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It’s Not An Easy Job But It’s Mine…

March 27, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

As a mother, I get to have fun with my children.  I get to love on them and see them grow.  I get hug and kiss them and say good night.

I also get to make the hard decisions that they don’t like.

As I sat with my children last night, I thought of all of the different things that present themselves to my children on a daily basis.  My boys go to school and so this means that they see and hear a lot.  Think of the children that come to school and talk about the things that they see at home. Then there are the teachers with their thoughts and opinions.  While teaching my boys, I’m sure that their opinions are injected at times.

Then there are the things that present themselves through various types of media…tv, radio, movies, books, video games, internet, ect..

As parents we are the filters that stand between our children and the content.  We get to inspect and decide if the content is of a quality that we wish for our children to be exposed to.

I don’t want my children to be like ostriches that have to stick their heads in the sand, but I want to present them with wholesome options for entertainment.

We are training them and preparing them for their lives outside of our homes.  What we allow to infiltrate the small minds today, will take up residence in their adult minds later on in life.

So, it a must that the content that my children take in, line up with the things that we believe and teach in our homes.  As they grow older, we expose them to certain things and explain the various concepts to them.  We have to help their minds develop in a healthy way.  We don’t allow the world to train our children because the world won’t always tell the truth, especially when there is money involved.

Our children may not understand now, but one day they will. It isn’t an easy job to do, but I am honored that it’s mine and I’m proud to be their filter.

Today it is my prayer that God would help my husband and I to train up our children in the way that they should go, so that when they are old they will not depart from it.  In Jesus’ name. ~Amen

What do you think of this topic?  Do you find yourself being a filter for your children or do you allow them to be their own filter? Share your thoughts on this topic…

 

Filed Under: Living Honestly, Mothering, Thoughts Tagged With: bringing up children, children, content, filter, media, mothering, parental controls

Dear Laundry

January 27, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Dear Laundry,

If I were your friend, I would only let you come over once a week

I’d pray for you because you don’t know how to stop

We’d have to have a talk because whenever you come around, I am left with one sock. (washing & drying)

Laundry, I appreciate your friendship and I know that you do a lot that I don’t feel like doing. (washing & drying)

Yet, at times I’m frustrated with the folding and put away that I’m left with.

It seems that we have a love hate relationship and I am blessed by it…

I think you make me better

Sincerely,

Being Mrs Mom

Filed Under: Just for Laughs, learning, Letters, Living Honestly, My Experience Tagged With: laundry, letter

Realizing That I Miss Him

November 19, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

 

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For the past year, I have been on this wild roller coaster ride of emotions. I have been happy, sad, emotional, tired, and a times I felt hopeless. Now when I think about these things, I am a bit disappointed in myself because I have such a great God who has made such great promises and kept, that I should never feel hopeless, but I did.

“I think an unhappy Christian is an oxymoron. It shouldn’t even be in the same sentence.” ~Joyce Meyer

The truth is that the past year has been really hard. My family and I moved away from all that we knew, besides each other and God. We’ve had to adjust to a new state and way of life. We have been blessed in so many ways by God, but at times the adjusting period was hard. Now, I have not hated life, but I have found myself in a couple tight corners that I could not see my way out of, but God is faithful. He helped me each and every time to come out.

In the past year I have forgotten who I am and who God created me to be. I would even dare to say that I have, at times forgotten how big, strong, powerful , faithful, and loving my God truly is…and because of that I have not exactly enjoyed the rollercoaster of life. I have hidden myself at times because of fear of rejection or even fear of being misunderstood. Yet, like the word of God says, all things work together for our good…so, now I look back and I see that there was a reason for my unhappiness. There was a reason why I was unsatisfied with life. There was a reason why I had forgotten. I had done all that I could do to stay positive, to smile, and look happy, but the truth is that I was in and out of happiness. I could not understand why before, but a few weeks ago, it was brought to my attention that I missed God. I didn’t realize how much I missed Him because I had filled my life with all the things I had to do and the places I had to be. The woman I had to be, consumed my time and, like a busy spouse, I was too busy to realize how much I missed Him.

Missing God, meant that although I talked to Him sometimes, the amount of time that He longed to spend with me and that I used to spend with Him wasn’t there anymore. There were times when I did other things instead of spending time with Him.

Picture this…

A husband works long and hard shifts. He leaves home every morning and kisses his wife goodbye. He tells her he loves her and then walks out the door. He doesn’t have time to stop and embrace her nor look in her eyes and say something sweet because he’s on a schedule and has to go. He comes home every night and lays down in the bed with her as he watches his favorite program on tv. They say goodnight, roll over, and go to bed. They never go on a date or do anything alone, without the children. This same cycle continues day after day as the husband works hard, everyday, doing what he feels needs to be done to take care of his family, but what he doesn’t realize is that his wife misses him. She misses the time that he would take to look into her eyes as he said “I love you.” She misses the way that he used to pull her close at different times of their day and kiss her on her forehead, cheek, or hand. She misses the text messages during the day that were simply to say, “I thought about you.” She misses the nights when they would sit and talk and he would ask her what she thought about things…and actually listen for an answer. He didn’t realize how much she missed him because she didn’t say it. She understood how much he had to do at work and what it took for him to accomplish those things. She knew how focused he was on what he was doing. She knew how busy he was and she stayed by his side because she loves him. He could not and would not see how much she missed him until she backed up a little and gave him the space that he demanded. Although she continued to love him, cook dinner, wash clothes, greet him at the door, kiss him goodnight, watch tv with him, and have small surface conversations with him. She remained committed and faithful, but she backed up a bit. When he began to miss her embrace, her kiss, her text messages, he realized that something was wrong. Not terribly wrong, but wrong. His wife missed him and he missed her…now something needed to be done.

