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Bringing Up Children

October 25, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Have you ever thought about what it takes to bring up children? How are parents supposed to help children become responsible educated adults?  Have you ever wondered what kind of time and effort it would require or the amount of commitment that it would take?

The truth is that not to many people do.  Many people may even say, “There’s nothing to it, but to do it. Right?!”

WRONG!!!

That’s right!  I used all capital letters and three exclamation points.  I want you to think about this.  There is more to it than just doing it.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  ~Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child.  Think about training and all that goes into it on the part of the trainer and the trainee.  That means that a lot of hard work, preparation, educating, correcting, and patience will be needed.  Now, that is a lot to be required of parents, but there is more that will be needed.  Parents have to be willing to make choices and to stand behind them.  They have to teach their children right from wrong and be willing to discipline them when they are wrong.  With all of that, there is more…

The world will come up against everything that a parent attempts to instill in a child.  Here are a few examples of what parents will encounter:

Parent:  “Wear you coat.”

Child:  “I don’t want to wear my coat.  Bobby, Susan, and Jane don’t have their coats on.”

Parent: “I’m not their mother.

At this point the parent will have to decide what to do.  Will the parent give in or stand behind the decision that was originally made.

Parent: “We don’t use that type of language!”

Child: “Why not?  I heard it on t.v…”

Parent: “Because it’s wrong and foul.”

Child: “But Jane talks like that all the time and her mother doesn’t say anything.”

The parent has to decide how to handle the situation.

Parents have to talk to their children about drinking, drugs, sex, friendships, faith, morals, and so much more.

It is our responsibility to teach and train our children.  When they leave our homes, they are supposed to be responsible, educated, morally good, adults.  If you are a Christian, like I am, then our children should also leave our homes filled with faith, knowing how to pray, and trust God in all situations.  They should not be afraid to make hard choices.  In fact they should expect to and realize that making those choices will change the lives of those around them.

Training up children is not easy, but it is an honorable job.  What the world wants for my children is not what is important to us.  Instead we focus in on what God wants for them.  As a mother, I teach them to be children that will one day grow into individuals of integrity who, by their lives, will  change the world around them, for the better.

So the next time you are confronted with making a hard decision as a parent, know that you are fully equipped to do so.  The decisions that you make for your children will determine who they become and who they will be when you are long gone.

It is a parent’s job to bring up their children…

 

Filed Under: Decisions, Encouraging Myself, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: bringing up children, choices, decisions, parenting, training

Not Easy, but I’m Gonna Try

January 16, 2012 By Mrs. Mom 4 Comments

Its not easy…
It never has been.

When there are things to on my schedule, the first thing that I do is take care of my family. There isn’t anything wrong with that. The problem comes in when I have other things to do that are a little intimidating and I procrastinate. I start looking for other things to do. Not purposely, but it happens. I really want to do the really hard things. I really want to just “knock them out,” but the truth is, its not that easy.

When faced with a the hard tasks, I end up lagging behind because I am intimidated. They become extremely daunting. Here is the thing that puts the icing on the cake, the tasks aren’t that hard. The problem is that I have put so much pressure on myself to be perfect, that I can’t reach this goal.

Now this isn’t something that is abnormal for many people. I am just choosing to admit it openly. In the past I have wanted to deal with it privately, but I am realizing that it is something that many people deal with. I have found that mind mapping helps me a lot. I downloaded an app on my iPad that allows me to freely mind-map anything.

This school work isn’t going to kick my butt. The laundry isn’t going to knock me down. Any other task that I desire or need to do, will have to take a step back because I’m going to overcome this. I am going to take a deep breath, open my calendar, mind map, and get started. It doesn’t matter how long it takes me. The important thing is that I’m doing it.

I remember a time when I wasn’t like this. I had no problem with starting and finishing. I still had really high standards, but at that time life was a little bit different. At that time, I had one or two children. When my third child came, it became really hard for me to achieve my goals. It isn’t because of my child. Oh no! It’s because of the amount of things that I became responsible for over night. It has taken some time for me to regroup.

