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Thanksgiving Morning Breakfast Quiche

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Every year, on Thanksgiving, families and friends await the special treats and favorite dishes that will meet them at the table of their Thanksgiving feasts.

As we prepare our hearts to celebrate one another and express our gratitude to God for our blessings, many of us are also busy in the kitchen, prepping the meal that our loved ones love the most.

If you are like me, though, you recognize a trend from the past. My family gets so excited about the evening or noontime meal that they wake up extremely early. They glare at me for about 20 minutes before they ask, “so what’s for breakfast?”

I look around, only to find that there is no room to place another meal, nor time to prepare one.

Have you ever found yourself in this place?

Well, I have a solution that is quick and easy.

Thanksgiving Morning Breakfast Quiche

Combined and Ready for the Oven

Traditionally, I cook the quiche all at one time.  If you are looking for a way to multitask as you prepare for Thanksgiving, you can prep many of the items, for this dish, the night before.  Just mix it together and pop it in the oven when you get up to start prepping for Thanksgiving Dinner.

Cooked and Ready to Eat
Cooked and Ready to Eat. Crunchy, the way that my family likes it

Your family will love it and you’ll find relief because you have saved time and fed your family, with ease.

You can also watch the video for more information.

Sharing Scripture: 1 Peter 4:8

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1 Peter 4:8

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”

This is the scriptural focus for this week.

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Obtaining Wisdom and Hearing from God (Proverbs 1): Cultivating Life Wisdom Series Video 3

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This week on the Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are reading Proverbs chapter 1.  We are going to be learning what God says about obtaining wisdom and hearing from him.  We will also be looking at the purpose of Proverbs and understanding what God shows us about parenting.  

Are you willing to obtain wisdom from the Lord?  

Watch the video below and don’t forget to subscribe to my Youtube channel.  If you didn’t get to watch the second video in the series, take a moment to watch it. 

10 Keys to Making Your Marriage Last

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Have you ever wondered how to make your marriage last?  I’m sure that if you have been married for any more than a day, you have asked yourself if there are things that you can do to make your marriage successful.  You could figure this out by yourself.  However, I would recommend that you learn from others that have established long-lasting marriages themselves.  My husband and I have been married for over 15 years and, although we are not experts on every marriage, we have learned quite a few things that make us experts in our marriage.   I’d say that we are strong bond marriage practitioners.  The keys that we have learned and shared with other couples, have help them grow in their marriages, over the years.  Today, I’d like to share 10 keys to making your marriage last.

Why you shouldn’t just figure it out on your own

I’m sure that I’ve shared this with you before, but when I was a young adult, I had this idea that I wanted to learn from my own mistakes and not from other people.  I was convinced that learning from other people would somehow mess up the understanding that I had for my own life.  I want to be honest with you, that was not wise thinking.  It is best to learn from the mistakes of others, that it is to learn from personal pain, struggles, and trauma.  However, I had to learn this the hard way.

If I were wiser in the early years of my marriage, I would have sought wise counsel regarding the role of a married Christian woman.  When I say this, you may think that I mean, I would have talked to women that I knew, so that I could do life better.  However, that is not what I mean.  Looking back on my early years of marriage, I would have prayed more, studied the word of God more, and sought the counsel of wise women who had been in and still remained in lasting godly marriages.  I would have watched the more and asked more questions of these women.  Instead, I spent at least three years of my marriage trying to figure it out on my own.  Those three years were really hard for me because I was stuck in my own way. I wanted to learn from my own mistakes.  

I was constantly saying things like, “that may have worked for you, but I don’t think it will work for me.”  I didn’t know that there are specific keys to making marriage last that are applicable to every marriage.  I had to learn this the hard way, through my mistakes and trial and error. 

You don’t want to make this same mistake.  Trust me.  It took a lot of praying, crying, and painful lessons to get these principles into my mind and heart.  You don’t want to sit up late at night feeling rejected because you weren’t willing to seek God and wise godly counsel about your situation.  You don’t want to experience heart ache and pain because you have chosen to learn the hard way, through your own mistakes.  You don’t want to reject wisdom. 

What does the Bible say about seeking wise counsel?