This is how it is with God. He remains in our lives because He loves us. He is committed and faithful. He’s there when we need to talk and when we need guidance, but like the wife, He longs for…intimacy. When we become to busy or too preoccupied with life, He doesn’t decide to forsake us or leave us. Instead he backs up a little and gives us the space that we have asked for and declared that we need, with our actions, but He misses us. It’s not until we begin to feel a void, within ourselves, that we miss Him.

Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. ~James 4:8

This tells us that there is a time when God backs away, just a little, because we have told Him in some way that we need space. Much like the husband, once we realize what is happening, we are a bit shocked because it didn’t seem to be such an issue before, but with the process occurring over and over again, intimacy is lost and the issue is, well an issue that needs to be fixed.

Today I listened to a podcast by Joyce Meyer and was reminded of what it takes to maintain a relationship with God. I was reminded of what I was missing and I knew ,know I want Him in my life constantly. I want to have an intimate relationship with God because He is the source of my joy. Happiness is dependent upon what happens in my life and the way that I see it, but real joy will last because He is the source. I can look at life through a different perspective when I have spent quality time with God and be happy and full of joy.

With realizing that I miss Him and the He misses me, I commit to spending more time with Him. Time talking, being honest, listening, and enjoying His presence. The intimacy that I have with God cannot be replaced. It’s helps me to be a better mom, wife, friend, and woman.

…And today I smile…for real!

Filed Under: Feelings, Findings, Living Honestly, Reflection Tagged With: happiness, intimacy with God, joy, love, missin Him, unsatisfaction

Not Invited…

October 30, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

There are times in life that we will have to make decisions.  We will have to take a stand and even say no.  With this we must understand that our opinions won’t always be accepted.  Everyone won’t want to be sour friends and sometimes we just won’t be invited to the party.

That being said, I am sitting here right now and I know that there is a birthday party/ semi-celebration taking place a couple of doors down.  My son found out and got upset.  I had to help him understand that we won’t always be invited.  What a hard lesson for a kid to learn.  Learning this is not easy.  As children, adults…people, we all want to get along with others.  We actually want the whole world to love us, but the reality is that some people won’t like us.  Some people won’t want to be around us.  Especially if we are upholding a standard.

Now that is something that we do.  There are a few issues that I have had to talk to this other mother about.  If I were anything like her, my children would be over there uninvited, but I’m not.  I am teaching my kids manners and it’s hard some times, but they are also learning to respect other people.

The truth is that I would rather be here in my house with my kids than in another’s house, that doesn’t believe the same things that we believe.  If we were there, I’m sure that my children would be exposed to things that are against God, our beliefs, and our lifestyles.  Life is just like that sometimes.  Sometimes things seem unfair, but it is the best thing for us.  This is what’s best for us…its ok, even good, that we’re not invited.

Filed Under: Living Honestly, Mom-Me Speaks, Mothering Tagged With: decisions, friends, separated, standing, talks

What About Halloween? More information

October 30, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

For the past couple of days, I have had a lot going on. I want to make sure that I put the information that I promised out. Since tomorrow is Halloween, I wanted to get right to it. I could easily spend many words explaining why I don’t celebrate Halloween, but I have decided to allow someone else do the explaining. This article is very thoroughly written. The writer is able to drive the point home so much better than I am. Here is the link to The Dark Side of Halloween.  I hope you find this article helpful and that you make a very important decision for both yourself and your family.

 

Filed Under: Halloween, Living Honestly Tagged With: christian living, deception, Halloween, mothering, questions, truth

What about Halloween? The obvious…

October 25, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

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This image is only to display the obvious images that are present on Halloween

Today, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to say regarding this topic.  The more I thought, the more I wanted to say.  The more I wanted to say the more I thought of you, the reader.  I wondered if you would actually take the time to read this article and if you did, would you ask yourself…What about Halloween?  I wondered if you would question the things that you see and the things that are around you.  I wondered if you would see, the obvious.

Now when I say “the obvious,” I am not saying that this is something that we all see.  Instead I am saying that it is something that we should all see, but have been trained to ignore.  Thus the obvious becomes the irrelevant and the invisible.  To some degree, the obvious also becomes the ignored or the accepted.  I know, I’ve said a lot, but let me explain.

