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‘Tis the Season to Be Wise

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It’s that time of year again.  We are celebrating the birth of Christ, the love of family, and making sure that our hearts are merry and bright.  Still, let’s not forget all of the other things that we are doing.  We are decorating, planning, and shopping.  However, in the midst of everything that we are doing, we need to realize this one thing. ‘Tis the season to be wise. 

Why Now?

You might be wondering why we are looking at wisdom during the holiday season.  

Well, if we are honest with ourselves, wisdom is the one thing that can be lacking at this time of year which will leave a lasting impact on the next year or so of your life.  

It can sometimes feel like the real reason for Christmas has been lost in all of the ads, purchases, sales, gadgets, trinkets, lists, and things to do.  We can easily forget about the birth of Jesus, being thankful for the gifts of God, and even having a festive occasion with loved ones.  

When walking out of the house and into any store, we are bombarded with the sales of things that we really don’t need.  When turning on the television, we are shown the latest gadgets and promised happiness. 

Now is the time for us to use wisdom.  

We have to be diligent to focus on what is important and lasting. 

I’m not saying that we can’t shop.  I’m not telling you not to go to the stores.  I’m just saying that now is the time for you to think before you leap.  

How can you use wisdom today? Do these 5 Things …

When considering the season, be excited about all that is happening.  There is no reason why you should be stressed about life, if you view it the right way.  Truthfully, you could go all out and spend as much money as you want, trying to make everyone happy.  You could put up all of the decorations and lights needed to feel like Christmas is coming, but at the end of the night, you have to make sure that you feel good about what you’ve done.

I want to encourage you to use wisdom today and everyday of this season by doing these five things.

  1. Encourage those that you meet and encounter to “Have a Merry Christmas.”  It is a small thing to smile at another person and ask how they are doing.  You’d be surprised how many people are having a horrible day, month, and even year.  Smiling at them might make a difference.  Asking how their day is going and waiting for an answer might help them feel like they matter. Saying “have a Merry Christmas” might give them hope.  This is the first part to using wisdom because it’s about you pouring into another person.  It gets you out of your own head and situation, so that you can see what life is like for other people.  Not everyone is happy that it’s December.  
  2. Make lists of things that you want to purchase for family and friends, prior to spending.  While there are sales going on, you have to remember that the advertiser is not aware of your budget.  Even if they were, I’m not 100% sure that it would matter.  The sales are going to be there and everything is going to look like the perfect opportunity to get a great deal.  However, it’s your job to make sure that you are staying focused on why you are in the store.  When you don’t have a list, you can exceed your budget and if you are not careful, that could impact your life next year.  Be careful with accumulating debt for Christmas.  Those bills will still need to be paid, so don’t spend beyond your means.
  3. Evaluate your spending before you get to the register.  This might seem a bit tedious, but it’s important that you look at what you have in your cart or hands prior to getting to the register.  You may not have realized all of the things that you put in it, while walking through the store.  You can keep a calculator with you and tally up your estimated bill, so that you can spend according to what you can afford.  Don’t worry about the people around you.  We should all take a moment to do this, so that we aren’t stressing later on about the money that has been spent on impulse.  You also want to make sure that things ring up at the price that they were listed on the shelves.  Many people are over charged by the stores because the system didn’t charge them the listed or sale price.  Don’t worry about how long it takes.  If the person behind you is in a hurry, he or she can go to another line.  If the cashier is in a hurry, that’s ok.  He or she isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, so make sure that you are being charged the correct price. 
  4. Be realistic in expectations from others for gift giving.  This might be confusing, so let me explain.  You might have told someone that you want something very expensive.  Perhaps you said that you didn’t want anything at all.  Yet in reality you are expecting the most expensive, high quality item that money could buy.  It is important that you don’t encourage excessive spending from loved ones.  You don’t want them to go into debt paying for items that they could not afford, just to make you happy.  Plus, that happiness will only be temporary.  If you know that you and your husband have a budget, don’t tell him that you want something that is out of the budget.  You know what you want to do for your children or other family members.  You know the bills that you have to pay.  As a woman of wisdom, you should find something within an acceptable price range to add to your lists of desired gifts.  Even if you don’t tell anyone what you want and receive items that were contrary to what you expected, make sure that you have a thankful heart.  They thought about you and gave you something that they thought you would like.  It’s nice to have expensive items, but expensive doesn’t always mean that it’s the best.  It just means that it costs a lot.  
  5. Let your communication be in a loving and uplifting manner.  Earlier I mentioned that you should pour into other people and you should.  However, you should also work on cultivating healthy relationships and conversations with other people in a loving and uplifting manner.  It is easy to get into an argument with someone during this time of year.  People are stressed about finances, relationships, health, and so much more.  They are even stressed because they feel like they should be happy and are not. Many people have lost a loved one, are experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts, feel lonely, and lost.  They may never tell us what they are experiencing, but we want the love of God to be shared in our lives, even more at this time of year.  In your relationships make a point to let people know that you care.  Your gift for them could just be a call or an email.  Try your hardest to make peace with all people and not to hold grudges within your heart.  Remember the “Reason” for the season and share the love of God with others and with yourself.  