You may think that seeking counsel will mean that all of the intimate intricacies of your relationship will be exposed to another person and uncover your relationship.  However, you need to understand that you must have someone to talk to.  You must have someone who is willing to hold what you tell them in confidence, pray for you, and offer you wise counsel.  This person must also be willing to hold you accountable for your part in your marriage.  She has to exhibit fruit in her own marriage that tell you she is a godly woman of wisdom that can teach you how to love and respect your husband.  She must be able and willing to help you be self-controlled, pure, a homemaker, kind, and submissive to your own husband.  (Titus 2:4-5)

If you still aren’t convinced that you should seek counsel from other trustworthy, godly women, take a look at what the bible says. 

Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel,”

Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise.”

Proverbs 19:20 “Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days.”

Proverbs 20:18 “Plans are established by counsel; by wise counsel wage war.”

Proverbs 24:6 “For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, and a multitude of counselors there is safety.”

I pray that you take into consideration what the Word of God is saying about the value of godly wisdom.  It is a necessity to a successful life and marriage.  

10 Keys to Making Marriage Last

Now that you have an understanding of what the Bible says about wise godly counsel and the risk that you take in learning from your own mistakes, I hope that you are ready to receive these keys that my husband and I have learned over the years.  We have to continually apply these keys because being married doesn’t make being married easier.  

Life adds pressure and stretches us as people.  If we want to remain married, we have to pray and work harder to remain married.  I say this because I don’t want you to think that once you start applying these keys, that you will be able to sleep on the enemy of our souls and marriages.  Satan will continually try to ambush your marriage, but you have to be wise and prayerful.  You have to continually invite God into your marriage, bedroom, and your heart.  Take authority over what is not like God, rebuking it from your relationship, and use the keys that He gives you for success in your marriage.  

A lot goes in to making marriage last.  Start with these 10 keys and watch your marriage begin to transform.  You may not like all of these keys, but they are affective and will help your marriage last, if you are prayerful in applying them.  

1) Remember that you husband loves you

2) Decided that you don’t always have to be right

3) Spend time, just being there, with your husband

4) Commit to being silent sometimes

5) Never go to bed angry and always say goodnight 

6) Commit to frequent occasions of intimacy with your husband

7) Don’t forget to laugh

8) Say thank you and express your gratitude in different ways 

9) Determine in your mind that you can take constructive criticism from your husband 

10) Challenge him and require him to challenge you. 

Bonuses: 11) Commit to remain married and never stop praying

I pray that you found these helpful and will prayerfully apply these 10 keys to making your marriage last to your marriage.  If you have any questions or comments, I’m just a message away, so don’t hesitate to reach out.  

 

In the Word of God on Marriage

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As married women, we have our opinions of marriage.  We’ve seen movies, read stories, and talked to people that all influence our thoughts and opinions of marriage.  We all want to be successful in our marriage, but it’s important that we take time to get in the word of God on marriage.  For that reason, we are going to take the time to look at some scriptures on marriage. 

Please know that I will not be going through all of the Scriptures on marriage, but we will be looking at quite a bit of them.  

My Hope for You

It is my hope that you will find encouragement for your marriage journey, by knowing that marriage is good; you will come to understand the obligation of marriage, and find clarity in what God expects from you as a godly wife.  

Why Get in the Word of God on Marriage

As you may know, I’ve been married for over 15 years now.  When my husband and I first got married, I had no idea what marriage was supposed to look like, let alone, what it meant to be in a godly marriage, as a godly woman and wife.  I had a very worldly mindset about our relationship.

I was a believer in both marriage and divorce.  I was confused.  I was afraid of being cheated on, beaten, abused, stepped on and walked over, as a doormat.  My fear of being hurt and rejected left little room for love, trust, and approval.  Still, I desperately wanted my marriage to work.  

It wasn’t until I committed to learning what God had to say on the matter and allowing that to change my mind, that my marriage was transformed.  

An invitation to renew your mind and transform your marriage

I invite you to take the same stance, as we head through these Scriptures on marriage.

Commit to learning or refreshing your memory, on what God has to say about the matter.  Also determine within yourself that you will allow the word of God to change your mind, if your mindset is contrary to the word of God.  