Today I took my daughter to ballet.  While there the ballet teacher told my daughter and the other children to wear their Halloween costumes to class next Thursday.  Immediately, I said, “We don’t celebrate Halloween,” and then smiled.  Another parent that was standing by me said, “We don’t really celebrate it either and someone asked me, why it’s ok for Mormons to celebrate it.” This mother is a Mormon and she knows that I’m a Christian, so she looked at me and asked why? She said, “The costumes are fun, just don’t get all Satanish about it.”  I looked at her, surprised that she actually wanted to know my thoughts and reasoning about Halloween and I began.

Every year, during the month of October, the stores are filled with images of things that are gross and frightening.  The costumes that go on sale are ones that would only frighten an adult, let alone a child.  Although many adults see these costumes as harmless, if it were not Halloween and a person was walking around dressed as a witch because she was one or an ax murder, people would run and find the nearest police officer and then go straight home.  The encounter would be considered the worst experience ever, until the next horrific occasion arose.

The Decor

During this time of year, decorations are put all over.  This is no different from any other celebratory occasion, but the type of decor is rather strange.  Skeletons, witches, grave yards, monsters, bats, spiders, blood, severed limbs…must I say more?  The images that begin to appear during the month of October are normally considered horrific or inappropriate, but this is the only time that it is acceptable.  I was told by someone recently that a man was driving around with a limb hanging out of the back of his trunk.  I’m sure that many people thought it was funny, but the truth is that he could have really had a dead person in his car and no one would have known, simply because its close to Halloween.

In my neighborhood, here in Utah, people have applied fake blood to their doors and hung skeletons from their trees.  There are multiple life-size replicas of Frankenstein, dead bodies, scary children with bleeding feet crouched on the ground, there are even chairs that rock all by them selves.  The children in the neighborhood are afraid to walk to school because of the severed limbs placed in the front yards of neighbors who have turned their homes into portraits of death.

The Representing Figures of Halloween

I have already discussed the decor that is seen during this particular time of year.  Let’s now look at the symbols and figures of Halloween.

The Witch

When you look up witch on the internet, here is one of the first things that comes up.

“Practitioners of the Wiccan religion, known as witches, exist around the world, though witches with supernatural powers are creatures of myth.” ~Ask.com

Images of witches have been portrayed all over television.  They have been in books and fairytale.  When you think of a witch, what do you think of?  I think of a woman dressed in dark-colored clothes, with a weird look about her.  I think of broomsticks, magic, and witch craft.  I think of a woman trying to conjure up a spell to control another human being.  I think of black magic.  No I am a Christian and I believe that magic is against God.  We will visit this in more detail in another article, but ask yourself what you believe for a moment about God and magic.Now that you have done that, you might be saying that I am going overboard because there is no such thing as a witch.  They are made up right?!  Think again.

Digispy.com has an article posted about a practicing wiccan that is renting her home out every night during the month of October.  Her intent is to teach people magic.  She has been practicing magic for 25 years and is a witch.

 “I’m really excited to show all my guests the true meaning of Halloween and how to get into the spirit of things – after all, who knows how to celebrate Halloween better than a witch?”
Starza will give guests a history of Wicca, in addition to personalised Tarot card readings. She is also offering spell lessons and potion-making for guests who choose to partake. ~digitalspy.com

Did you catch that? The true meaning of Halloween.

Other figures of Halloween are the vampire, the werwolf, the ghost, the skeleton, that grave yard, and zombies. Each of these figures are representations of death.  I will be writing another article on these figures.

 

The Ritual: the Candy

During the month of October candy is one of the items that quickly goes on the shelves at the grocery stores and it is sold out quick.  THose who participate in Halloween rack up on their stock of candy because they want to have a pleasing sweet treat for all of the children that will knock on their doors.

Children that will knock on their doors?

Yes…

Do you remember what you were taught about taking candy from strangers?

Do you realize what you teach your children about taking candy from strangers?

Yet every year on October 31st, parents allow their children to go door to door and take candy from strangers.  They even smile and tell the children that it’s fun…all for a celebration…what is being celebrated?

Are you getting it?

The Obvious Lesson…

For years, I didn’t know.  I walked around like everyone else, participating in Halloween.  Then I began to have a relationship with the Lord, and my eyes began to open to the obvious things that I could not see before.  Over time, I realized that Halloween was something that took all that I believed, stood for, and taught my kids, and turned it around.  On October 31, someone was making a mockery of me.  On October 31st, I stood for nothing.  All I wanted was to have fun because, well, it was fun, right?! Or was it?  If I had not been taught by the world around me that this and all of the activities that surrounded Halloween were ok, for this one day, I would have though that something was wrong.  I would have, like you, never participated in such a gory, frightening, celebration of…what is being celebrated?

I have only presented you with what you can see with your own eyes.  It is up to you to begin to look at things through a clear lens.  You have to ask questions.  If you do, you’ll get answers.

I pray that God will touch your heart and show you the truth about Halloween.

Join me tomorrow for day two of What about Halloween.


Filed Under: Halloween, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: celebrations, choices, decisions, evil, Halloween, obvious, reality, wicked

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