 I hope that you found this encouraging.  I pray that God would help you see the multitude of ways that you can walk as a woman of wisdom during this season.  Be blessed. 

7 Quotes the Inspire Healthy Marriages

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As a married woman of today, I’m sure that you’ve noticed the trend that I have noticed.  More people are getting divorced, separated, and remaining single.  There are more people encouraging us to take care of ourselves than there are inspiring us to nurture our marriages and relationships with our husbands.  People want us to be busy fulfilling our roles outside of the home, in ministry, and in the community, but often times the calling of wife goes without encouragement.  There are many reasons as to why this is so rampant, but today I want to encourage you with 7 quotes that inspire healthy marriages.  

Pulling Away to Scoot Closer

I’ve spent over 15 years with my husband and I know from experience that what I listen to, read, and pour into myself will affect my relationship with him.  If I am struggling within myself with issues, it takes a tole on my marriage.  If I am to busy cultivating other relationships and forget about my husband, our relationship will feel distant.  However, when I am balanced in my efforts and attentive to his needs, the needs of our marriage, and my call as a wife, our relationship blossoms.  

Let’s be honest.  Sometimes we get to busy to stop and think about what we could be doing to make our marriages better.  We get too busy parenting and doing other things.  When we go to bed at night, it is too easy to lie down next to our husbands, while on the phone, watching television, or even reading a book, all the while forgetting that there is someone next to us that we need to connect with.  We have to be attentive and conscious of this and force ourselves to turn off the devices, put away the book, remove any fear, and turn to that man to just spend sometime cuddling.  Who knows where that will lead, but quality time is what your marriage needs. 

Today, I want you to spend sometime reading and pondering over these quotes.  Make sure that you consider every detail of what is being said.  Prayerfully dissect the statements and figure out how you can apply them to your life and marriage.  

