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Open Letter to a Celebrity

April 29, 2016 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

 

When was the last time that someone held you accountable
Told you when you were right and wrong
When was the last time that they didn’t just listen to your beat or dance to your song
How long did you spend thinking about the decisions that you’ve made
Not just about the opportunity or how much you’ll get paid
When did you consider your influence and the power to inspire change
Have you realized that you could motivate some to do good and others to fail
Maybe you don’t realize they’re hanging on to your coattail
You say you want to make a statement and you have something to say
Have you considered your actions
Humbled yourself for a moment to just pray
Why are you so adamant on going against the grain
Not the one that makes you popular but the one that declares His name
I know your not religious or at least when it comes to this
You believe you can do whatever you want and still receive His blessed kiss
Now up until this moment, you were considering my words
Don’t let what others say confuse you and make you act absurd
Yes there are things that you can do which defame your name
They make you look bad and bring you shame
There are those that may pay you very well
But the price that you pay…it’s your soul that you sell
Now consider my question and consider your call
Do you have someone to hold you accountable at all

Sincerely a praying sister concerned and watching,

Makeda

Filed Under: Letters, Living Honestly Tagged With: accountability, celebrity, choices, decisions, letter

The Choices That We Make

January 27, 2015 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

Over the course of our life times we are faced with choices.

Our life experiences shape the way that we view the world and in a way, they predetermine the choices that we make…unless something or someone intervenes to help reshape the way that we view the world.

In this manner, our relationships become as important, if not more important than the experiences that we’ve had.

Last night, I sat and had a conversation with my husband about a few things.   I realized, once again, that it is important to get wise counsel before making a choice, if I’m not sure what to do.  (And in many cases, even when I’m sure what to do)

You see, just because we view the world in a specific way doesn’t mean that it’s the way that the world should be viewed.  Just because we want to handle a situation a certain way, doesn’t mean that we should…

Sometimes…most of the times…no, all of the times…it is important for us to thoroughly consider the choices that we make.  How will our choices affect other people?  How will they affect us?

We have to take our time to make the proper, correct, right choice…the one that represents us…

I am thankful for my husband.  I am thankful for his wisdom.  I am thankful for our unity.

It is my hope that I would always be able to consider the various options before me and the effects of each choice that I make, wisely.

Have you ever realized that your choices should be thoroughly considered and in considering them, you changed your mind?  If so, what or who made you see this?  What would the outcome have been like if you made the other choice?  Please share…

Filed Under: Early Mornings & Late Nights, Feelings, Reflection, Reflections, Relationships, Thoughts Tagged With: choices, decisions, experiences, life, relationship, right choices, wisdom

Decisions Decisions

March 21, 2014 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

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Question Mark Puzzle Shows Asking QuestionsThis morning, I am faced with a very important decision.

I have a lot on my mind and I don’t have a lot of time to make this decision.

Sometimes the choices make the decision an easy one.  I am quickly able to decide what I want to do based on the available choices.  I want one thing or the other…but what happens when I am offered two things that I want?  This is what happens…I don’t know what to do.

Now here I am.  I am stuck…I was just stuck a couple of days ago.  I need to decide what I want and what I want to do.  I am going to have to weigh my options. Pros Cons Buttons Show Positive Or Negative

What are the pros and cons. Does one out weigh the other.  A part of me wishes that someone could help me make this decision.  While the other part of me is happy that I get to do this all on my own.  I just have to make sure that I don’t get stressed in the process of decision making.

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I have to admit.  I am glad that there is no right or wrong in this decision.  I just have different options.  That makes it easier and harder.  When things are either right or wrong, it is easier to make a decision because I either want to do the right thing or the wrong thing.  Yet this is harder because it is simply a matter of preference. New Career On Laptop Showing New Employment Or Future Occupation

Its like when making a new career choice.  Neither of the options are right or wrong, unless it is a question of the legality of a thing, but it is simply a matter of preference.  That’s what this is for me.  It is a decision that will affect my future in a positive way no matter what I choose. (Both things are legal of course 🙂 )  Yet, still there is a little bit of confusion on my part because I’m not exactly sure what I want to do.  Careers Advice Monitor Confusion Shows Employment Guidance And Decisions

Which is why I am feeling a little bit confused.  Whenever this happens, I have to research the options.  I have to find out all that I can about the options and then decide how I feel and what I think of the choices.  This often times helps me.  Whatever I decide, I kinda have to hurry up.  I am in a bit of a time crunch.  I have to make a decision very soon.  Once I make my choice, there is no going back.  It will be a sealed dun deal… unless God steps in and changes things, which is very possible…

Time To Decide Message Means Decision And Choice The clock is ticking.

Decisions…Decisions…

What shall I do?