Little things are no longer an issue. What is an issue thought is my school work. I used to be an “A” student. I still am, but with an “A” comes tons of pressure from no one else, but me. I pressure myself so much, that it almost becomes impossible to complete my work. I received a graded paper from one of my professors recently. Now I am a senior in college working on a degree in English. Here I am waiting on a response. She tells me that my paper was good, but it should have been put together better. It was chopped to bits by her compute.r. I almost cried when I read it. I thought it was really good, but I guess she thought otherwise.

No, I don’t normally take the time to really express my thoughts here, but this is my site. I need to find a way to express myself in a way that is positive and progressive. This may be the last time I do it…well, we’ll see about that. I do know that I won’t be really intimate because it may be too much, but as a mom, honestly I need to do this…as a woman. It may seem like I’m rambling and I just might be, but I need to ramble for a bit. I have a paper to do and a discussion board to post. I am trying to get this out so it isn’t in my mind anymore.

Yes this is me, encouraging myself. It isn’t going to be easy. Nothing worth anything ever is…but I am going to give it all that I’ve got and pray for guidance and strength to get the job done…

You can do it too!

RigIt?!

(Photo from KAPPBOOM)

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Filed Under: Daily, Decisions, Encouraging Myself, Work At Home Tagged With: completing, consistency, giving up, home, quitting, school, work

Keep It My Own

June 6, 2011 By Mrs. Mom 27 Comments

I was surfing the net today when I came across an Work At Home offer that looked promising.  Yet when I took a closer look at the details and searched other people’s results,  I decided that it wasn’t for me.  There are so many different option online for making money, but many times it is hard to tell which ones are scams and which ones are worth the time and effort.

There are also the affiliate programs that I hear so much about, but then I would have tons of ads all over my site that I paid not to have ads on.  It has been suggested that you take what you enjoy and make money off of it, but when do that you risk the chance of losing the passion for it.  So, what is a gal to do?  I have decided that I will do some research and create a different site that I will use to for my potential earnings.

I enjoy my blogs.  I like being able to discuss whatever I want.  This is my site and this one I’m keeping as my own.

Filed Under: Blogging, Decisions, Work At Home Tagged With: affiliate programs, blogging, making money, work at home

Reflections

April 11, 2011 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Today was a day like many others.  It was full of ups and down, backs and forths, and plenty of heres and theres.  To the average reader that may not make sense, but to a mother like myself it is very understood.  We had a wild ride today.  It was packed with adventure and and mystery, comedy and drama…I must not forget about the action and suspense.  There is always action and suspense in my house, with my two boys. Yet among all of the wonderful stories to tell, there is mine.

I am the mom and the wife.  I’m the one who participates in every storyline.  I always have a role to play.  And although it can be tiring and stressful, it is also a blessing.  I guess I would say, behind the main story, I had my own.  I had my moments of excitement and frustration; of sheer awe and pleasure.  My daughter’s laughter and my sons’ personalities gave me more entertainment than I could have imagined for the day, but that isn’t surprising.  I must not forget my husband.  He had much to offer in our busy day.  From romance to disagreements, to settling it with a nice uninterrupted shower for me and  dinner that I didn’t have to cook,pizza.  What a nice opportunity to relax?! How could I refuse His offer?  There was a truce and no need to be upset, thank God.  No really!  I thank God for everything that He has given me.  Although at times it may seem like too much to bare, I know that it isn’t.  I have been supplied with great amounts of grace for this season that I am in…and I’m thankful.

So, in my moments of uneasiness, I do what comes naturally…I write.  I write how I feel and what I think.  If I don’t write, the thoughts that come to my mind tend to sound as if they need to be written somewhere.  I enjoy many things, but writing is one that soothes me.  It helps me to be calm and move forward.  I knit also, but many times the pen is mightier than the needle.

I read an article from a 2006 blog post on 5 minutes for mom and it encouraged me.  I had not had the courage to truly say what I wanted to say in my blog.  I wasn’t sure how I should put it.  Yet when I read this post, I understood that it didn’t matter.  I didn’t…I don’t have to have it all together.  That is what makes me special.  I just have to allow God and my faith in Him, to work in me and through me.  It’s ok if I don’t understand right now, or anybody else for that matter.  What matters most is that I surrender to Him and offer up my life and my story as a living sacrifice.