Love Your Husband

7 Quotes that Inspire Healthy Marriages

  1. “A great marriage is mostly about two people committing to each other and then employing principles such as love, acceptance, patience, forgiveness, sacrifice, and unselfishness, to enrich that committed relationship.  Marriage is more about work that divine luck, more about finding someone to love than about finding someone to meet your laundry list of personal needs.”  ~Mark Gungor from Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
  2. ” I can honestly say that I have become a better wife -and a better Christian- when I became a better helper.  Realizing I am on assignment from God to help my husband opened my eyes.  According to God’s plan I was not to compete with Jim.  Instead, I am to be solidly behind him and supportive of him.  He is the one who is supposed to win, and I am supposed to help make his victory possible.”  ~Elizabeth George from A Woman After God’s Own Heart
  3. “What your husband wants is your acknowledgement that he is the leader, the one in authority.  This is not to grind you under or treat you as inferior.  It is only to say that because God has made your husband responsible (review Ephesians 5:25-33), he needs the authority to carry out that responsibility.  No smoothly running organization can have two heads.  To set up a marriage with two equal at the head is to set it up for failure.  That is one of the big reasons that people are divorcing right and left today.  In essence, the marriages do not have anyone who is in charge.  God knew someone had to be in charge, and that is why Scripture clearly teaches that in order for things to work, the wife is called upon to defer to her husband.  Wives often tell me that if they submit to their husbands, it means burying their brains and becoming a doormat.  If you want to work with your husband to reach mutually satisfying decisions most of the time, follow this principle:  GO ON RECORD WITH YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU SEE HIM AS HAVING 51 PERCENT OF THE RESPONSIBILITY AND THEREFORE, 51 PERCENT OF THE AUTHORITY.  Tell Him that you see him as having more authority because he has more responsibility before God -the responsibility to die for you, if necessary.  My prediction is that the nature of your arguments and disagreements will change dramatically.  Once you go on record about his authority, he will not feel you are trying to be the boss.  As you submit (which simply means recognizing his biblically given authority), you will not be a doormat.     ~Dr. Emerson Eggeriches from Love & Respect
  4. “You don’t have to agree with your partner to be a good listener.”  ~Markman, Stainley, and Blumberg from Fight for Your Marriage
  5. “See, marriages have issues because there are two people involved, growing together.  If there were never issues, someone should be concerned because that would mean that stagnation is present.  Marriage makes you better and it makes him better too.  Just look at the issues, chew up the meat and spit out the bones because some of it is just hogwash.”  ~Makeda Rodriguez from Being Mrs. Mom: A Christian Woman Wife and Mother Living in the 21st Century
  6. “People who stay married live four years longer than people who don’t”  ~John M Gottman, PH. D., from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
  7. “Taking Time to listen means putting aside your plans and concentrating on what the other person has to say.  Don’t get defensive if he or she wants to point out a short coming.  If you do the other person will stop being honest and communication is lost.”  ~Phil & Susy Downer from Optimize Your Marriage

These are just a few quotes from the books that I have in my personal library.  I would encourage you to purchase and read them.  Also pray over these quotes and ask God to help you understand the message at their core.  Seek to grow as a woman, so that you can be a better wife.  

My prayer for you is that God would give both you and your husband godly influences that would inspire you to cultivate a long and healthy marriage.  

10 Keys to Making Your Marriage Last

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Have you ever wondered how to make your marriage last?  I’m sure that if you have been married for any more than a day, you have asked yourself if there are things that you can do to make your marriage successful.  You could figure this out by yourself.  However, I would recommend that you learn from others that have established long-lasting marriages themselves.  My husband and I have been married for over 15 years and, although we are not experts on every marriage, we have learned quite a few things that make us experts in our marriage.   I’d say that we are strong bond marriage practitioners.  The keys that we have learned and shared with other couples, have help them grow in their marriages, over the years.  Today, I’d like to share 10 keys to making your marriage last.

Why you shouldn’t just figure it out on your own

I’m sure that I’ve shared this with you before, but when I was a young adult, I had this idea that I wanted to learn from my own mistakes and not from other people.  I was convinced that learning from other people would somehow mess up the understanding that I had for my own life.  I want to be honest with you, that was not wise thinking.  It is best to learn from the mistakes of others, that it is to learn from personal pain, struggles, and trauma.  However, I had to learn this the hard way.

If I were wiser in the early years of my marriage, I would have sought wise counsel regarding the role of a married Christian woman.  When I say this, you may think that I mean, I would have talked to women that I knew, so that I could do life better.  However, that is not what I mean.  Looking back on my early years of marriage, I would have prayed more, studied the word of God more, and sought the counsel of wise women who had been in and still remained in lasting godly marriages.  I would have watched the more and asked more questions of these women.  Instead, I spent at least three years of my marriage trying to figure it out on my own.  Those three years were really hard for me because I was stuck in my own way. I wanted to learn from my own mistakes.  

