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Am I Enough?

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I’m not sure if I’m the only mom that thinks this way, but with my fourth baby on the way, I find that I keep asking myself…”Am I enough?”

It’s not that I feel like a bad mother or anything, but there are times when I wonder if I am fully equipped to raise my four children. I thank God that I am not doing it alone. I have my wonderful husband walking alongside me as we bring up these four children.

I think part of my thinking this morning comes from watching too much Law and Order yesterday. It’s been a while since I’ve seen a show, but yesterday there was some sort of marathon on. Since I wasn’t feeling very well, I laid in my bed and watched the T.V.

With each episode, came another devastating situation. With some I wondered what could be done, but with others I asked…how could they? I’m not sure how many I watched, but the various topics got me thinking about life and the consequences of wrong doings. I could go through all the topics, but I’m not. Truthfully, I remember why I stopped watching the show on a regular basis.

Watching the show, yesterday, helped me to see that there are things that we as parents tend to project on to our children. Whether good or bad, these projections affect our children and the adults that they become.

It is my aspiration to raise my children to be responsible, respectable, and reasonable adults. I want to be proud of them, but I also want them to be proud of themselves.

So…back to my question…Am I enough?

Like the cup of juice in the photo, there is a certain amount of juice in it, but it’s up to the observer and their perspective to determine whether the glass is half empty or half full. I am choosing to look at my life and skills that I have been equipped with as…equipped. With that piece of knowledge I don’t stop equipping myself with the tools that I need to continue to improve as a mother an wife, but I am equipped for the time.

I have to remind myself that God would not put more on me that I can bear and these four children are gifts from Him. He must have seen in me what I could not fully see yet, but still chose to make me a mother of four.

I’m not sure what makes good moms go bad or do bad things to their children, but I know that I trust the moral compass and Holy Spirit within me. I will continue to read, study,research, and enquire about the different parenting techniques of raising healthy children. I won’t simply seek the teachings of the world, but that of the Bible because I know that the world is constantly changing its mind, but the Bible remains the same and so does God. As I grow and learn as an individual, it is my prayer that I will continue to be enough for my children.

If you are feeling the same way, I would encourage you to do an evaluation of yourself and then measure yourself through the word of God. If there are any ways in which you believe that you need to improve, ask God for the help. Seek the tools and answers to become better and move forward.

The more we work on being healthy people, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically, the better parents we become for our children. In essence our becoming, becomes enough for them.

Bringing Up Children

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Have you ever thought about what it takes to bring up children? How are parents supposed to help children become responsible educated adults?  Have you ever wondered what kind of time and effort it would require or the amount of commitment that it would take?

The truth is that not to many people do.  Many people may even say, “There’s nothing to it, but to do it. Right?!”

WRONG!!!

That’s right!  I used all capital letters and three exclamation points.  I want you to think about this.  There is more to it than just doing it.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  ~Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child.  Think about training and all that goes into it on the part of the trainer and the trainee.  That means that a lot of hard work, preparation, educating, correcting, and patience will be needed.  Now, that is a lot to be required of parents, but there is more that will be needed.  Parents have to be willing to make choices and to stand behind them.  They have to teach their children right from wrong and be willing to discipline them when they are wrong.  With all of that, there is more…

The world will come up against everything that a parent attempts to instill in a child.  Here are a few examples of what parents will encounter:

Parent:  “Wear you coat.”

Child:  “I don’t want to wear my coat.  Bobby, Susan, and Jane don’t have their coats on.”

Parent: “I’m not their mother.

At this point the parent will have to decide what to do.  Will the parent give in or stand behind the decision that was originally made.

Parent: “We don’t use that type of language!”

Child: “Why not?  I heard it on t.v…”

Parent: “Because it’s wrong and foul.”

Child: “But Jane talks like that all the time and her mother doesn’t say anything.”

The parent has to decide how to handle the situation.

Parents have to talk to their children about drinking, drugs, sex, friendships, faith, morals, and so much more.

It is our responsibility to teach and train our children.  When they leave our homes, they are supposed to be responsible, educated, morally good, adults.  If you are a Christian, like I am, then our children should also leave our homes filled with faith, knowing how to pray, and trust God in all situations.  They should not be afraid to make hard choices.  In fact they should expect to and realize that making those choices will change the lives of those around them.

Training up children is not easy, but it is an honorable job.  What the world wants for my children is not what is important to us.  Instead we focus in on what God wants for them.  As a mother, I teach them to be children that will one day grow into individuals of integrity who, by their lives, will  change the world around them, for the better.

So the next time you are confronted with making a hard decision as a parent, know that you are fully equipped to do so.  The decisions that you make for your children will determine who they become and who they will be when you are long gone.

It is a parent’s job to bring up their children…

 

Hold On!!!

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Sometimes I just need to say something. Not to anyone in particular. I feel like I a keeping my thoughts and feelings bottled inside and I just may burst at the seams. So, what should I do? I know…write a post. I do have a blog right?! Although there are times when I’m not too sure about putting my thought “out there,” this is of one of those times.

What an I going on and on about? What has me so rattled that I feel combustible? School. Not just school, but college as a mother and a wife. Right now, I am thanking God that I don’t work. I’m not sure if my stress comes from the fact that I haven’t been to school in over a year or if it’s just that I’m not crazy about Shakespeare. I’m really not sure. What I do know is that school is trying to kick my butt.

Scheduling all of my and my children’s activities, studying, completing assignments, cooking, cleaning, and still looking good isn’t easy. But, I’ll be ok.