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Getting It Out Of My System

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Every have so much on your mind that you can’t function?

Ever have to focus on one thing, but can’t seem to because you are focusing on something else?

Well, that’s me today.  I have to do a lot of school work, but my head really isn’t in it today.  I can’t let it just sit. I’m really good at that.  If there were a class for letting your papers sit until the day before they are due…I’d get an A.  In fact, I think they would ask me to teach the class.  This is actually a habit that I am working on breaking.  I am trying to make sure that I am more consistent in what I am doing.

I have really big dreams, goals, and aspirations, but I often times let the fear of failure get in my way.  It stops me in my tracks.  I long to be so perfect at all that I do, that at times, I end up doing nothing.

OK…After writing that, I am asking myself if I really want to publish it and my answer is yes, I do.  I don’t want to hide behind a lie or a fa-sad of perfection, knowing that I am a work in progress.

If you’ve read my blog any, then you know that I am on a mission to encourage myself and others to be 100% authentic.  So this is my space of grace for myself today as I say how I really feel about that topic.

This isn’t even the reason why I was writing this post, but I just went there and it’s ok…

The things that I have on my mind are knitting…

20140120-120511.jpgRemember this sweater?  Well, mine will be a bit different, but I’m still working on it.  I just have to make sure that I find the time to knit.  With all of my other projects, it feels impossible, but…you make time to do what you want to do, right?!

I am also thinking about working on my new web design website.

simplyinspiredlaunchpadYes, that’s right!  I am establishing myself as a web designer.  I will be working on the web development in the near future.  However, the first step is to set up my design site.  I am so excited about this!  If you’d like to get in contact with me about designing your site send me an email at admin@simplyinspireddesigns.com .  You can also check out the website.  It will launch on April 15, 2014.  The site is http://simplyinspireddesigns.com

What else do I have on my mind?

Oh not much.  Just getting into grad school, reading, a few book reviews that I’ve been asked to do, my podcast, and Blog Talk Radio show,  my new bible study coming up, a crochet project to be completed, a website to be updated, a proposal to be sent out, a blanket to finish, another website project, and a card to make for a special young lady.  That’s about it…no there’s more.  I’m just going to stop for now.  None of this includes the things that I do for my family.  😉

I have a to-do list to make sure that I am not overwhelmed by it all. Oh and I’m blogging about it to get it out of my system.

Now I can focus on my school work.

Do you ever have times when you feel like you can’t move forward with something because you have too many other things on your mind?  What do you do to make sure that you are able to focus?  Do you have a characteristic that you are working on, like me…consistency?  Share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment below.

Here’s to getting focused!!!

Have a nice day 🙂

 

 

I Am Poem

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Poems

I am creative and caring.
I wonder if I’ll live to be 199.
I hear the sound of my little baby girl singing.
I see love dancing in her eyes.
I want a spinning wheel.
I am creative and caring.

I pretend that I am a singer on a stage
I feel apprehensive and concerned.
I touch God’s hands in the sky.
I worry about my mom sometimes.
I cry when I think those that reject God’s love.
I am creative and caring.

I understand that people have their own choices.
I say that love changes people.
I dream of owning a great business that encourages others.
I try to think of other people’s feelings before I speak.
I hope my husband is alright.
I am creative and caring.

(The idea for this poem came from a prompt that my son had for a homework assignment)

Using Wisdom When Frustrated

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Just because I have a blog doesn’t mean that it’s ok for me to vent about my frustrations when I am upset. It doesn’t mean that I have to pretend that I’m ok, but I need to be wise. I need to act in a manner that would represent me. A way that I would be proud to stand before God and claim.

Why am I saying this?

Well, if you can’t already tell, I’m frustrated…and as much as I would love to explain why, I’m not going to. What I am going to discuss is how I’m going to handle my frustration.

Well, first of all. I’m taking the time to be alone. I’m sitting in the bathroom with the shower water running. Yes, I’ll be getting I. The shower soon, but I needed to do this first. I’m going to take a moment to myself.

Next I’m going to pray…selah…
Yup, I just stopped and prayed.

I’m doing my best not to complain about the situation because I read a a scripture this morning that discouraged arguing and complaining. It was Philippians 2:14, 15

14 Do everything without grumbling or arguing, 15 so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky

As I meditate on this scripture, I’m going to take a shower. Maybe that will help me cool down a bit. I’m going to take care of myself. That always helps a bit when things are frustrating.

While in the shower, I prayed again. I quieted my soul and mind. I felt like God was saying that I didn’t need to worry because he would take care of the situation.

After getting out, I told myself that I had given the situation to God and was not going to go back and get it. I am now ok. I’m not worried, frustrated, or angry.

The key was trusting God. There are times when this is harder than others, but it’s apart of my foundation.

This is how I do it. I hope it helps someone.

Taking A Moment

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Today was a rather stressful day. My back was hurting all day. I had relational issues with a friend. My kids had their moments, as all do.

Since there was so much going on, I has to sit down and rest. That wasn’t a short term thing. This is the type of rest means I’m not cooking. I’m ordering pizza. I am going to take a seat. After giving baths, I’ll be resting for the rest if the night.

In order to process my feelings and not snap on anyone, I am going to do what I know will help me. I’m going to pray and journal.

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What do you do when you have a stressful day?

Thoughts on my hair…

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Have you ever thought of cutting your hair? How about perming it?

I have spent the past four years natural. I haven’t cut, permed, or changed the state of my hair chemically since I did my big chop. I really love my hair, when it looks the way that I want it to. Yet there are times, like today, when I really don’t feel like messing with it. I have 4a/b hair. What does that mean? Well, it means that I have tightly coiled hair. My hair is shoulder length, but after washing it, it shrinks above my ear. This can be really frustrating because it takes a lot to actually style it.

Actually, I’m sitting here right now trying to figure out what I’ve been doing with my hair for the past four years…Oh how quickly the time flies by.

I think many black women that have transitioned their hair to it’s natural state go through the same thing. We each cope with it in different ways and try to find different ways of handling “the hair crisis.”

Patience…that’s what it takes. The only way to figure out what works for me is to try different things. In the process, I’ll figure out what works and what doesn’t work…

This is what I think of my hair today…uh…

Sometimes It All Looks Grey

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I am sitting here thinking about my day. Being 21 weeks pregnant equals a semi big belly, three kids running around, a husband that needs me, and a big bag of emotions. Now, as I’m thinking about all of this, I felt the urge to write a blog post, but I began to ask myself a question

How am I supposed to write about something, while I’m going through it?

See, the truth is, I have read many blog posts where people are portraying the best parts of their lives, but any true writer begins to write and quickly desires to share it with someone. For me, that’s my blog. I have a journal that I write in frequently, but there are times when is much rather blog about it. I don’t know why, but it feels, like my work has been published and someone who knows how I feel will read it, instead of someone who knows me reading it or no one at all. Now there are some things that I don’t want to publish at all, but what about the things I just want to say?! How am I supposed to write about things that I am going through?

I ask this because I don’t want to put my family out there, embarrass my family or friends, nor do I want to expose things that should not be discussed. I look at the situation and I don’t see any black or white. I want to give God glory in everything, but when I see grey, I am at a stand still.

I just read a blog where the writer talked about things that were, obviously, very hard to discuss, but she is helping a lot of people. I want to have that impact as well. I’m not sure that I can do that when I am seeing grey. Yet I know that there will be times when I’ll have to write about those hard things.

For the time being, I am going to pray, write, and pray some more. Prayer always helps me to see things clearly. I believe it will help me write in a clear way as well. In essence, I’m saying that I want to see things through the eyes of God when I can’t see things clearly and even when I can…