Finally, determine that you will do what the word of God says.

James 1:22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.  

What does the Word of God Say?

Marriage is a good thing

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:12 Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

1 Timothy 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

In the Bible, marriage is seen as a good thing.  It is honorable.  It is a sign of favor from the Lord and an honor of leadership to men. The marriage bed is a place of pleasure and a blessing from the Lord.  It was also encouraged for young women to get married.  

The solemn obligation of marriage

The Bible tells us about the solemn obligation of marriage.   According to Macmillan Dictionary  in legal matters, this phrase is used “about things such as promises that express serious intentions.”  An example of this is “Congress has a solemn obligation to vote on any commitment of US troops.”(Macmillan Dictionary) 

When we look at the solemn obligation of marriage, we must understand what the word of God is saying about the legality of the promises made in marriage and what it hold us bound to do.  In short, the bible tells us the above all there is one thing that we are supposed to do in marriage, remain as one.  There are other things, but this is one of the top priorities.  

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Let’s look at at a Biblical situation that is similar to what is mentioned in a few of the scriptures above.  

When the giant, Goliath, was terrorizing the Hebrews and no man would go up against him, Saul declared that whoever defeated him would marry his daughter, Merab.  After killing Goliath, Merab was offered to David, but he felt unworthy of becoming the king’s son-in-law.  However, Saul’s other daughter Michal, loved David.  Saul thought that she would bring David trouble, so he had David convinced to marry her.   Later, Saul sent men to kill David, but Michal helped him escape through a window.  In 1 Samuel 25:44, Michal was taken from David and given to a man named Palatial.  However, after Saul’s death, David demanded to have his wife back.  It was the only way that he would agree to be the king of Judah. (2 Samuel 3:13-16)  In verse 16, her current husband had to return her and “went alone with her to Bahurim, weeping behind her.”  After he returned her, he was sent back on his way.  

Regardless of what you think of marriage or what your opinion is, it is important that you subject your thoughts to the word of God.  By reading these scriptures, we see that God expects us to honor our promise to remain one in marriage.  We are not expected to divorce or separate. 

Duty of Godly Wives

While there are many different elements that make up the duties of godly wives, below are the ones that directly stand out regarding the woman’s role in her home and marriage. (We can examine others at another time.)

Esther 1:20 And when the king’s decree which he shall make shall be published throughout all his empire, (for it is great,) all the wives shall give to their husbands honour, both to great and small.

Proverbs 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

1 Corinthians 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

Ephesians 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

In these scriptures we see that God desires that a woman honors her husband, regardless of his stature.  She is to take care of her household and not to be lazy and idle.  She should not leave her husband.  She is expected submit to him, as she would the Lord.  She is to have characteristics that are reverent and honorable, so that if a man (her husband) needs to be turned to God, his wife would be the one to do it, respectfully and humbly. 

I don’t know if you can see it, but we as wives are to be intercessors for our husbands and respectful in character, so that we are vessels of honor before the Lord.   Please don’t take any of this to mean that we are to be treated wrong or disrespected.  God has answers for all of our troubles, but we have to start somewhere.  

We cannot read the whole Bible at one time.  

For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little: ~Isaiah 28:10

We must take in the information little by little.  

Overall

There are many things that can be and are said about marriage.  Most of the time, we hear what the world has to say.  It is all fluff and feeling.  What I have learned over the years is that marriage isn’t always about how you feel.  Love is an action word.  When my husband and I took action and got married, we vowed before God that we would remain together and be there for one another until we died.  

Some people may not wholeheartedly believe these vows to be true because of the culture, but if they are like I was, a lover of God, then their minds must change.  I had to change my mind, commitment level, and own up to my responsibility.  No, I cannot change my husband.  It took a long time to learn that, but God has a plan for my husband and I’m apart of it.  He is also a part of my becoming. 

Today we are better because we have remained together and God is with us. This is where the transformation takes place.  It starts in the mind and heart of an individual and then seeps into the marriage because you are in it.  If you allow the word and God to change you, your marriage will transform, as well.  

My husband said something to another family member that blew me away.  I had felt it, but wasn’t able to articulate it.  Once he said it, I knew that it was true and what I had been thinking all along.  He said that “we are family and we have a responsibility to one another.” 