Now to all of you who aren’t fans of Christianity and faith,  I must say that you should try it.  When we as moms are raising our children there are so many things that we deal with that can utterly tear us apart.  We love our little ones, but there are times when we just don’t feel equipped.  I feel that way sometimes, but I am never left that way.  I stumbled across that article for a reason.  I want to be helpful to others.  I don’t just want to be something to talk about.  I want to be uplifting even if we, my reader and myself, don’t really feel that way all the time.  Yet in order for that to happen I have to look at life through a glass of half full, instead of half empty.  That isn’t an easy task at all.  The trials of life attempt to weigh me down and there are some words that are thrown around. Depression is one.  I am determined to stay free from depression.   I will not be depressed or any state of being related to it.  I may feel sad at times, but that sadness will not rule or govern my life.  I have talked to different women this month that talked of being depressed and I know what they are feeling, but I will not surrender to those feelings and allow them to rule my life.  I choose to live.  See my kids need me and so does my husband.  My friends and my family members need me…and I need them.  We have each other for a reason.  And so like Janice said in her article.

“God is calling me to live out a life of faith in the details.

Yes, there will inevitably be huge hurdles ahead. My faith will be challenged and rocked, my heart torn apart. But for this moment, I am to model faith for my son and my family daily, from morning till night, no matter what the day includes. (Now maybe that is a huge thing!)

I must choose to actively live out my faith in the hidden hurdles that challenge me before I even see them coming – when I am tempted to argue with my husband instead of offering grace, when I am weary and ready to grumble, when I am lazy and don’t bother to pray, when I am too busy and I miss my child’s request to play with him, when I am angry and I lose my temper…

A life of faith is tested in many ways and the defining moments are not always where we expect them to be. We may rise to meet a huge Goliath and then stumble on our way home, revealing a faithless heart.

As mothers, we are tested every second it seems. Many days I have lost my patience before I even get out of the house. And yet little, impressionable souls watch and learn from us! We are modeling an active faith for them.

Blessed by this insight, I got up and made my way downstairs to my laptop, realizing that I may not have one battle ahead of me tomorrow, but many. I will need to gather many stones for my slingshot and then walk forward, alert and ready to fight each temptation that gets ready to take down my faith.

And these battles matter, not only for me, but also for my child who is watching and taking notes.”

 

See, those words are inspiring and I, like Janice, choose to be a woman, wife, and mother by faith.  Even when it’s hard, I will press forward. 

This is my Reflection

Filed Under: Daily, Decisions Tagged With: 5 minutes for mom

What to do?

March 9, 2011 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Being a mom is a task.  It’s a full time job.  It’s not just about the cleaning, cooking, and taking the kids to school.  There are a lot of decisions that moms have to make.  There are big questions like, “can I pack my lunch for school tomorrow,” “where are my Elmo socks,” and not to mention the big one, “can I have a snack?”  These questions could plague the everyday individual and drive them up the wall, but to a mother it’s an everyday occurrence.  Did I mention that with all that a mother has to do, she has to schedule herself a shower. At least this mother over here does.  That’s funny, huh?!  I guess you would think so. Yep, but that’s that life of a mom.

Really, there are things that moms have to think about that others don’t.  I have to ask myself almost everyday how much do we have planned to do and how much of it are we really going to get done.  I have to look at my kids and make sure that they aren’t getting worn out from all of the running, doing, and visiting.  I even have to make sure that the aren’t suffocated by being in the house too much.  That seems like a lot, but I thank God that He helps me along the way.  I mean, without Him, I don’t think I would make it and I probably wouldn’t be to good of a mom either.  I’m not exaggerating.  This job is a hard one and I tip my hat off to those mothers who have to work outside of the home and inside of the home.  Thank God for the grace that He gives us to be who He has called us to be.

So tonight I have had to make an executive decision…all events must stop.  My son passed out doing his homework and we had somewhere to go, but I think it will be alright if we don’t go, this time.

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