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Showing My Appreciation

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This morning my husband did a few things to show me that he cared. Once I realized it, I decided to tell him how much I appreciate him. After doing so, I realized that there are so many people in my life that I appreciate. I’m not sure if they even realize it.

If you are reading this post, I want you to know that I appreciate you. I appreciate you for taking the time to read this post.

I appreciate my faithful readers and commenters. You know who you are. You walk with me as is journey through life and blogging. You encourage me and have discussions with me along the way. No matter how big or small the comment, I appreciate it and I appreciate you.

So as you go throughout your day today, I hope you feel special because you are to me.

My Job

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I have a friend that is trying to decide what she wants to do right now.  She is trying to figure out if she wants to be a stay at home mom or if she wants to go to work outside of the home.  This inspired me because I have found that working outside of the home right now would mean working two jobs, for me.  Now some people may not agree with me, but I don’t sit at home twiddling my thumbs everyday.  There is a lot of work to do around here.  Did I mention that there are six of us?  That means that there is a never ending load of laundry here.  There are always dishes to wash, food to cook, diapers to change, and a person that needs some sort of help with something.

For me, at this stage in my mothering, to work outside of the home would be draining.  One of my jobs would suffer.  It would either be my family and home, or my job outside of the house.

 When my time comes to work outside of the home, my kids will be older and I will be able to handle the load of both responsibilities.  I think that will be when all of my children are in school.  I know many women can do it and they do it everyday, but I feel it is beyond what I can handle right now.  I want to give my family my best and this is how I do it.

To all of the mothers that do it outside of the house, may God bless and strengthen you.

To all of the mothers like me who do it inside of the house, my prayer is the same. May God bless and strengthen you.

To the mothers that are in the process of deciding, may God help you to make a wise decision as you contemplate the two.

We all need prayer, patience, and a bit more wisdom.

Grumpy Days…

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Today is one of those days where, I’m not sure what I missed, but something must have happened.  The reason why I say that is because it is rare that more than one person in my family has an attitude that is other that pleasant at that same time.  This morning is one of those rare occasions.  My husband and my older son are both a bit upset.  It is so much so that my older daughter asked why everyone looked so miserable.  She is only four and she recognized that there was something wrong.  I asked what the problem was, but I just received a series of blank stares.  as a result my daughter wanted to read this book this morning. “Even Kermit Gets Grumpy.”  This is very true.  We all have our moments. Like Kermit, even those of us who are always smiling have our moments.

It is my prayer today that my husband and my boys have great days.  I also pray for all of those people out there that find themselves being a little grumpy for no reason.  Lord be their joy.

For this very reason, I will make every effort to be positive and to smile… and now for the rest of my day.

A Mother’s Perspective

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Recently I have been talking to a couple different mothers about mothering. As I listen to them talk about their kids and their relationships with them, I realize that there are some things that I just don’t think or feel the same as they do…about. I don’t know if that makes any sense. It’s not that we disagree, but instead we don’t see eye to eye because our experiences are different.

For instance, one of the motheres expressed that she doesn’t want to breastfeed her baby past the age of one. I’m sure that many mothers feel this way, and this is their choice, but I don’t feel the same way. Each of my children weaned themselves. It wasn’t when I was ready, but instead when they were ready to stop that we stopped. So I have breastfed up until 11 months, 13 months, and 15 months. I also have a newborn, so I’m not sure how long I will nurse this time.

Another mother that I talked with expressed the fact that she can’t wait for her children to go to bed. By this I mean both nap time and bed time. As she explained this to me, it seemed that she was saying she waits for those times of day because things get to stressful.

I haven’t felt this yet. I have times throughout the day when I know that both my children and I need some personal time. These are moments throughout the day when, we each pull away and have some solitary time doing whatever we desire, within reason of course. I think this is what stops me from waiting for the moment when they will go to sleep. I actually enjoy the company of my children. Yet I think that a mother in a different stage of life may not want to be around her children as much. Especially if she isn’t doing what she needs to do for herself. I always take time for me. Even if it’s just a simple moment in the bathroom with the door locked…emphasis on the door being locked. Without these moments away, I would be no good to myself or my children. I think I would even come to a point of despising them for a lack of personal space. Do I think that’s a normal reaction? Yes I do. Do I think this has happened to this mother? Not yet, but if she isn’t careful it could happen.

Look let’s face it, we all have struggles. I know I do, but it’s the way that we deal with them that’s important. If I found myself in a situation where my thinking was always negative, I would do all that I could to fix it…aka get a new perspective on things.

This is what I’ve seen when talking with these women or even observing others. We have to be willing to think of the other side…the brighter side of things. No one is wrong in this situation, but there is a different way to see it. Each mom is different and so is her experience. Yet, it is our jobs as moms to make each experience the best. Why? It’s simple. We only get to raise each child one time. There won’t be another opportunity for breastfeeding them from birth again. That bond can only be built once. There is no coloring or dancing with them at age 2 or 4 again. I have to make sure that this experience that we have a memorable one. Not because I hated it, but because I enjoyed the moments no matter how wild the ride was…it has to be a good one.

It is my hope that other moms can think the same way. Don’t miss out in those great moments with your kids because you had the wrong perspective. Change the filter in your lens and see it a little different.

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My Desire

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This morning, I sit and think on what it means to be a woman, wife, and a mother.  I think on the expectations that are put on an individual with such titles, an individual like me.

Lord,

Help me not to attempt to meet the unrealistic expectations that the world has set before me, but instead to meet your godly standard and expectations.  Help me to fulfill the purpose and plan that you have for me.

In Jesus’ name

~Amen

The Challenge of Mothering

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There have been times when things aren’t going the way that I’ve planned…who am I kidding?! There are plenty of times when things don’t go the way that I’ve planned. There are the random things that my children do, which I immediately must respond to. Then there are the reckons that must be made a head of time and planned on accordingly. Either way, I didn’t plan on the processes that have to be take. As a mother in these instances.

The same is true everyday as I raise my children. We have our mishaps and misunderstandings. I have to make decisions knowing that everyone won’t agree with them…and they don’t. I take a bit of criticism and I see the slanted eyes looking my way, but I must still be the mother that I’ve chosen to be. Not the mother that was weaseled in to this decision or action and that situation. I have to be confident in what I have chosen for my children. This is apart of the challenge. Knowing that what I have chosen is right.

There is no easy way to go about this. The world could look at me or you at any moment and say that raising our children as Chrisitians is wrong. We’d have to proudly look at them and declare that they are the ones who have been misled. The thing is that all of my decisions as a mother have to be made this way. I have to be confident and ready to declare that anyone who challenges me has been misled. If I am unable to take that stance in any decision that I make, I ought not to make it.

I know this may seem a bit confusing to some, but there are others that understand completely what I am saying. I have just had a few instances where I felt challenged as a mom. I had to remind myself that God gave my children to me to mother. He did so because he knew what I would be like. He knew what I would in them and how I would love them. That’s right! I said, “how I would love them.” The how is very important. They need the love the way that I give it…and God planned it that way.

In all of this, it is my prayer that I never lose confidence in the way that God has led me to mother my children. I pray that when I am lost, God would guide me. I pray that he would continue to show me how to be more that I ever thought I could be as a mother.