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What About The TODO List?

May 29, 2015 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

If you are anything like me, when Friday comes around, you are thinking back on all of the things that you accomplished during the week.

You may even be thinking of the things that you didn’t get done.

That’s me…

I’m normally looking at my to-do list.

I start listing the millions of things that I could do today because it’s the end of the week and I had a goal in mind.

Then, I am hit with something…it happens each and every time.

YOU CAN’T DO EVERYTHING, ALL AT ONCE, ALL OF THE TIME!

Suddenly, I am hit with this reality and I’m stuck.

“What?! I had so much to get done. I can do some of it…”

The truth is that I can’t and neither can you…

“We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.” Proverbs 16:9

No matter how much we plan on doing, there are just some things that God never intended for us to do.

I don’t know about you, but I find that refreshing.

I can make as many plans as I want, but God has orchestrated my life. He has already set aside those things that I will accomplish. Not only has He set those things aside, but He is there with me in that moment to help me accomplish them. All of the things that I’ve been planning are preparation for, in my mind… It is my participation in the process, but my extreme standard or all work and no play, is not THE standard.

So the to-do list can continue to grow, but I am happy that God has set aside the things that He wants me to accomplish and I’m sure that I will get those things done in the near future…

Until then I will just breathe…

Morning Pondering

July 17, 2014 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

I should be sleeping right now, but I can’t. I have so much on my mind right now. I was going to sit down and begin to complain through this post, I I have suddenly had a change of heart.

I am very well aware of many of my life’s problems. I have read many of the bad reports through the news and other forms of media. I have contemplated the negative. I have even taken the time to allow my mind to think the worst, which I don’t recommend. Yet in the midst of all of this, I was quickly reminded of how blessed I am.

I remembered all of the people and things that God has so graciously blessed me with. I am truly thankful.

I realize that I could be somewhere else doing anything else, but I’m here. I breathing, healthy, a mother, wife, daughter, friend, cousin, and so much more. So today this will be my mission. I will continue to reflect in God’s unfailing mercy toward me. I will remember His word that He has spoke over me, my family, my marriage, my children. I will reflect, remember, and remind myself that God has, is, and will continue to supply all of my needs.

I know all of this may seem a bit sporadic, but this is me this morning. I will refocus my thoughts and give everyone the attempts to take hold of my thoughts and consume me, to God

I am eternally thankful for God’s love, grace, and unmerited favor. I don’t deserve anything that I have. Yet He has seen fit to bless me abundantly.

My prayer for today is that my life may bring Him praise. That he may look upon my life and smell a pleasant aroma of worship.

Unto to you O God, on this day, I give You all that I am. Have your way with my life. For once again, I surrender my all to you. – in Jesus name…Amen

In The Times Of Stretching

March 24, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Today I told myself that I would write a post about disappointments. I wanted to write how I handle them and my perspective about the situations that I face.

I mean, who doesn’t face disappointing situations…

Yet, I am not exactly sure how this post will come together because I am no longer just writing about disappointments, but I am also writing about being overwhelmed and our perspective of God in the midst of it.

These times are what I call “The Times Of Stretching.”

I just read a post and an email about the emotions and thoughts that we all experience sometimes. The authors posed a question. Does God put more on us that we can bear. If you want to check out the post that I’m referring to, you can do so here.

Who hasn’t felt overwhelmed and discouraged…worried or depressed?

I want to say that I believe that we have all felt this way before. I believe that in the midst of a situation or trial, the weight of a thing can feel so heavy that we don’t think that we can carry it. Yet, just because we feel a certain way doesn’t mean that it is that way.

What do I mean? Trust me, I understand that it may sound like I’m speaking jibberish, but follow me for a minute…

When we are going through any type of trial or testing, we are very uncomfortable.

It’s like having a baby…there is pain, but we are able to bear it and for those of us that don’t believe that we are strong enough to bear the pain in the end, there is a medication to help up get through it…

Life is this way as well. In the midst of a trial or a situation, we can feel like the situation will never end. Or when it finally does, we will be dead somewhere because we weren’t strong enough to make it through.

The thing is…God doesn’t expect us to do any of this without Him. He knew what we would endure and what we are made of. He placed certain things in us that only come out when we are tested and tried by fire.

Have you ever thought of the process that a beautiful piece of jewelry goes through before the beauty is revealed?

Beneath the surface of these rocks is something very beautiful, but the beauty is not exposed simply by gently holding the rock in you hand.

People search for rocks that have golden nuggets within them. Yes, they are of high value, but one of the reasons why is because of the unexpected beauty found inside of a thing that seemed to be dead and useless. Have you ever felt that way? I have…

After being tried by the fire and put through a process, something beautiful appears.

We are no different…situation, circumstances, and trials… they make us stronger. The the trial brings about perserverance. The perserverance brings about character

…for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. ~Romans 5:3-5

Now the question still stands…

Does God put more on us than we can bear?

No, he does not. He has already given us all that we need to endure the situation. There are qualities in us and the power of the Holy Spirit, coupled together to strengthen us. The question is, are we willing to go through the trial or tribulation.

No trial has overtaken you that is not faced by others. And God is faithful: He will not let you be tried beyond what you are able to bear, but with the trial will also provide a way out so that you may be able to endure it. ~1 Corinthians 10:13

Now although a way of escape has been made, we still have to choose to take it.

You know, most of the time the test, trial, and tribulation has more to do with the Word and power of God in us, than they have to do with us…

We receive the benefits of bearing, overcoming, and enduring a trial, but the trial was there to test the Word in us…

(I digress…)

What happens if we don’t choose to take the way of escape that has been provided for us at the appropriate time?