I was constantly saying things like, “that may have worked for you, but I don’t think it will work for me.”  I didn’t know that there are specific keys to making marriage last that are applicable to every marriage.  I had to learn this the hard way, through my mistakes and trial and error. 

You don’t want to make this same mistake.  Trust me.  It took a lot of praying, crying, and painful lessons to get these principles into my mind and heart.  You don’t want to sit up late at night feeling rejected because you weren’t willing to seek God and wise godly counsel about your situation.  You don’t want to experience heart ache and pain because you have chosen to learn the hard way, through your own mistakes.  You don’t want to reject wisdom. 

What does the Bible say about seeking wise counsel?

You may think that seeking counsel will mean that all of the intimate intricacies of your relationship will be exposed to another person and uncover your relationship.  However, you need to understand that you must have someone to talk to.  You must have someone who is willing to hold what you tell them in confidence, pray for you, and offer you wise counsel.  This person must also be willing to hold you accountable for your part in your marriage.  She has to exhibit fruit in her own marriage that tell you she is a godly woman of wisdom that can teach you how to love and respect your husband.  She must be able and willing to help you be self-controlled, pure, a homemaker, kind, and submissive to your own husband.  (Titus 2:4-5)

If you still aren’t convinced that you should seek counsel from other trustworthy, godly women, take a look at what the bible says. 

Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel,”

Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise.”

Proverbs 19:20 “Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days.”

Proverbs 20:18 “Plans are established by counsel; by wise counsel wage war.”

Proverbs 24:6 “For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, and a multitude of counselors there is safety.”

I pray that you take into consideration what the Word of God is saying about the value of godly wisdom.  It is a necessity to a successful life and marriage.  

10 Keys to Making Marriage Last

Now that you have an understanding of what the Bible says about wise godly counsel and the risk that you take in learning from your own mistakes, I hope that you are ready to receive these keys that my husband and I have learned over the years.  We have to continually apply these keys because being married doesn’t make being married easier.  

Life adds pressure and stretches us as people.  If we want to remain married, we have to pray and work harder to remain married.  I say this because I don’t want you to think that once you start applying these keys, that you will be able to sleep on the enemy of our souls and marriages.  Satan will continually try to ambush your marriage, but you have to be wise and prayerful.  You have to continually invite God into your marriage, bedroom, and your heart.  Take authority over what is not like God, rebuking it from your relationship, and use the keys that He gives you for success in your marriage.  

A lot goes in to making marriage last.  Start with these 10 keys and watch your marriage begin to transform.  You may not like all of these keys, but they are affective and will help your marriage last, if you are prayerful in applying them.  

1) Remember that you husband loves you

2) Decided that you don’t always have to be right

3) Spend time, just being there, with your husband

4) Commit to being silent sometimes

5) Never go to bed angry and always say goodnight 

6) Commit to frequent occasions of intimacy with your husband

7) Don’t forget to laugh

8) Say thank you and express your gratitude in different ways 

9) Determine in your mind that you can take constructive criticism from your husband 

10) Challenge him and require him to challenge you. 

Bonuses: 11) Commit to remain married and never stop praying

I pray that you found these helpful and will prayerfully apply these 10 keys to making your marriage last to your marriage.  If you have any questions or comments, I’m just a message away, so don’t hesitate to reach out.  

 

In the Word of God on Marriage

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As married women, we have our opinions of marriage.  We’ve seen movies, read stories, and talked to people that all influence our thoughts and opinions of marriage.  We all want to be successful in our marriage, but it’s important that we take time to get in the word of God on marriage.  For that reason, we are going to take the time to look at some scriptures on marriage. 

Please know that I will not be going through all of the Scriptures on marriage, but we will be looking at quite a bit of them.  

My Hope for You

It is my hope that you will find encouragement for your marriage journey, by knowing that marriage is good; you will come to understand the obligation of marriage, and find clarity in what God expects from you as a godly wife.  

