed on the inside as well. I am not proud of this fact, but it’s true. In all of this conforming to the world and finding my identity in it, I lost sight of who God created me to be.

“God, who created everything, created everyone-including you. You may look in the mirror and see flaws. But God designed every freckle, every wrinkly, every crinkle, and even numbered the hairs on your head (Luke 11:27). When He created you, he considered it “very good.” Do you?” ~True Identity Bible.

There is a certain way that He sees me. When He looks at me, He smiles. Since I was already created by Him, in the image of Christ, I need to make sure that I conform to that image because that is my true self. Now this is very hard, but I am definitely up for the challenge. It’s not about my hair or my makeup, but about my inner beauty and allowing it to be displayed on the outside.

Still the outer me does count. I want to make sure that when I look in the mirror, I see beauty. Not according to the world’s standards, but according to God’s. That being said, today, I challenge myself to see myself the way the creator sees me…as good, lovely, and beautiful. I choose to take my kinky curly hair and all of it’s tangles and call it beautiful. I choose to take my chocolate brown skin and all of its splendor and call it splendid. I choose to take my voice and the way that it sounds and call it lovely. I choose to take all of me, as I conform into the image of Christ, and call it good.

Your skin may not be the same color as mine, you hair may not be the same texture, and your voice may not be the same. We may not be the same height or weight, but I challenge you, as I have challenged myself, to call it all “good.” Find pictures of yourself and make a collage. Post it on your Facebook, twitter, instagram, the being mom 3 facebook page, post a comment, or do whatever you want to proclaim today that you are “good” because God create you that way. And remember to smile because its true, you really are…