Today I was on the phone with a friend. Not a person that just sits and listens, but a real friend that talks back. She knows me. She knows how I think and often times what I’m going to say. She is married and a mother of multiple children, just like me. She normally understands my struggles and my triumphs. When we got off the phone, I was refreshed as always, when I speak to her. Our conversation got me to thinking of what a real friend is.
There are a few things about her that I know are qualities of my other good friend…
They listen to me
They talk to me about the good and the bad
They call me on my mess because they love me and are honest
They pray for me
They tell me what the word of God says about my situation
They know when something is wrong and try to do something about it
They are trustworthy
Neither distance nor time separates us
Now this is not the full list of qualities of a real friend, but the truth is that with real friendships, both parties prosper. Real friends are those people who are willing to invest in you. They invest whatever they have to give. Even if the only thing they have is their heart. (And what a great investment…) When you are married, you husband knows who your real friends are…even if you don’t know yet. I know my husband does.
I have felt alone at times, but I know it was for the purposes that God has planned ahead of time. Those times have been for me to grow closer to Him and to grow as a woman, but I also know that my real friends have been sitting in the background praying for me.
Thank God for real friends…
Amen to that. I feel that close friends fill in each others’ gaps and make a whole – sort of like a marriage.
My thoughts exactly. When you have really close friends you feel the connection and know that it’s real. No one goes lacking.