Why Get in the Word of God on Marriage

As you may know, I’ve been married for over 15 years now.  When my husband and I first got married, I had no idea what marriage was supposed to look like, let alone, what it meant to be in a godly marriage, as a godly woman and wife.  I had a very worldly mindset about our relationship.

I was a believer in both marriage and divorce.  I was confused.  I was afraid of being cheated on, beaten, abused, stepped on and walked over, as a doormat.  My fear of being hurt and rejected left little room for love, trust, and approval.  Still, I desperately wanted my marriage to work.  

It wasn’t until I committed to learning what God had to say on the matter and allowing that to change my mind, that my marriage was transformed.  

An invitation to renew your mind and transform your marriage

I invite you to take the same stance, as we head through these Scriptures on marriage.

Commit to learning or refreshing your memory, on what God has to say about the matter.  Also determine within yourself that you will allow the word of God to change your mind, if your mindset is contrary to the word of God.  

Finally, determine that you will do what the word of God says.

James 1:22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.  

What does the Word of God Say?

Marriage is a good thing

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:12 Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

1 Timothy 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

In the Bible, marriage is seen as a good thing.  It is honorable.  It is a sign of favor from the Lord and an honor of leadership to men. The marriage bed is a place of pleasure and a blessing from the Lord.  It was also encouraged for young women to get married.  

The solemn obligation of marriage

The Bible tells us about the solemn obligation of marriage.   According to Macmillan Dictionary  in legal matters, this phrase is used “about things such as promises that express serious intentions.”  An example of this is “Congress has a solemn obligation to vote on any commitment of US troops.”(Macmillan Dictionary) 

When we look at the solemn obligation of marriage, we must understand what the word of God is saying about the legality of the promises made in marriage and what it hold us bound to do.  In short, the bible tells us the above all there is one thing that we are supposed to do in marriage, remain as one.  There are other things, but this is one of the top priorities.  

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Let’s look at at a Biblical situation that is similar to what is mentioned in a few of the scriptures above.  

When the giant, Goliath, was terrorizing the Hebrews and no man would go up against him, Saul declared that whoever defeated him would marry his daughter, Merab.  After killing Goliath, Merab was offered to David, but he felt unworthy of becoming the king’s son-in-law.  However, Saul’s other daughter Michal, loved David.  Saul thought that she would bring David trouble, so he had David convinced to marry her.   Later, Saul sent men to kill David, but Michal helped him escape through a window.  In 1 Samuel 25:44, Michal was taken from David and given to a man named Palatial.  However, after Saul’s death, David demanded to have his wife back.  It was the only way that he would agree to be the king of Judah. (2 Samuel 3:13-16)  In verse 16, her current husband had to return her and “went alone with her to Bahurim, weeping behind her.”  After he returned her, he was sent back on his way.  

Regardless of what you think of marriage or what your opinion is, it is important that you subject your thoughts to the word of God.  By reading these scriptures, we see that God expects us to honor our promise to remain one in marriage.  We are not expected to divorce or separate. 

Duty of Godly Wives

While there are many different elements that make up the duties of godly wives, below are the ones that directly stand out regarding the woman’s role in her home and marriage. (We can examine others at another time.)

Esther 1:20 And when the king’s decree which he shall make shall be published throughout all his empire, (for it is great,) all the wives shall give to their husbands honour, both to great and small.

Proverbs 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

1 Corinthians 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

Ephesians 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

In these scriptures we see that God desires that a woman honors her husband, regardless of his stature.  She is to take care of her household and not to be lazy and idle.  She should not leave her husband.  She is expected submit to him, as she would the Lord.  She is to have characteristics that are reverent and honorable, so that if a man (her husband) needs to be turned to God, his wife would be the one to do it, respectfully and humbly. 