I will say this.  I take comfort in knowing that whatever I decide, God will work it out for my good.  Oh and trust me when I say that I am praying.  I am waiting to hear His voice on the decision, but I have a feeling that this will be like a few other things that I have had to choose in the past…the Lord will tell me that He will bless either one. You know, I can plan my way, but He will order my steps.(Proverbs 16:9) I just want to make the wisest decision.

Now it’s time for the fun part.  It’s time for me to research it all, to weigh it all, and to actually make the choice…

 

Filed Under: Decisions Tagged With: decisions

My Job

September 25, 2013 By Mrs. Mom 2 Comments

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I have a friend that is trying to decide what she wants to do right now.  She is trying to figure out if she wants to be a stay at home mom or if she wants to go to work outside of the home.  This inspired me because I have found that working outside of the home right now would mean working two jobs, for me.  Now some people may not agree with me, but I don’t sit at home twiddling my thumbs everyday.  There is a lot of work to do around here.  Did I mention that there are six of us?  That means that there is a never ending load of laundry here.  There are always dishes to wash, food to cook, diapers to change, and a person that needs some sort of help with something.

For me, at this stage in my mothering, to work outside of the home would be draining.  One of my jobs would suffer.  It would either be my family and home, or my job outside of the house.

 When my time comes to work outside of the home, my kids will be older and I will be able to handle the load of both responsibilities.  I think that will be when all of my children are in school.  I know many women can do it and they do it everyday, but I feel it is beyond what I can handle right now.  I want to give my family my best and this is how I do it.

To all of the mothers that do it outside of the house, may God bless and strengthen you.

To all of the mothers like me who do it inside of the house, my prayer is the same. May God bless and strengthen you.

To the mothers that are in the process of deciding, may God help you to make a wise decision as you contemplate the two.

We all need prayer, patience, and a bit more wisdom.

Filed Under: Daily, Decisions, Mothering, Mrs. Mom Speaks, Work At Home Tagged With: decisions, prayer, SAHM, working outside

When Loving Is Hard To Do

January 12, 2013 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

Let me start off by saying that I have not thought this post through. I am just writing because I feel like it. I have no idea where I’m going or how this will end. What I do know is that I feel this.

There are times in life when things just don’t make much sense. The events that occur are not pretty or pleasant, but they happen. When that time comes, we are faced with a serious decision…

How to handle it?

Seriously…I feel like tht question has slapped me in that face. How will I continue to be myself and love those I love without changing. Some people change in the midst of making this decision. They become harsh and mean. Some become arrogant and prideful. Others become so broken by the situation that their life is drastically affected, by the event and the decision.

I know that God loves us even when we are wrong. Yet, He does not turn a blind eye to our sin. He sees it for what it is and deals with us accordingly, but with mercy. This is how He loves us. Our prayers may be hindered, we may have to walk through some hard places, but the truth is that it could all be over quicker that a tinkle of an eye. That all depends on us. All God is waiting on to meet us, help us, and forgive us is repentance. If we decide that we are beyond repentance, He take a few steps back because the Bible says that sin effects people in steps. The ultimate step is death. He longsfor us to live abundant lives and to continually be connected to Him, but the choice is ours.

I said all that to say, God never changes and since God is love, I want to love they way that He loves. There is no magic formula as to how to love someone when it gets hard besides, love like He loves. With this knowledge, I have chosen to seek Him about my current situation. I have to understand how to love someone that has hurt me without destroying who they are or becoming someone else, myself. I want to imitate God and love the way He does. I just see His way as freeing to both the lover and the lovee.

I am almost positive that this will not be easy. I kinda think this is going to take a while. With the little inlking that I have, I pray for the dedication to remain loving throughout this whole process. I realize that this is natural…sometimes loving is hard to do

Filed Under: Reflections Tagged With: agape, decisions, love, love of God

What about Halloween? The obvious…

October 25, 2012 By Mrs. Mom Leave a Comment

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This image is only to display the obvious images that are present on Halloween

Today, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to say regarding this topic.  The more I thought, the more I wanted to say.  The more I wanted to say the more I thought of you, the reader.  I wondered if you would actually take the time to read this article and if you did, would you ask yourself…What about Halloween?  I wondered if you would question the things that you see and the things that are around you.  I wondered if you would see, the obvious.

Now when I say “the obvious,” I am not saying that this is something that we all see.  Instead I am saying that it is something that we should all see, but have been trained to ignore.  Thus the obvious becomes the irrelevant and the invisible.  To some degree, the obvious also becomes the ignored or the accepted.  I know, I’ve said a lot, but let me explain.

Today I took my daughter to ballet.  While there the ballet teacher told my daughter and the other children to wear their Halloween costumes to class next Thursday.  Immediately, I said, “We don’t celebrate Halloween,” and then smiled.  Another parent that was standing by me said, “We don’t really celebrate it either and someone asked me, why it’s ok for Mormons to celebrate it.” This mother is a Mormon and she knows that I’m a Christian, so she looked at me and asked why? She said, “The costumes are fun, just don’t get all Satanish about it.”  I looked at her, surprised that she actually wanted to know my thoughts and reasoning about Halloween and I began.