Well, we have now taken more upon ourselves than we can bear.

God was standing in front of us with a huge sign saying “Take the exit on the right.” Yet we chose to continue to veer to the left. This is where we begin to blame God for our short comings, over plate filling, and disappointments.

I do not say this as someone who has not experienced this…Trust me! I know this from experience.

It is imperative that we pay attention and get off at the right exit.

But when we don’t, we begin to experience doubt, condemnation, discouragement, and disappointment. We forget that God always has our best interest at heart and we begin to blame Him for our wrong turn. ( Did you know that sin is to simply miss the mark?)

We have all done that and I dare to say that we do it daily…that’s why we have and need a Savior.

(Again I digress)

So what are we supposed to do when we have digressed from the path and veered off just a tad bit. It is at this point that we may begin to feel a bit of anger or discouragement within ourselves. Here’s what I’ve learned from my experience and how I’ve learned to handle it…

Allow yourself to feel the way that you feel…briefly (DON’T STAY THERE)
Assess the situation…thoroughly (Ask questions like… Why? Did I contribute to it? Can I do anything better next time? How can I move on?
Pray for wisdom.
Accept your part
Ask God to forgive you & Forgive yourself and others
Make a list of the things you can do to move forward (pray when you are worried, afraid, tempted, troubled, hurting, angry, bitter, ect)
Change your mind about it. ( You have power over your own mind and you have the ability to change it. Search the word for what God says about the situation and conform your thoughts to that…this requires believing the word, HONESTLY)
Remember God can and will work it out for your good.
Commit to your plan
Remember that Romans 10:11 says that no one that puts their trust and faith in Him will ever be put to shame.
Do what you can
Let God do the rest

These times aren’t always easy. In fact they are some of the hardest times in our lives. Yet, looking back on them, we will see it differently than we feel it now.

The goal is to trust God through the stretching, remember that He is on your side, and be resilient.

When Loving Is Hard To Do

January 12, 2013 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Let me start off by saying that I have not thought this post through. I am just writing because I feel like it. I have no idea where I’m going or how this will end. What I do know is that I feel this.

There are times in life when things just don’t make much sense. The events that occur are not pretty or pleasant, but they happen. When that time comes, we are faced with a serious decision…

How to handle it?

Seriously…I feel like tht question has slapped me in that face. How will I continue to be myself and love those I love without changing. Some people change in the midst of making this decision. They become harsh and mean. Some become arrogant and prideful. Others become so broken by the situation that their life is drastically affected, by the event and the decision.

I know that God loves us even when we are wrong. Yet, He does not turn a blind eye to our sin. He sees it for what it is and deals with us accordingly, but with mercy. This is how He loves us. Our prayers may be hindered, we may have to walk through some hard places, but the truth is that it could all be over quicker that a twinkle of an eye. That all depends on us. All God is waiting on to meet us, help us, and forgive us is repentance. If we decide that we are beyond repentance, He take a few steps back because the Bible says that sin effects people in steps. The ultimate step is death. He longsfor us to live abundant lives and to continually be connected to Him, but the choice is ours.

I said all that to say, God never changes and since God is love, I want to love they way that He loves. There is no magic formula as to how to love someone when it gets hard besides, love like He loves. With this knowledge, I have chosen to seek Him about my current situation. I have to understand how to love someone that has hurt me without destroying who they are or becoming someone else, myself. I want to imitate God and love the way He does. I just see His way as freeing to both the lover and the lovee.

I am almost positive that this will not be easy. I kinda think this is going to take a while. With the little inlking that I have, I pray for the dedication to remain loving throughout this whole process. I realize that this is natural…sometimes loving is hard to do

I Don’t Agree…

June 5, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

About a year ago, when I first began my blog, I found some other blogs that I though I may find interesting. I never fully began reading the post on each blog, but I did have a few of the sent to my email. I would normally skim the contents of the posts that were in the RSS and determine whether or not I wanted to read them and then filter them out that way. I thought that I had picked blogs that I felt stood in the same place that I did as far a relationship with God, motherhood, marital standing, and other important issues. However, today to my surprise, I realized that I didn’t do that with one of the sites that I am subscribed to and that I commented on today.

It was a pretty weird situation for me once I realized the mistake that I had made and I wondered how I had overlooked it before. I first noticed it when I went to add this person of twitter. I realized that there was something very strange about the name that she had chosen. I figured that perhaps I was just reading too much into the subject, but then after hours of looking at other blogs, I visited the site again. What I found saddened me because I look forward to making new connections. I was sad because like me, she likes crafting, she is a natural haired African-American woman. She blogged frequently. It wasn’t until I saw all of the “pride” photos, that I realized that the thing that separated us was our thoughts and beliefs on the will of God for our lives as women in relationships towards men. This could be thought of as a superficial issue, but it isn’t. This means that we think very different about a lot of things. We would not be able to walk together as women, nor to agree on many things because we are standing in two very different places.

Instead of exposing her, I am choosing to pray…I pray that God would bring her to a place of knowing Him and his love for her. I pray that she would one day realize how she has been deceived and be willing to turn her heart back to the Father who loves her dearly. I pray that she would make choices in her life that would result in life changing events that would propel her towards the heart of God. I pray that she would know that I don’t hate her, but instead I love her as a child of God and this is the reason why I cannot support her blog. Most of all, I pray that she would turn from her ways and come to know Jesus in such a way that she would begin to help others like herself come to know Him as well.

Although I don’t agree with her, I choose to believe that God will rapture her back to Himself.

God

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