I don’t know if you can see it, but we as wives are to be intercessors for our husbands and respectful in character, so that we are vessels of honor before the Lord.   Please don’t take any of this to mean that we are to be treated wrong or disrespected.  God has answers for all of our troubles, but we have to start somewhere.  

We cannot read the whole Bible at one time.  

For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little: ~Isaiah 28:10

We must take in the information little by little.  

Overall

There are many things that can be and are said about marriage.  Most of the time, we hear what the world has to say.  It is all fluff and feeling.  What I have learned over the years is that marriage isn’t always about how you feel.  Love is an action word.  When my husband and I took action and got married, we vowed before God that we would remain together and be there for one another until we died.  

Some people may not wholeheartedly believe these vows to be true because of the culture, but if they are like I was, a lover of God, then their minds must change.  I had to change my mind, commitment level, and own up to my responsibility.  No, I cannot change my husband.  It took a long time to learn that, but God has a plan for my husband and I’m apart of it.  He is also a part of my becoming. 

Today we are better because we have remained together and God is with us. This is where the transformation takes place.  It starts in the mind and heart of an individual and then seeps into the marriage because you are in it.  If you allow the word and God to change you, your marriage will transform, as well.  

My husband said something to another family member that blew me away.  I had felt it, but wasn’t able to articulate it.  Once he said it, I knew that it was true and what I had been thinking all along.  He said that “we are family and we have a responsibility to one another.” 

This is the sum of it all.  Marriage can be many things, but one that it definitely is, needs to be recognized.  It is a blessed responsibility to be and become, never be alone, and discover God’s will and love you and your husband.  

I challenge you to read over these scriptures, ask God to help you accept His will, His word, and, if necessary, your husband.  

If you would like to be added to my prayer list for marriage, please send me an email or submit a comment below.  You can email me at makeda@beingmrsmom.com 

I hope and pray that you found these scriptures beneficial and that your marriage would be blessed, in the Lord.  

Who is Building Your House?

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When you look around at the world that we live in, we see that there are a lot of things that you and I could be busy doing.  We want our homes, relationships, and careers to be full and satisfying, but there is something that I want to ask you.  Who is building your house?  

Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who builds it; Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.

Before you and I ever set foot on this earth, God had a plan for our lives.  He determined the year that we would be born and the year that our children would be born.  He decided who we would marry and the people we would be in relationship with.  He determined what our hands would be busy doing and the work that we would accomplish.  Still, He has given us the ability to walk in His will and purpose for Him, or not.

If you are like me, then you want for your home, relationships, and career to be blessed, but how did you answer the question above?  Who is building your house? 

Inviting God Into Your Life

You can want all of the things that you want, but God is the builder who has the plan of how your life should be established in order for it to work in a magnificent way.  Have you invited Him into every area of you life, or are there specific areas that He isn’t allowed to enter into? 

For some people the answer is yes, but for others, God is not welcome because control has not been given over to Him.  Which category do you fall in?

Is He welcome in your personal life?

Do you allow God to examine your thoughts and emotions?  Have you invited Him into the spaces of your mind that occupy you on a daily basis?  Do you share, with Him, your concerns and fears and allow Him to tell you how to overcome them?  Do you invite him into your choices? Before you take a drink, get a tattoo, purchase a car, or even watch a movie; do you allow Him to be in the process of your decisions?

Yes, He sees all that you do and think, but He is not going to over power you, so that you can be free.  He already sent Jesus to die on the cross for your mental and emotional freedom.  Have you accepted it?  Are you willing to turn away from the things that invite sickness, disease, and depression into your life?  Have you told your flesh “no” and the Lord “yes?” 

Has the Lord been invited into your marriage?

Did God get an invitation to your wedding?  After the wedding, was He allowed to stay and dwell there?  Or is your marriage a place where God is not welcome to interfere?  One way to tell this is if you find that you only talk to God about what your husband does, but you don’t listen to the Lord tell you what you have done and how to fix it.  Your ability to trust God in your marriage is a direct indicator of whether or not you have invited Him into it.  