This is the sum of it all.  Marriage can be many things, but one that it definitely is, needs to be recognized.  It is a blessed responsibility to be and become, never be alone, and discover God’s will and love you and your husband.  

I challenge you to read over these scriptures, ask God to help you accept His will, His word, and, if necessary, your husband.  

If you would like to be added to my prayer list for marriage, please send me an email or submit a comment below.  You can email me at makeda@beingmrsmom.com 

I hope and pray that you found these scriptures beneficial and that your marriage would be blessed, in the Lord.  

Being Strong When You Feel Weak

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The other day, I went to my son’s practice and watched as his coach taught them. After doing a few sprints around the gym, his coach told the kids that he needed them to say a special prayer for his friend, when they said their prayers at night. With tears in his eyes, he told them that his friend had been injured and although she was alive and conscious, all of her bones were broken. I watched this man as he led the children and then I saw it. He turned around for a moment, to gather himself, and shed a few tears. I could see that this thing was breaking his heart and he really wanted God to heal his friend, but in the middle of he is weakness he had to be strong.

This Spoke to Me

After he said these things, I sat and thought about everything. I realized that there are times in our lives that we have to be strong, even though we feel weak. We have to pull ourselves together and push past how we feel, but sometimes this can take a lot out of us. We crumble underneath the pressure of the day and life can feel like a burden to carry. If we are not careful, we could allow it to weigh us down and anxiety or depression will try to seep in.

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In our own human frailty, we try to handle our situations alone and carry the burden. For some reason, we have all convinced ourselves that we have to try to do it for others and we must do it for ourselves.  God did call us to be strong and courageous, in ourselves, He called us to be strong in Him.  He also gave us communities of believers to help us be strong in faith.

Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of His might. Ephesians 6:10

Yes, He wants us to be courageous, not because of who we are, but because of who He is. He gives us the armor of God and enables us to fight battles that aren’t humanly possible. Ephesians 6:10-20 He tells us that it is because of who we are in Him, that we are capable of standing against the wiles of the enemy.

Being Strong God’s Way

He calls us to shine our lights out into the darkness, so that all men can see our works and declare His glory. (Matthew 5:16)  What an honor it is to be a vessel of the living God. As vessels, we have to be willing to surrender to the Lord when we are too weak to handle the situations that life has brought us. In the surrender and weakness, we will find God strengthening, equipping, and leading us in how to be strong, the godly way. (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Although we may not always know how to handle life’s situations, we must remember that God is with us and if He is for us than no one can be against us. You and I don’t have to be a super hero. We don’t have to live life alone either.  We simply have to follow God and trust Him with our lives. There may be moments when we are overwhelmed and cry out to Him for help, ask others for prayers, or need someone to encourage us, but sometimes those are the moments when God shows Himself faithful the most.

 

Are You a S.T.R.O.N.G Woman?

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I was online when I saw this picture. I get the main point, but sometimes we forget to ask God what’s His point. Do you consider yourself a S.T.R.O.N.G woman? 

You might be saying, “yes! I’m strong!” You could be saying, “I’m just not strong enough.” 

Let’s look at this from the perspective of a S.T.R.O.N.G woman. She is Sensible, Teachable, Reliable, Obedient, Nurturing, and Giving.  She relies on God for her strength and is gracious in her living. This woman is fearless because she trust in God, not because of who she is. 

When I saw the image of Wonder Woman, I really did wonder. So, I’m just going to ask. 

When does Wonder Woman have time to raise a strong woman? Will she also be building a healthy relationship with the child’s father, so that she can have a healthy family background that prepares her for life?

 Ok, I know, that was two questions.

We want to raise our daughter’s to be strong, but we have to know that we have to do it God’s way. If we don’t, our daughters will struggle with the things that we ignored and gave no attention to. They will struggle with our disobedience and rebellion.  They won’t have the power to overcome rejection, anxiety, or depression because we were too busy trying to save the world, instead of answering the call of God on our lives. 

 As a strong woman, are you answering the call to be present in your home and in your relationship with God or are your duties outside of your home requiring you to constantly step away from the call of Wife and Mom?