Every year, during the month of October, the stores are filled with images of things that are gross and frightening.  The costumes that go on sale are ones that would only frighten an adult, let alone a child.  Although many adults see these costumes as harmless, if it were not Halloween and a person was walking around dressed as a witch because she was one or an ax murder, people would run and find the nearest police officer and then go straight home.  The encounter would be considered the worst experience ever, until the next horrific occasion arose.

The Decor

During this time of year, decorations are put all over.  This is no different from any other celebratory occasion, but the type of decor is rather strange.  Skeletons, witches, grave yards, monsters, bats, spiders, blood, severed limbs…must I say more?  The images that begin to appear during the month of October are normally considered horrific or inappropriate, but this is the only time that it is acceptable.  I was told by someone recently that a man was driving around with a limb hanging out of the back of his trunk.  I’m sure that many people thought it was funny, but the truth is that he could have really had a dead person in his car and no one would have known, simply because its close to Halloween.

In my neighborhood, here in Utah, people have applied fake blood to their doors and hung skeletons from their trees.  There are multiple life-size replicas of Frankenstein, dead bodies, scary children with bleeding feet crouched on the ground, there are even chairs that rock all by them selves.  The children in the neighborhood are afraid to walk to school because of the severed limbs placed in the front yards of neighbors who have turned their homes into portraits of death.

The Representing Figures of Halloween

I have already discussed the decor that is seen during this particular time of year.  Let’s now look at the symbols and figures of Halloween.

The Witch

When you look up witch on the internet, here is one of the first things that comes up.

“Practitioners of the Wiccan religion, known as witches, exist around the world, though witches with supernatural powers are creatures of myth.” ~Ask.com

Images of witches have been portrayed all over television.  They have been in books and fairytale.  When you think of a witch, what do you think of?  I think of a woman dressed in dark-colored clothes, with a weird look about her.  I think of broomsticks, magic, and witch craft.  I think of a woman trying to conjure up a spell to control another human being.  I think of black magic.  No I am a Christian and I believe that magic is against God.  We will visit this in more detail in another article, but ask yourself what you believe for a moment about God and magic.Now that you have done that, you might be saying that I am going overboard because there is no such thing as a witch.  They are made up right?!  Think again.

Digispy.com has an article posted about a practicing wiccan that is renting her home out every night during the month of October.  Her intent is to teach people magic.  She has been practicing magic for 25 years and is a witch.

 “I’m really excited to show all my guests the true meaning of Halloween and how to get into the spirit of things – after all, who knows how to celebrate Halloween better than a witch?”
Starza will give guests a history of Wicca, in addition to personalised Tarot card readings. She is also offering spell lessons and potion-making for guests who choose to partake. ~digitalspy.com

Did you catch that? The true meaning of Halloween.

Other figures of Halloween are the vampire, the werwolf, the ghost, the skeleton, that grave yard, and zombies. Each of these figures are representations of death.  I will be writing another article on these figures.

 

The Ritual: the Candy

During the month of October candy is one of the items that quickly goes on the shelves at the grocery stores and it is sold out quick.  THose who participate in Halloween rack up on their stock of candy because they want to have a pleasing sweet treat for all of the children that will knock on their doors.

Children that will knock on their doors?

Yes…

Do you remember what you were taught about taking candy from strangers?

Do you realize what you teach your children about taking candy from strangers?

Yet every year on October 31st, parents allow their children to go door to door and take candy from strangers.  They even smile and tell the children that it’s fun…all for a celebration…what is being celebrated?

Are you getting it?

The Obvious Lesson…

For years, I didn’t know.  I walked around like everyone else, participating in Halloween.  Then I began to have a relationship with the Lord, and my eyes began to open to the obvious things that I could not see before.  Over time, I realized that Halloween was something that took all that I believed, stood for, and taught my kids, and turned it around.  On October 31, someone was making a mockery of me.  On October 31st, I stood for nothing.  All I wanted was to have fun because, well, it was fun, right?! Or was it?  If I had not been taught by the world around me that this and all of the activities that surrounded Halloween were ok, for this one day, I would have though that something was wrong.  I would have, like you, never participated in such a gory, frightening, celebration of…what is being celebrated?

I have only presented you with what you can see with your own eyes.  It is up to you to begin to look at things through a clear lens.  You have to ask questions.  If you do, you’ll get answers.

I pray that God will touch your heart and show you the truth about Halloween.

Join me tomorrow for day two of What about Halloween.


Filed Under: Halloween, Living Honestly, Mothering Tagged With: celebrations, choices, decisions, evil, Halloween, obvious, reality, wicked

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