If you want your marriage to work, it has to be built on a solid foundation and the Lord has to be the One that is giving out the orders. 

What about motherhood?  Have you given God permission to help you be a mother?

Frustration can set in, when a mother doesn’t have patience or is trying in her own strength to mother her children.  The reason why is that a mother is not the creator of her children.  Although she birthed them, she did not design them, so there are aspects of her children that she must learn to navigate and direct.  However, while you are learning to help and assist your children in life, have you sought God about what is best for them?

Have you told God that you want to be the type of mother that He designed you to be or are you just being the type of mother that you want to be?  You have to make a decision and it’s an important one.  You have to decide to be an instrument and vessel of God in the lives of your children.  They were given to you as a blessing, but you have to be willing to be a good stewart over what God has given you.  

Is it too much for you to ask God to give you patience and direction, so that you can be a mother that builds her children up and gives them wisdom?

Don’t forget about your career.

In the world, you and I are told that we can be whatever we want to be.  What we don’t normally hear is that we can and should be in the place and position that God has called us to.  We aren’t built up to be the type of women that God has designed us to be.  

Because of this lack of encouragement, it’s not hard to take the wheel of the career field and steer it in the direction of our liking.  Have you surrendered your dream to God, so that He could tell you which ones He cosigned on?  Have you stopped long enough to hear Him direct you?  Do you have too much noise playing in the background, so that you cannot hear Him?  You have to be intentional about not avoiding what is important.

Let the Lord build your house

God’s will and purpose for you is important.  You and I should want Him to be involved in our lives, in every way possible.  This cannot happen without an invitation.  

If you believe in Jesus, then you have already believed him for your salvation, but did you make him your Lord?  Are you giving him first place and rulership over every area of who you are and what you do?

You don’t want to be the person that is doing things without asking God to be with you.  You don’t want to find yourself in a place where you are struggling because you got into something that God did not call you to get into.  Now all things work together for our good, but you still have to go through, if you are disobedient.  

Allow the Lord to establish the framework for the buildings in your life, so that as you build, your labor will not be in vain.  

His Thinks of You

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth” and You were on His mind. 

When His Spirit hovered over the deep, He look to a place where you could place your feet, 

A place for your to sleep, 

But there was none, so He made it. 

When He stared out into the abyss, 

the void, the darkness, 

He knew the harshness of how life would try to overwhelm you

So…He said “Let there be light” and there was light, so that the darkness would not overtake you

As the waters ran and flowed with no end in sight, 

God made it right 

Because He wanted you to have dry land. 

He wanted to remind you that He thinks of you more than the grains of sand, 

upon the earth

He wanted you to remember your worth

He gave the sun and the moon, the trees and the seas

And all have their boundaries 

Because He wanted you to rule and reign and your desires to be fulfilled by the fruit that came 

from the earth

So, why do you question your worth? 

In the beginning God and the Holy Spirit and Jesus our Christ, 

thought of you

Were concerned about your life

So they place everything in perfect order

It’s all for your daughter

And because He knew that evil would come, 

He sent His Son 

upon the earth

Begotten of Him, a virgin birth

Born to fulfill all of His promises to me and to you

Yes you!

He did this all for you because He loves you 

He delights in you

He thinks great thoughts of you

So just love Him and be the person that He created you to be

I can only be I and you cannot be me

Nor can I be you

But that’s because God doesn’t want us as an imitation

He chooses His people, calls us a royal priest hood, a holy nation

But you have to begin to see it

You have to make sure that you believe it

My prayer is that He would help you understand

That your name is written on the palm of His hand

He dances over you with singing

Yes! Your life is filled with meaning

So don’t give up

I know times get hard

But remember that you’re never alone

You have your God

And He thinks of you

 

I have created a quick video of this encouragement.  Listen to me read this poem and be encouraged.  You are loved.  If you enjoyed the video, subscribe to my Youtube channel, leave me a comment below, and give God glory for who He is.